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What Does Your Body Language Say About You?

Updated on December 24, 2017
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It is wonderful to investigate, gain knowledge and know how before making major decisions in life. Knowledge is power.

Take a peek at what it says while the lips move, but the rest of the body does the communicating with others

Developing improvements both inside and out is a wonderful way to make life better. This is also true for communicating with others. Countless folks fail to realize no matter what comes out of the mouth is not what the other party hears. Comprehending this idea and matching body movements to speech creates a beautiful communicator.

Speaking with one another in a positive form is transforms most of us into better people overall. Being understood attempting to relay a thought or desire creates a positive interaction for both parties. It is good for friends, family and even coworkers.

Even small children, toddlers, without speech are capable of letting mom and dad know hunger, hurt, tired, sleepy and other basic needs. These are not always pretty, but it gets the job done.

'This is more than simply standing before a group of people and reading a speech without having stage fright. What the brain and tongue say must be conveyed and matched by the body as well. There is a failure to understand what the body displays is transferring so much more information than words ever say.

Never underestimate constructive interactions. Simple get rid of the glitch of negative or misunderstanding by following several different methods of communicating. Assure a better way of what is being said is what is being heard during any sort of discussion with anyone.

What one person is saying turns out to be not what another hears. There are ways to fix this problematic behavior.

Get more good than bad out of a chat

Each time there is an exchange with another individual the outcome is positive or negative. An enormous part of creating a good result comes with building a great reserve of terrific body language. This makes certain the message sent becomes the message received.

Scores of folks miss out on a happy ending as the result of bad body language. Most believe the error obviously came from the face or words being said. Did the tone match? Eye contact was there, but the other person did not share the smile that should have been there. These movements are only tip of the iceberg when relaying emotion and sentiments. .

Take the time to do an overall personal assessment and upgrade. Get a pleasant surprise in doing so. Change is difficult. The start is extremely self conscious, but everyone is capable of making doing it.

How to get better body language

By cultivating and refining it life is enriched in more than a few ways dealing with others. Eyes are roaming all over while listening. The lips move and sound comes out, but it is more than that going on..

A few of the things taken into account are what these body parts look like and are doing while the speaker gets into the conversation. Direct attention is on the mouth, hands, feet, back, eyes and a couple of expressions made with the face. Regardless of what words are spoken, all of these are involved in the conversation.

A valuable tool is an upgrade to understanding the meaning these movements. Discover how these appear capable of a positive effect in a variety of oral situations. Adding value to daily conversations is a possibility with subtle changes to a couple of body parts.

How to get a point across

Different situations allow for different directions. Viewpoints, sentiments, feelings and other things come into play. Emotion is the most difficult factor to overcome. Things such as who takes part in a conversation and what is discussed are two front runners behind emotion.

For example, speaking to the boss is entirely different than talking to a sister or brother. This is true even if the subject being discussed is identical. Tone and inflection are bound to vary, but these are not as important as what is seen by the other person talking.

Familiarity Language.

There is a familiarity for folks who interact often with one another. Acquaintances, friends and family fall into this category.Sad news is in a low tone and followed by a hug. The body turned inward and slumped as if physically punched during delivery is appreciated. The other person sees empathy regardless of what is said.

This is how a mother or father is capable of knowing if a child is not telling the truth or holding something back. A parent knows a child and the body language of even a toddler speaks.

Think of a couple married for a number of years. Some couples who have tied the knot over decades ago admit to understanding a command simply based on how a person is standing or a look in the eyes.

A friend says when she is excited she speaks more with her hands. In public place she is unaware of movements. Hands are up and down, each at one cheek and the more she talks the more animated she becomes. Followed by a scream and a foot jump. Folding her friend into a bear hug, she begins to cry.

Folks around them hear the scream, but because of body language, it is understood there is no . She has just become engaged. Even a person across the mall out of earshot know what she said.

Helps make things clearer

Was the communication clear and concise? Most folks are surprised to find out it is not always received as anticipated. Hands were placed one way which read no while the mouth said yes. Hand gestures while speaking are a big one. Another point of confusion is when news is relayed, where did the person look? Good and bad news are on the list of where the eyes or head was turned.

A conversation sometimes fails to go the right way even when eye to eye contact is used. Find out what interference causes miscommunication. Adjust the issues and put these to use. See things go better with countless dialogues in a variety of forums.

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Small gestures are able to say big things.

