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Five Secret Keys to Being Successful in Life

Updated on November 17, 2012

The Five Secret Keys to Success in Life

Life is a series of challenges for which the test always comes prior to the lesson. It is how you perceive life which sustains you. There are many religions and philosophies which address this but I have a personal philosophy which is one never experiences success until they fail many times first. Failure is also the cruelest and yet most effective teacher in life. So I simply accept my life will be filled with cruel failures from which I must learn and then move onto success.

Here are the ideas that I believe are the secrets to success in life.

1. Mistakes are learning experiences which you must learn from.

We all make mistakes some little and some huge but it is the ability to get up and clean up the mess from your mistake which separates those who are successful from those who are not successful. If you feel sorry for yourself then you will be trapped in failure but if you accept the lesson your mistake has offered you graciously then you will transcend your transgression and move to a more successful life. This is especially true for the criminal. They criminal who cops and plea and does whatever the court asks of him usually has a much lighter sentence. The guy who fights usually loses and does hard prison time.

2. Failure is a temporary state and not permanent.

We are all renters in this life. This is said for the wealthy because they have security in their wealth. But for you and I who are not particularly wealthy it is great. We only rent our lives and therefore nothing is permanent. This is especially true when it comes to our mistakes becoming failures. Our mistakes are only failures if we fail to learn from them. So as a methodology only rent your mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and then cast them free. They are for someone less wise then yourself. I have to do this all the time. I am the worst speller in the world. I am such a bad speller I can’t even use a dictionary to look things up. I could never SEO optimize. I can’t spell. I am the SEO optimizer for the people who can’t spell or are new to this country. I have to accept this about myself and move on. What did I take away from this lesson? Well the first thing I learned was to type into word and spell check with word. I learned, I corrected and I have moved on. Therefore I only have rented I am a bad speller. I am actually a stellar speller in Latin.

3. Persistence is paramount to success.

This is so true and so under emphasized. Most people who are very successful didn’t get that way because of brilliance but because of persistence. They never let a barrier stop them and they never took “no” for an answer. Successful people are wildly relentless. And when that doesn’t work they are even more relentless. They work very long hard hours and never give up. Hold onto a dream for long enough, work hard enough at it and it will become a reality.

4. Happiness opens your life up to receiving success.

Beside my obsession for Australians in general because I just adore them all, happy people tend to be more successful. After presenting my research to the state of Florida I ran into a little funding issue. Well I actually ran into a no funds issue so I had to cut back. I cut my internet service back in September. It was more complex then I am explaining but for the sake of this article for monetary reasons I cut my internet service. I was use to writing almost every single day on Hub pages not one article but a couple. When I wasn’t doing that I was designing studies and conducting field research in Autism which I presented in late September. For the past four years of my life I have worked every single day. Suddenly, my research was over. I had no way to continue to write on the internet and no email. I didn’t even have a telephone or television. Well I have the television just not the cable.

I had to figure out to continue working without a telephone or internet. My son is still upset we don’t have television but I don’t miss the bill at all.

So I started going to Wifi hotspots around town. I started meeting people and talking to them about what I was doing. I found a support system of unemployed professionals who could assist and advise me. We became a small family and they accepted my son with Autism. I made friends from South Africa, Johannesburg, South America, Korea, and yes a beautiful Aussie who is in from Dubai. We are all friends and happy to see each other in the coffee shop while we work side by side. The Koreans are in town for training therefore I invited them to an American Thanksgiving. They hate turkey so it should be entertaining watching them lie to me about liking it. They have also insisted on bringing the wine. I don’t drink but I will have to this Thanksgiving. Koreans love sweet wine so I will have to lie about loving it. There is a bit of a language barrier but I have a little Japanese so we can converse. They make fun of my dialect but it is all in good fun. I even offered to make them duck instead of turkey for Thanksgiving but they insisted on the turkey. It should make a really interesting hub to publish later. We laugh a great deal and in general we are always happy.

It is true with the Aussie as well. Drop dead gorgeous man who is a vegetarian, Buddhist who travels around the world for his profession. The Aussie is so kind to my son with Autism. One day we just sat and talked about Mathematics, Thermodynamics, Geopolitical politics, traveling, etc. He said you are a bright one for an American. He of used expletives but I am accustom to Aussies. And they way the curse is just so lovely. So the super brilliant, hot, and charming Aussie is in town for three months. Every time we see each other he has another idea and another resource for me.

