Ending GOLIATH: A Closer Look on Bullying
No more passive bystanders...let's put an end to bullying.
Ending GOLIATH: A Closer Look on Bullying
Bullying has been considered as a major problem in the schools and even in the work place having an immense impact on individuals if left unaddressed. Numerous studies have been done to end bullying, but it seems like it is an imperishable issue that must be a part of the society. Ammermueller (2012) has regarded bullying as a problem all over the world which puts at stake school-age learners' physical, emotional and social well-being. However, its forms have continued to multiply and to grow as time goes by. Bullying appears to be a serious problem especially in schools in all parts of the world that it ends up affecting the overall well-being and academic performance of the students. Despite the endless battle to end this concern, it would still be valid to push the ending of bullying in all possible contexts.
Establishing the Argument
Bullying is causing negative actions and effect to another party. According to Ross (2002), it occurs when a student gets to have negative actions for multiple and repeated times. It is usually being done in person in the academic setting but got to transform as technology progressed. Right now, technology has allowed it to morph t o a different form making way for the existence of cyber bullying (Rivara & Le Menestrel, 2016). In this case, social media and different platforms are used to harass a person and this presents a different and a more modern version of the abuse originally encountered only at home.
Bullying can be found everywhere and excuses no one. According to Dickerson (2005), it starts at an early age and then progresses at the basic stage and then goes down by the secondary level. However, the case may be pervasive and may end up continuing up to several year levels and may continue in the same academic setting with the same victim and perpetrator if left unaddressed. It is regarded as a common form of violence not only in the academic setting but also in the workplace which becomes a way for people to think that their places are not safe anymore (Maliki et al, 2009). This comes in since multiple forms of abuse already take place.
Despite this issue being a part of every classroom and school, its ordinariness will not justify the impact that it may give to the students or the affected ones. Countless number of suicide and even suicide attempt as well as depression can be linked to bullying. This has heightened as the bully gets to go beyond the personal encounter as he/she can get to bother the person any time he/she wants through the power of the technology. This may even be done collectively despite distance and differences if the necessary is present – internet connection. This makes bullying more powerful and easier to do compared to how it was done without the aid of technology or social media.
Given this context, this paper intends to assert that bullying should end no matter what the circumstances are despite it appearing to be a natural phenomenon in various settings. Given the usual existence of the bully trying to overpower those whom they think they can abuse, the more effort should be exerted to stop bullying before it takes over the victim and the bully and scars them for the rest of their lives. It is an issue that administrators, parents, and other authoritative figure should not take easily as cases of bullying may elevate to more serious cases of abuses or even irreversible psychological and personality damage to the affected ones.
With the concern in bullying as highly prevalent, numerous studies have been done about it. It has been proven that bullying yielded adverse effects on the victims that may include negatively affected academic performance to engagement and interest in cosmetic surgery (Wagner, 2018). This only shows that the level of self-confidence of the victims declines as the negative actions done on him/her is repetitively done that it becomes already a part of the individual’s belief system.
Several programs have been done to prevent such case and studies were done to track the root of these bullying cases. According to VanDamme (2012) in his study, the intimidation, aggression, and acts of bullying originate from the lack of quality role model in the respective homes, negligence, and desire to get attention. From this perspective, it appears that the bully himself/herself need guidance and love as well. The perpetrator gets to do negative actions just to be noticed at school or by his/her parents. It is also a way to cover up an insecurity which has been affecting the person for quite some time.
People may consider public schools to be breeding ground for bullying. Others may also say that bullying is common that is should not be considered too much. However, another study presents results indicating that bullying exists in all schools whether private or government schools and impacts the academic achievement of the learners (Al-Raqqad, Al-Bourini, Al Talahanin, & Aranki, 2017). It shows that the acts of bullying consider no place and that its effect may significantly change the academic performance of the student down to his/her self-confidence and perception.
Aside from this point, a study raised that the students should not be on their own in dealing with the problems of bullying. Bennett (2009) showed through her study that all of the stakeholders and the concern aspects of learning and raising children should be involved in fighting bullying. The behavior of the children should be corrected immediately and ignoring the case will never work for both parties.
