Decisions and Choices: The Vagueness of Right and Wrong
turn, or be forced down the wrong path due to circumstances - i.e., people who think they know what's best for you while ignoring your wishes. However, no one truly knows what the future holds for any of us, so those people are probably every bit as clueless as you are. What you think is the right choice for you may not be the same as what they think is right for you, but there is no absolute right or wrong choice - just whatever you end up choosing and the results that follow, for better or for worse. No one can make your own decisions for you no matter how much they try to control your life, but they will still judge you either way.
The words "right" and "wrong" are about as vague as "good" and "bad," and unfortunately the sets are often interchangeable. Therefore, we are conditioned to learn from an early age that right answers are rewarded and wrong answers are punished. This method is used in behavior modification, but too often it is applied in the classroom to get students more motivated to study and get the right answers. Whether or not the desired result is achieved, there are emotional side effects that should not go unnoticed. Although answering or choosing incorrectly does not make someone a bad person, this psychological strategy can make a person feel this way. This is especially true if teachers like you better if you get straight A's as opposed to a mix of lower grades. If they dislike a person who is almost always failing, it might be because that person really isn't trying or is making them look bad. Some don't take grades into consideration and like you based on your personality, but they don't teach personality in school so it's a crapshoot. The truth is that good people make mistakes and should not be made to feel ashamed - just because you are bad at something does not make you a bad person overall. Unfortunately, however, if you are bad at something that people value, then you are of no value to them. You might want to avoid these people whenever possible. However, it's pretty difficult to avoid the whole world.
Some adults complain that young people are always asking "what's next?" They say kids these days are just after the next big thing, wanting to jump the next hurdle after they have just cleared the first one. That's how society as a whole has become, actually, so don't blame the kids. Lately, it seems that the adults are the ones asking their children "what's next?" after they have completed something. It's especially tough on people my age who are part of the so-called "lost generation" because there are no jobs for us. After three years of almost nothing after my college graduation, I'm sick of hearing "what's next?" as I desperately search for jobs and cry myself to sleep at night when I come up empty-handed. I don't see myself as a bad person, but if there's one thing I learned in psychology class, it's that how others see you tends to be just as important as - if not more important than - how you see yourself.
Facebook is not a good indicator of a person's candidacy for a job and should not be used against them. If that counted as a valid source of information, they should have you fill out a personality test along with the job application. Social media have become a hub for advertising and business, but when I first heard of it after high school graduation, I thought it was just for keeping in touch with friends who have moved on and far away. The corporations have corrupted its purpose. People are entitled to their personal lives, so potential employers should not judge you on a personal level. That's why professional and personal lives are kept separate - who you are in your off-hours is bound to be different than who you are at work. It's not fair if you have to pretend to be someone you're not 24/7 in order to get a job. It would be better if employers accepted us for who we are, but they're too preoccupied with hunting down that perfect employee we all pretend to be but cannot hope to measure up to because it doesn't exist.
In conclusion, we are all works in progress. Often the decisions we make do not pan out, and it is not always our fault or anyone else's. That does not make us right, wrong, good, or bad. Other people have no right to judge you for your mistakes or decisions that they disagree with. We all must live at our own pace, make our own decisions, and respect each other for doing the same.