Losing cable, telephone and internet is probably the best thing that could have happened to us in a long time because it forced us out. And being around positive people breeds success. Laughter breeds success. I was offered a job at the State Department out of the blue. Someone saw me in the coffee shop and thought I would make a good State Department employee.

I actually have wifi now in my apartment. Believe it or not once people saw me a little more frequently and heard me speak so positively I was given the opportunity to have free wifi at home. But my son and I often miss the coffee shop so we pretend I don’t have wifi and go hang out with all of our new friends who are so wonderful. It is about perspective and then about showing your inner happiness.

5. Success is the real secret to success.

This was a phenomenon I noticed early on while writing for Hub Pages. The more successful I was at writing the more people gravitated towards me. Success is positive and people are attracted to positive people. This says a lot because when I started out on Hub Pages I wasn’t exactly in a good space as my Mother had just died. But I was persistent and I keep plugging away at it every single day. I would force myself to work and be productive. I would write right through writer’s block. The more I persisted the more people followed me and I am very grateful to those who have. So make yourself successful and everything else will fall into place. My success on Hub Pages was limited to Hub Pages. Seven months into my Hub Pages career I took off almost a year from writing to conduct research to help discover an intervention for children with Autism. That research has been successful. I will need to replicate it but I presented to the state of Florida. This wasn’t a small success but a huge one. Next week I find out if I will be able to present internationally. Success breeds success across your entire life.


Finally

In conclusion we now have a lot of friends from all walks of life. My son and I have more opportunities now then ever. I am continuing to work on my non-profit so that when my research and product is done I can deliver this intervention at no or low cost to families of children with Autism. I have also been asked to give a presentation to parents locally now. There are so many good things going on in my life. Things I never would have believed possible when I first started to write on Hub Pages. I do believe the five tenets described here are the key to success. Learn from your mistakes, failure is temporary, be persistent and happy so you can be success which is the key to being more successful.

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    • JT Walters profile imageAUTHOR

      JT Walters 

      5 years ago from Florida

      Thandi,

      Your words are beautiful and perfect. Thank you for reading and commenting my friend.

      Cheers,

      JT

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 

      5 years ago from Lagos

      Wow! My words are malnourished to lay bare my mind's thoughts.

      But I will just give you a big smile and say 'keep up the good work JT'

      Thandi

    • JT Walters profile imageAUTHOR

      JT Walters 

      5 years ago from Florida

      Thanks Deborah Demander,

      It has been my experience the test always comes before the lesson which is odd considering that is the opposite of how we are taught. I just try to learn my lessons and move forward.

      Namaste to you as well.

      JT

    • Deborah Demander profile image

      Deborah Demander 

      5 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      Great hub. I agree with your secrets to success. It is sometimes hard to understand the lessons when we're in the middle of them, but often times, even years later, I will say, "Oh. Now I see why I had to suffer through that."

      Great hub.

      Namaste

    • JT Walters profile imageAUTHOR

      JT Walters 

      5 years ago from Florida

      I think the bright side presents itself if you are open to receive it. What you project is what you shall receive.

      Thanks for the read and comment.

      JT

    • Gypsy Willow profile image

      Gypsy Willow 

      5 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

      And, as the old adage goes "always look on the bright side of life! Da de da de da diddly de!". Repeat as necessary until it really sinks in!

    • JT Walters profile imageAUTHOR

      JT Walters 

      5 years ago from Florida

      As my Aussie friend would say, "Thanks love". I have missed you as well but it makes the reunion all the sweeter. I love my new people almost as much as I love my old people. Everyone on Hubpages brought me around after the death of my Mom and extreme isolation caring for her with cancer for years to be able to socialize IRL.

      Thanks for always being there Dex.

      JT

    • Dexter Yarbrough profile image

      Dexter Yarbrough 

      5 years ago from United States

      Great to "see" you, JT! I have missed your writing. This hub is spectacular and sure to help others that have been struggling. I am so happy that you have had the opportunity to meet some new people as well!

      Beautiful!

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