Lines of Argument
The concept the bullying should be ended roots from numerous reasons coming out to one major result – damage on the individual. Parents, teachers, administrators, and heads in education should investigate the following points as these appear to be the loose ends why bullying still happens until now. These are the major reasons why bullying should end not only in one place but all over the world.
With all the numerous reasons why bullying should be stopped, one of them is the psychological health of the victim. Bullying can be associated with depression in the long term (Wagner, 2018). According to studies, those who were bullied end up having depression and low self-esteem after the bullying incidents. This would lead to even more problematic situations in the future that even if they are adults already, they will more likely be mirroring the bullied self that they had in the past. Depression is another serious issue that should be taken seriously. Mental health is among the problems that are taken lightly by people. However, it should be recognized that depression can lead to death if one falls into the trap of killing oneself with the concept of hopelessness.
In alignment to this will be the cases of suicide. In United States, suicide due to bullying turns out to be the third highest cause of death among the adolescent and young people resulting to half a million children attempting to kill themselves every year (Paresky, 2016). This means these future successful people died along the way because the efforts were not maximized to prevent the bullying cases that they got into. This becomes prevalent as the bullied is secretly being tormented by the bully and nobody comes to rescue him/her. This will lead to depression and will then result to potential depression.
However, another issue which leads to suicide will be massive bullying that can be done through cyberbullying. Using social networking sites and massive efforts to humiliate the victim online, the issue of bullying spread all over the social media world that the issue gets worse. Many have killed themselves in encountering this kind of bullying which is prevalent in the society nowadays.
For those who may say that bullying is something that can be handled, it is something that should not be taken lightly since the people who died because of being bullied could not be resurrected anymore with such premise from people who never experienced the situation. Depression is serious enough, but the question arises with the concept that should death be still anticipated for things to be done about bullying incidents? This should not be tolerated possible.
Even if bullying is said to be normal, it should not be tolerated. As strongly emphasized earlier, nobody deserves to be treated badly. Bullying as something normal should be dismissed from the picture since the effect of bullying to the person may cause irreversible impacts which can already be in form of suicide. From killing oneself, there could nothing be done about it anymore that can help in the process of ending the bullying in general. A lot of people have died by taking their own lives because they were severely bullied but after such transpires, nothing seems to be done by the society. This should be changed because bullying should never be embraced as if it was something acceptable.
With this, numerous ways have been identified in dealing with bullying. Through these actions, bullying can at least be lessened if not totally eradicated. This would mean people saved from immense misery or tragedies that may arise from depression and even suicide. These ways to end suicide will result to better situations for both bullied and bullies if ever considered to be taken into action. This will also save parents from suffering from the loss of the children they raised and loved ever since they were babies.
Another way to prevent further bullying by equipping those in authority and in the situation with proper information. Professionals should provide seminars for both teachers and students about this concern (Rigby & Johnson, 2016). By knowing what to monitor and what to check on its initial stage, bullying can already be prevented before it even starts. Teachers once equipped with the appropriate ways to determine the problems will be able to protect those who must be protected. Protective factors tend to have positive relationships and higher levels of self-esteem (Herebron, 2012). Through this, the students will gain confidence and that they will not feel like they are alone especially when they are about to get bullied already. With them knowing what bullying is, they will more likely refrain from doing it upon making them realize what the fruit of their action will cause.
A way to deal with the bullying will include not giving the person a chance to bully. This will mean better monitoring of the children (Rigby & Johnson, 2016). By being strict and careful in dealing with the cases of bullying and with them knowing that such actions will not be tolerated, bullying can be ended. Through proper and better monitoring, what may appear to be impossible to hurdle can be overcome already through the eyes constantly looking at students who may have plans of victimizing those who they think are weaker than them.
Issues with communication have been seen to be a problem in the context of the making of a bully. Usually, the bully is the ignored or maltreated in their family who exhausts what he/she feels towards other through displacement. By doing this, the child gets the satisfaction which I not provided to him/her in her own house. With that, a way to eradicate this issue totally is for the parents to have better communication with their children. They should establish connections with their children as to avoid the emergence of the bully and for the bullied to be protected of abuse and negative impact (Whitson, 2014). By being updated with what the children feel and experiences every day, the parents will be aware if something wrong is happening with their children. This will also avoid producing bullies in the first place since the attention that they are thirsting about will be satiated with their parents’ love and attention. This may be easier said than done but why have children if the appropriate attention and care is not given in the first place? By parents doing what they must do, bullying can be stopped.
