Have you given yourself a treat today?
Firstly let’s be clear about one thing. No matter how much you try to tell others about who you are as a person still, only you will know yourself properly unlike any one else. Only you will understand yourself in a way that others don’t.
They may give advice and opinions to help or try to mount in you. However sometimes their suggestions may not exactly fit in with yours. There are some accomplishments as a person we may achieve that others might find thoughtless or nothing really to be glad about. Yet still, every now and then we like to tell others about our endeavours to make ourselves feel extra good. Nearly all would applaud you, though some may give you a reaction that you weren’t looking for. Which just puts you down and makes you feel of little worth.
Listen to me, we all have different passages in front of us. No need for clarification that mine and yours are completely different. Even though the baby steps towards the success of our own journey may not appeal to others, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be proud of yourself. Because at the end of the day your success benefits you! Not them.
With that in mind, there is also nothing wrong in pampering yourself. Giving yourself a pat on the shoulder, should mean something more than just a phrase. You see occasionally people fixate themselves on what others think of them, and always try to find ways to please them. As it indirectly makes themselves happy.
Not going to deny, yes sometimes other peoples happiness to an extent may cheer you up. Such as giving your child something that puts a smile on their face. Or seeing someone dear to you happy that makes you content. Those are good reasons to be happy, as seeing them makes you feel good about yourself to. But honestly think about it, how much can you take of them being happy all the time, when nothing of that sort comes back to you? You see depending on someone is one thing, but relying on them and using them as a framework for your emotions is something else.
The thing is we are so caught up in other matters, that we tend forget to check up on ourselves, and see if we are okay. There’s nothing wrong with a self-check-up. And I know occasionally it’s nice to get recognition from others, but it’s also okay not to. If you know you have achieved something well, then go celebrate and congratulate yourself.
I like to treat myself by going in the Jacuzzi, when I feel I deserve a good pleasurable reward. It’s alright to treat to yourself to sweeties or anything else once in a while. Don’t you remember you’re sweet as well? Well, that was cringe, but it’s a fact. Reward yourself with anything that will allow the good vibes to consume you.