Delivering difficult news

Ever hear the saying “don’t shoot the messenger”. There are things to make even saying hard or difficult things better for the person on the receiving end of it.This does not mean the emotion emitted changes from sad to happy, but there is less tension on both ends. Even with everything done correctly, the outcome is not always predictable one hundred percent of the time.

The right road to relay these types of things to others is gestures to make a person getting it feel better as quickly as possible or less likely to react badly. The concept is to imply empathy and feelings of sorry for the person in this predicament. The individual is not alone and even the messenger is approachable on an emotional level if needed.

Get close and make it private. Use an even tone and touch a caring hand to the person. Never do an "i could care less" conversation. Hugs are permitted and encouraged. This shows the person what was said hurt. The messenger understands the hurt and commiserate.

Imagine having to fire someone? Telling a person about a difficult decision made without thinking of the negative impact or how it effects this person. These are all hard to say as well as hear. Always put yourself in another s shoes.

The Dreaded Interview

The hands, feet and other visual parts of the body are important. This is especially true for anxious events such as a job interview takes place. This is a personal discussion with big implications on life. Appearances look as if this is a simple meeting, but it is worth so much more.

Avoid a voice quivering. Keep it nice and steady as well as saying everything previously practiced perfectly. Stay on script. Concentrating on the physical aspect is easier when the question and answer mental section is going well.

Slouching and not making eye contact is a sure way to miss out on the position, regardless of saying the right things. The visual and mental of the others in the conversation are not on the same page. Words are not being heard. Several interpretations for these feelings are possible and running through the company interviewer's mind.

It is possible inexperience and probably not a good bet to hire this worker especially under pressure. These are what the person sitting in the seat across is hearing, not what comes out of the mouth (remember only 7% of what is being said to another is verbal and the rest body language). This is why countless folks never know the reason things did not go as expected. The job was given to another candidate regardless of presenting a great resume and verbal exchange.

Start off on the right foot and stay remain in this space. Sending mixed messages in an interview is a sure way to sink the Titanic. Make certain the verbal and the visual line up and say identical things.

Put attention on personal dependability and self-assurance. Walk in and out of the the place with the job in the bag because of correct body language along with saying all the right things. This is also true of promotions, raises and other items tied to employment.

First impressions

Everyone has a stereotype of an individual when meeting for the first time. A preconceived notion generally comes to mind almost immediately. No one is able to help it. Some opinions are matched up with others have said verbal or slight motions made while saying another person's name.

The initial impression gives a mental impression of a person and words are associated with them. Nice, overbearing, cordial, snotty, sweet, flaky, all of these are tied to the description or mental image of a new meeting. These are personality reflections perceived via what is seen and what is said by an individual.

Countless this particular picture is lasting. Make a better one using good body movements. Presentation is important when looking forward. This is a possible networking opportunity, future in laws or coworkers. All of these rely on getting a good image or at least a true picture of a person based on more than conversation.

Visualize looking for a better house or job and a casual acquaintance is asked an opinion of a first and only meeting with another. Was the first meeting a good one? Even when looking for a professional getting a good referral becomes a reality with a positive encounter.

There are so many levels to consider when looking at how this simple form of communicating with others enhances life for an individual. It is a good impact when done correctly. Avoid mistakes and input changes when and where needed.

Better Body Language for Your Marriage

Get paid to read it. How are jurors selected using body language

There are those who have turned interpretation of how a person moves during a talk or discussion into a cash cow. The most money comes in detecting specifically if a person is telling the truth or not. Though, in a number of cases it tells key things as well.

One of the biggest professions to find this useful is in the law profession. Selecting the winning jurors for a particular kind of case has become an art form. The key is noticing what a certain action dictates as a response to potential inquiries the prosecution or defense puts forth.

Juries are comprised of a variety of people with different outlooks at the same situation. Serving on one is an honor and a large part of the United States democratic process.

Who needs it?

Reading changes in physical demeanor is not illegal and not an easy task. However, understanding it is the potential difference in finding guilt or innocence in a person accused for a crime in countless situations.

Both sides ask questions of each potential jury and whittle down a hundred to twelve men and women. Both defense and prosecution are in the hopes the select remaining few are good for one side or the other.

There are professionals hired to see this process through. These are folks who have an expertise in knowing what body language is saying. This is an expensive investment to say the least.

How it works

What is asked is typically slanted to the prosecution or defendants side, depending on who is doing the questioning. An underlying body positioning or movement while giving a reply is said to show a professional what is needed to make and much more informed decision than otherwise available.

