Discover the Winner inside You: Be Successful in Your Job!
Preparing for the war
“It is as natural for a human being to develop and achieve his full potential as it is for an acorn to grow into a majestic oak tree .” – Aristotle
For being successful in life we should first try to assess our potential, that is, our suitability for a particular job. It is very important, because none of us can do anything or everything. A successful writer can’t be a successful salesman and a successful scientist can’t be successful in acting in movies.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
After assessing your potential for a particular job all you need is developing a habit of winning. Habit equals passion plus attitude. Your passion will help you to set goals and your attitude will help you to achieve the goals.
Our character, basically, is a composition of our habits. “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny”, the maxim goes.
Habits are powerful factors in our lives. Well we can define habit a bit differently too. Habit is the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire. Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the ‘what to do’ and ‘why’. Skill is the ‘how to do’ part and desire is the motivation, the ‘want to do’ part. In order to make something a habit in our lives we have to have all three.
Actually what I explained about attitude is nothing but knowledge and skill put together. And passion is equivalent to desire.
So habit can be defined in two ways:
- Habit = Passion + Attitude
- Habit = Knowledge + Skill + Desire
Relation between the two equations:
Passion equivalents Desire.
Attitude equivalents Knowledge plus Skill.
Winning the war
Now the question is if I develop a habit that is necessary for winning, will I emerge as the winner for a lifetime? The answer is no. Winning for the long term on sustainable basis is all about consistency. You’ve to win the small battles to win the war. Although it is not necessary to win every battle to win the war, you must win most of them.
We possess two identities within ourselves, Self-1 and Self-2. Let me illustrate this with the example of a tennis player. Seeking to improve the game, the player gradually becomes aware of a continuous commentary going inside his head as he plays – Come on, get your racket back quickly – here comes another high backhand like the one you missed last time... Oh! You missed it again!
There are two identities within the player – one is playing the game (Self-2) and the other is telling him how (Self-1). Self-1 is verbal and conceptual, capable of understanding the rules for any task. It is also judgmental – fond of deciding what’s good and bad. Self-2 is the complex combination of mind, senses, nerves and muscles that make possible the accomplishment of any activity. Self-1 decides whether or not you learn to play tennis or sell a computer, Self-2 will do the learning and ultimately, the performing. Self-1 is the knower and Self-2 is the doer. The problem is to maintain a balance between the two.
You can win the battles consistently only when you learn to balance your two selves at the time of performing your job. Assume you’ve taken a decision to become a writer after assessing your true potential; you’ve set high targets because you’re passionate about writing. Then based on your attitude you’ve started writing.
While writing you suddenly notice that your mind is bothering about the subject, the content, the title and it seems nothing is right. Then you keep on thinking can you impress your readers, if not what will happen and blab blah and this creates confusion and your concentration breaks. This is your Self-1. Your Self-2 is busy in writing despite being disturbed by Self-1. But it is obvious your writing quality will get affected if such hammering goes on.
Self-1, the knower inside us is highly critical, often gives up completely on Self-2, the doer, saying, “You can’t do anything right.” This is wrong. Far from criticizing Self-2, Self-1 should stand back in awe of human capacity. How do you learn to trust Self-2? By practice, of course, let go and let it happen. Focus on here and now. Don’t worry about winning and don’t question your potential. You’ve joined the job after assessing your potential, then why question it all the time?
This is why you become inconsistent after starting with so much preparation and enthusiasm. You’ve to stop the fight between Self-1 and Self-2. It needs constant practice to control your mind and concentrate in your job. Success will certainly follow and you’ll gain confidence. The more confidence you gain the more your Self-1 will trust Self-2. One day you’ll find that your Self-1 and self-2 have become friends and both of them are saluting the winner inside you!