Does Homeschool Ruin Social Interaction??!!
Homeschoolers vs. Public schoolers
Many people would like to reason that homeschooling stalls social growth and cause students to become socially awkward. As a home school student myself, I went researching online to see what others thought and it was interesting to see what type of studies had been done before.
Moving on, according to an article written by PBS, a study conducted in 2000 by a Seattle Discovery Institute, counselors watched both home-schooled and public schooled children play. The counselor's goal was to tell the children apart by the way they acted, however, they could not, although it was noted that some of the home-schooled children were more well behaved.
Furthermore, home-schooled students who went to college felt disconnected from their peers, not because they were shy, but because they felt more mature. While other college students were partying, some home-schooled students felt above that because they had decided they were more focused and didn't see the appeal of partying. In the article PBS interviewed Kate Fridkis, who was home-schooled until college, who noted that “The environment was a little bit childish,” she remembers. “So many kids just wanted to drink and party. … I already knew who I was, and knew what I was interested in.”
In 2007, Rachel Gathercole wrote the book "The Well-adjusted Child: The Social Benefits of Homeschooling." It was an interesting find that I did not know existed, I myself did not read the complete book. However, this could be a great way for people who do not completely understand home school and socialization while in home school, to get a better grasp on what goes on. The book was given a three point eight out of five on Goodreads and four point five stars on Amazon.
Reviewers have raved about the book and its contents, one reviewer stated, "I thought an interesting point made was that what a lot of people are actually worried about when they worry about homeschooled kids and use the term socialization, is: are they cool? Do they "fit in" to normal society? But, she points out, is "normal" society healthy right now? Look at divorce rates, look at drugs/alcohol, suicide rates, materialism.... Do we want our kids to be "normal" according to those standards?"
The book makes an interesting point in describing that parents want their children to be cool and fit in, but doesn't that seem to be a bigger issue? The author also uses statistics and facts to provide depth and back up her statements.
According to educationandbehavior.com “Several studies found no significant difference in the social skills of homeschooled and non-homeschooled students. Other studies found that homeschooled children score significantly higher on social development rating scales/questionnaires. For instance, one study using the Vineland Adaptive Behavior Scale, a well-tested diagnostic tool for measuring communication and daily living skills, found that homeschooled students substantially outperformed traditionally schooled students. The average overall score for the homeschooled children on communication, daily living skills, socialization, and social maturity subscales was at the 84th percentile compared to the 23rd percentile for the traditionally schooled students."
Those facts alone should disprove that homeschooling causes social awkwardness and halts social growth. It is a matter of perception of whether your social aptitude is determined by if you are home-schooled or go to a brick and mortar school. Psh, if only I could show those stats to all of the strangers who used to ask me how I made friends.
Being socially awkward is also defined as dyssemia which is "a difficulty with receptive and/or expressive nonverbal communication." Which can be caused by various things, such as lack of companionship as a child, which can be caused by not being surrounded by people at all. So, to sum this all up homeschooling may be the reason you are shy. If you are the type of person who has never had social connections or interaction with peers because of home-school, then you can definitely pinpoint that to be the reason you have a bit of social anxiety. On the other hand, if you are able to connect with others while being home-schooled but are shy around new people then that is something you can overcome, something that everyone goes through and can experience.
Do you think home-school students tend to be more shy?
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