The services are not cheap and typically used for the most part by defendants with deep pockets. The prosecution has deeper financial pockets, but rarely use the professional. The attorney for the accused works hand and hand with the person hired when it comes to picking particular jurors.

Other benefits of a professional

The benefits also stretch to include witnesses on the stand and questions to put forth to these folks as well. These individuals are capable of soliciting the answer needed to get ahead. Which questions to ask as well as why are influential in determining guilt or innocence for countless folks..

Sad and lonely are easy to identify.

How the body behaves is important for various encounters

Adjusting negative attributes to positive ones is a good thing. Strength is discovered analyzing the way others see a person during any sort of dialogue. Remember, more than half of a verbal conversation is "heard" and understood via how a body behaves.

This is in true in a number of settings. For instance, a job interview, a wedding toast, a group presentation or a punishment discussion with offspring. A discussion with the wife easily turns toward an argument is no longer a mystery after comprehending what the body is capable of doing.

The course of banter back and forth is tipped more to the positive side making life better overall in a number of ways.

What does it say about a relationship?

Improve personal health and communications

More smiles is found to be a great stress reliever leading to better health overall. Children smile almost 200 times a day. The older an individual gets the less this gesture is performed.

People who laugh more live longer according to national studies. Language shown by the body is directly related to emotional and psychological feelings. Having these on a positive note helps any one communicate better.

Smiling and laughing are good and relayed even through a telephone conversation

Children under the age of five smile over 200 times a day. There is something to be said for feeling good and smiling or the other way around. Adults who miss out on the benefits of these are capable of sabotaging a positive talk.

Smile from the heart. Never fake it. Those who do it with heart are easy to convey the right sentiment. Faked feelings are another tell tell sign of bad body language.

Different languages does not always hamper what is being said to one another

There are times where folks are speaking different languages, but the body knows how to communicate what another is saying.

The link between humans has always been in this form. Going back to cavemen without language or even settlers who traveled across this nation from East to West and spoke with American Indians.

Even watching the ball game, folks know what is being said on the sidelines.

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    • Chris Achilleos profile image

      Chris Achilleos 6 years ago

      By reading other peoples body language we may understand the true feelings and emotions of people. Great hub. Voted up and sharing :)

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      TeaPartyCrasher 6 years ago from Camp Hill, PA

      This is one that a career advisor brought up, and it's one to watch out for at interviews. Checking your watch often can be seen as a sign of disinterest.

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      Nikki D. Felder 6 years ago from Castle Hayne, N.C.

      I like to think I have charisma and my countenance, stance, and posture, as you said, affect my impact at being such. When I was my maddest last, everybody in the office new it! Thank you, Nikki D. Felder

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      heart4theword 6 years ago from hub

      Change your mind, change your body:) You are so write about what your body language says about us? I think first impressions, are lasting many younger people are not educated on the importance of a good first impression:)

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      BeatsMe 6 years ago

      I don't know, a lot of people don't really know how to read body language, but thanks, I'll have to try this. :)

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      Deep 6 years ago from In the middle of nowhere and worldwide but still that T.O.kid from da north of America

      very interesting hub and topic smcopywrite

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      Ireno Alcala 6 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      I agree with Mrs. J.B. We're always pre-judged. That first impression will only be altered if they find some good points from you. Like when I attended a wedding ceremony or judging contest, they've already put a smirk on their faces; maybe because of my balding head (LOL, we'll I'm laughing at it). But when they heard me talking infront, some still braved to renew their ties (momentarily) on me. Talk about biases..huhummnn.

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      Mrs. J. B. 6 years ago from Southern California

      That I can be a B----sad but true. I have a lot of people that told me that they thought that when they first met me. I was pre judged!

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      Tricia Mason 6 years ago from The English Midlands

      Hi :)

      This is a really fascinating topic!

      Your recommendation to watch videos and check out our own body language is a really good one!

      And smiling is definitely a good thing to do.

      This hub made me smile! :)

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      Sp Greaney 6 years ago from Ireland

      Hm, going to make sure I'm aware now of my body language. :-) Great hub...voted up...

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      David Sproull 6 years ago from Toronto

      Body language makes up a huge portion of our communication, so being aware of it can make you a better communicator and avoid many misunderstandings.

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      RTalloni 6 years ago from the short journey

      Neat stuff. Useful and interesting. Voted up and useful.

      Would like to link this to my Speaking English hub if you have no objection. Thanks!

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      Peggy Woods 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Body language is surely one form of communication which portrays much about a person. Good and useful hub. Rating it so as well as up.