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Facebook Predators with HG Tudor's Comments
Online Support Groups
Knowing the Narcissist
Special thanks to Mr. HG Tudor for his assistance with this article by contributing his beneficial and validating comments which are below this article. Following this article is also a video by Mr. Tudor on Online Predators, and further down, a link to his interactive blog site.
Narcissist Abuse Syndrome
Facebook Online Support Groups for Narcissist Victims can be an Abuser’s Paradise. Narcissists can find valuable supply and fuel via vulnerable, and recently traumatized victims. I have personally experienced this entire circus performance from these masked deceivers, and could compose a lengthy, and concise account on the dark details that occurred in this particular Secret Facebook “Support Group” for Narcissist Abuse Victims, that was "heroically" run by actual Narcissists, and their tag-along minions. But, I have no intent, whatsoever, in exposing anyone, as this is not my purpose. I only wish to write for the sake of helping others to become more aware of the dangers regarding these deceptive entities administrating online support groups.
Victims of Narcissist Abuse are usually extremely vulnerable before they have begun their healing process, and even when in the early stages of recovery, and beyond.
Idealization - The Good?
When a victim, who has recently been discarded by a Narcissist, and left with the painful void from dependency, that a relationship with a Narcissist can bring about, is fed the delicious substance needed to fulfill this ravenous hunger, via an online support group administered by Narcissists, it can feel not only relieving, but extraordinary! Frankly, the lure of the possibility at replenishing this stark emptiness, by anyone, or anything, after having been completely separated from the Narcissist, is akin to receiving "that next fix". This is how intense the victim's dependence to the Narcissist can actually be.
Hence, when a recent victim comes upon one of these pseudo online support groups, which are administered by actual Narcissists, he/she might begin to believe that they have met their perfect family, via the amazingly interactive Administrators. And, of course, the "support group" reiterates these feelings by idealizing the victim with statements including, "We missed you so much while you were gone for those entire two days, in fact, one of the Administrators was actually thinking about leaving the group if you hadn't come back to rejoin us!" Or, "Everyone here just loves your wonderful company, and your knowledgeable input!" Or even, "We would like you to join us, and actually be an Administrator, too!"
Idealization, Devaluation, and Discard
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Devaluation - The Bad
Of course, when the Devaluation Phase of the "support group's" behavior comes riding in on its thick-snouted warthog, is the precise time when those same vulnerabilities and voids which were formerly tended to, so exquisitely, will be attacked with insidious, but exceedingly painful blows of damaging abuse tactics including, Triangulation, Purposeful Neglect, (a stark contrast from the outpouring of previous attention that the victim was deliberately receiving while being groomed by this "support group"), Bullying, Twisting of Words, Blaming, Shaming, "Under the Radar" Manipulation, ETC., so as to entirely break down the victim's spirit, in the same manner as was done so by his/her former Narcissist.
Instantaneous blocking, (without being given a reason why the victim was blocked), and/or enduring the intimidating experience of having the other Administrators gang up on the targeted individual, and possibly even going as far as attempting to smear the victim’s reputation, (Smear Campaign), all are abusive tactics of which could begin occurring in the Devaluation Phase, after the initial Idealization Phase, (when the target was being handsomely groomed), true to the "three-step" abuse pattern seen with a singular Narcissist: 1). Idealization, 2). Devaluation, 3). The Discard.
Of course, there are sincere online support groups out there which offer invaluable enlightenment, and insight into the confusing deceptions, and mind games, in which Narcissists are commonly known to undertake, as well as offering comforting, and validating fellowship with others who have also been in these types of horrific, abusive relationships.
Discard - The Ugly
In the Discard Stage, the corrupt "support group" Narcissistic Administrators, might viciously gang up on the targeted individual, and single this person out, ostracizing him/her for the most, intangible, minute reasons, so as to induce the confused victim to leave the “support group” on their own, so that the abusers can protect themselves, if questioned later on, by arrogantly stating, "Well, ("so, and so") didn’t get kicked out, rather, they left by their own choice, and was really an overly-emotional person to begin with." (Baiting is previously carried out, in this scenario, so as to get the victim's desired emotional reactions, and thus, further exploiting the victim's responses through the commonly used Narcissist's textbook Gaslighting technique).
Den of Wolves
Thrill of The Chase
The vicious entities, on these particular support groups, might even boast of their careers, outside of Facebook, as Domestic Violence Advocates, Volunteers for Abuse Victims, Relationship Advisers, and many other endless "helping occupations" of interest, which makes their abuse that much more confusing, and disorienting, to the targeted individual. It is actually a wake-up call into the dark reality of that, in which corrupt "online support" groups are not only readily capable of carrying out upon vulnerable victims, but thoroughly relish, with ruthless exhilaration, as they cunningly proceed undetected by the majority.
HG Tudor's Observations
Below are Mr. H.G. Tudor's observations concerning Facebook Online Support Groups:
"The various FB support groups are curious places indeed. I have sat in the shadows of several observing the behaviours of those who post there in order that I might learn more about the behaviours of my kind, and that of the victims. I have the following observations:
* These groups are hunting grounds for our kind (Narcissists and Sociopaths). They are chock-full of emotional, desperate people and it is like shooting fish in a barrel. Indeed, your own experience, Tamara, is testimony to this.
* There are a lot of bullies in these places. Some are Narcissists, and others are "holier than thou" victims who believe if someone tries to understand the Narcissist's perspective, then they must be a Narcissist, as well, and they jump on that person. I find that pathetic." H.G. Tudor
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