Guideline for Harmonious Human Relations
Your mind is a creative medium; therefore what you think and feel about the other, you are bringing to pass in your own experience. This is the psychological meaning of the Golden Rule. As you would that others should think about you, think about them in the same manner.
The good you do for others comes back to you in like measure; and the evil you do returns to you by the law of your own mind. If someone cheats and deceives another he is actually cheating and deceiving himself. His sense of guilt and mood of loss inevitably attract loss to him in some way, in some time. His subconscious records his mental act and reacts according to the mental intention or motivation. Your subconscious mind is impersonal and unchanging neither considering persons nor respecting religious affiliations or institutions of any kind. It is neither compassionate nor vindictive. The way you think, feel and act toward others returns as last upon yourself.
What someone else says cannot really annoy or irritate you unless you permit it to disturb you. The only path by which another person can upset you it through your own thought. If you get angry, you have to go through four stages in your mind. You begin to think about what was said. You decide to get angry and generate an emotion of rage. Then you decide to act. Perhaps you talk back and react in kind. As you see, the thought, emotion, reaction, and action all take place in your mind.
What does it mean to be emotionally mature? It means that you move beyond the natural, but childish, tendency to respond negatively to the criticism and resentment of others. No one likes to be criticized or belittled. However, we have the ability to choose how to react when it happens. The nature choice is to refrain from responding in a similarly negative way. Responding in kind means to descend to the level of belittling criticism and to become one with the negative atmosphere of the other. Identify yourself with your own aim in life. Do not permit any person, place, or thing to deflect you from your inner sense of peace, tranquility, and radiant health.
Do not permit people to take advantage of you and gain their point by temper tantrums, crying jags, or other forms of emotional blackmail. These people are dictators who try to enslave you and make you do their bidding. Be firm but kind, and refuse to yield. Appeasement never wins. Refuse to contribute to their delinquency, selfishness, and possessiveness. Remember, do that which is right. You are here to fulfill your ideal and remain true to the eternal verities and spiritual values of life, which are eternal.
Love is the answer to getting along with other. Love is understanding, goodwill, and a respect for the divinity of the other.
Have compassion and understating for those whose negative conditioning has made them difficult and unpleasant. The diving spark is within them, just as it is with everyone. To understand all is to forgive all.
Relationships are there to cherish & if you are not able to do that you need to revisit your bond with your family members.