Bullying can be further stopped with enough information. Quicker identification of the problem will lead to an easier eradication of the issue (Rigby & Johnson, 2016). This will also mean that the authorities and figures with ascendancy should learn how to be keen about the issues that a worst outcome should not yet happen before the problem can be identified. Through proper actions before things get aggravated, the older people should do the appropriate actions.
Aside from this, the culture of being scared to report to bullying issue should be totally eradicated. Many victims will say that they will just be heard out but then the bullying will continue or become aggravated eventually. This is because the case is handled lightly. This would not happen if the act itself is treated as if it were a mortal sin to commit. This can be established if punitive measures on the bullies should be done more than encouragement of resilience (Rigby & Johnson, 2016). This will focus more on the setting of punishments which will make the bully stop from bullying ever and from the rest of the potential bullies from even attempting to bully. If the bullied will just be comforted and asked to be strong, it is just like asking the child to ready for more incidences of bullying. No resilience should be injected in his/her mind anymore because he/she is not bound to suffer anymore not is she made to experience more after the reporting has been done.
In alignment to this, the community should know what they would suffer from if they engage in bullying. The schools should post serious sanctions on cases of bullying (Rigby & Johnson, 2016). By doing this, the students will cancel out the concept of bullying before they even start. This will help prevent bullying, so this is already a form of ending bullying.
Another way to end bullying will be quick action from the people surrounding the victim. According to research, peers or friends who witness bullying in nine out of ten incidents are less likely to intervene during the cases of bullying (Whitson, 2014). If the friends of the victims will not just watch the perpetrators victimize their friends, bullying can be stopped. The problem comes in when the numerous friends also get scared with standing up against the bully wherein fact with the appropriate action, they can win from the bully itself.
However, the administrators should also install CCTV cameras and have viable sources in investigating the bullying cases. Through this, a fair judgment will be done. This will be impossible if the administrators will end up punishing both the bully and the victim who just tried to stand up for himself/herself. If the victim will know that he/she will be penalized from standing up against the bully, chances are he/she will just allow things to happen until the damage gets worse. There should be a careful and informed investigation of the cases and the situation.
These are just the causes and suggestions on how to end bullying. It includes the process of taking it from its bud to preventing it from growing to ending it with its final form. Bullying can still be addressed to even if it seems to be widespread all over the world. With all people working together to eradicate this, it will never be impossible for them to totally remove bullying from world’s vocabulary.
Despite these propositions, there are points that show that bullying seems to be something that cannot be totally eradicated no matter what actions are done to address these concerns. Through these rebuttals, the strong points of the bullying may end up being in the mindset of the people.
Alternative Positions and Conditions of Rebuttal
No matter what, bullying cannot be stopped. This may be something that some may point out. Several efforts were already done to eradicate bullying ever since but there are still cases of bullying that removing it appears to be like removing a part of life of people or a practice that has been a tradition for quite some time. It is like preventing something that is bound to happen afterwards. Wherever one goes, there will always be the bully and the bullied and that is how it goes. There will always be the superior kind of individual in a group who would try to overpower a few weaker ones and that’s how it goes. Even in the animal kingdom, this is evident. There will always be the bully animal. People, being the highest form of animals with intellect and free will, will also encounter this because people are never the same. Even if the line of thinking that people are created equally, there will be the taller ones, the stronger ones, and the more attractive ones based on the norms of the society. This kind of counterpoint about bullying may appeal to the crowd. Bullying may even be connected to survival of the fittest. This is one of the reasons why the concept of bullying is still taken lightly by many since it appears to be bound to happen just like anything else in the world. It is the system, and this is how things go. Wherever one goes there will always be the scenario even if one already grows up. Things are just like that and nothing can seem to be done about it.
Related to this is a way of escape from bullying and that is the use of joking to stop the fire from spreading. The usual pattern for this kind of practice of defense against bullying is that the entire thing was just for everyone’s fun and if the people enjoyed, even if one felt bullied, things should be acceptable, and the bullied person should stop becoming overly sensitive. The basis on pleasing the crowd and the person trying to make fun of the other person will never be justifiable but this is how perpetrators try to get away from what they did.
If the person attempts to elevate things or to act negatively, the bully will refer to the act as something that’s just a joke and nothing else. This will cut the person out and the bullied will be told not to be too sensitive about this. This technique becomes stronger when many people side on the bully and work all against the bullied. This materializes when the group of people or the community tolerates the concept of bullying that the bully gets all the support, he/she needs to continue with his/her doings. As a way to silence the person up, the emotions will be pulled, and the conscience will be touched by them saying that the entire thing will turn out sour and serious with just a joke that the victim did not manage to handle properly. Then, the bullied gives in. the cycle continues, and it will never end. According to Ayeniniowo & Akinbode (2011), the bullied will end up having irreversible emotional damage/ This goes back to the first point; it will just be said that bullying is really a part of life which must happen for the balance of everything. There are those meant to bully and to be bullied, and that is how it is. The action persists because people tolerate the actions in general.
Severe punishment of the bully will become an immense problem. The bully will be considered as a victim and will be treated lightly with whatever what done to the other person. Since the bully can be a young one as well, it will be assumed that the actions done was primarily because of his youth and that he/she might not do such things upon growing up. This will be an excuse used by the perpetrators that they will get to evade from being punished severely. Upon the incident being forgotten, the bully will strike again and will prove that he can overpower the rest of the students with his/her method. After all, he/she may get away with it.
Several schools have imposed grave sanctions for bullying. However, the process of validating whether an incident is bullying or not is a little difficult for the side of being bullied since the attack should be obvious and that it must be physically or somewhat evident for it to be considered as a case to be solved. Hence, the actions continue until the worse will turn out to be the worst and from there, people will just act on things when they see grave effects on the bullied first. The guarantee of being punished severely on the end of the bullied cannot even be promised. The transferring of the learner to another school will just be another ground for the bully to find another one to bully if the social context will permit him/her.
Lastly, bullying can never seem to end since family issues should not be interfered with. If the cause of bullying would be recalled, the primary problem comes into the picture with the neglect of the parents in terms of raising their children. In this case, child ends up getting attention from elsewhere and would consider victimizing an innocent student who would appear to be weaker than him or her. From there, the justification for bullying will already start as the people will even feel bad about the person since he/she is being ignored by his/her family. From here, the parents will shut the people off the picture and will say that their family issues should be solely discussed within the family even if the apparent problem already leaks out to the community and society through their bully child.
These are the potential reasons that people may consider as excuses why bullies still exist and why bullying could not be stopped. Even if these kinds of circumstances and reasons are present, bullying should still be fought and should not be tolerated by all races, ages, and all types of environment. Everybody has the right to be treated well.
The reasons for ending the bullying outweighs the counter ideas about bullying. Even if people may say that it is part of existence or even a way for the survival of the fittest, one cannot allow individuals to just suffer from a problem that can be solved. Aside from this, the involved and the entire environment must see the gravity of the action that they did for them to stop from bullying someone else (Hebron, 2012). Lastly, parents should make it a point that they are monitoring their children since with the neglect and lack of attention, their children may end up bullying someone else along the way. These usual notions about bullying, if fought, will help in the fight against bullying. Many lacks the concept of empathy and sympathy that without experiencing the event, they will just be lax about it or may even revert the blame to the victim.
The entire society should also reflect on why this kind of problem persists. It might be probable that they are tolerant of the abuses that are happening or they themselves just opt to lesser issues or concerns that the practice of bullying just goes on. This should never be the case since there are numerous reasons that can be added to the list why this kind of negative behavior should not be tolerated anywhere by anyone at all means. Whether one is a student, a young child, or an adult, no body deserves to be treated without respect even if the bully would just say they did not mean it or they were just joking about it.
With all the points raised about ending bullying, the need for a persistent and continuous overcome bullying should be done. The issue may be unending, but it should still be worked on. No excuse is allowable for the permission of abuse and destruction of character of one of the children in any means and destruction. By doing the necessary actions for both the bully and the bullied, their lives and futures will be secured as well as their perception in life.
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