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How To Be a Good Guest

Updated on April 4, 2010

There is no end when we talk about manner and how to be act well or good attitude. I think this hub related with my last hub about "How to be a wise host". After a weeks a go I wrote about how to be a wise host, but this time I want to read about how to be a good guest. Once we become a good host, sometimes we also be a guest. This kind of reciprocal relationship. If our friends or relative willing to visit our house. Someday we'll want to visit them. Whether it's for refreshing or we want to go to other place and we want to find a place to sleep for one night.But the nearest place is the home of a our relative or friend of us. This can happen at anytime and sometimes unexpected. Or in the long journey maybe your car is damaged and requires little maintenance.  It require a long time to fix that car. While waiting maybe we could visit to their house while pending car repair. I myself can not predict the time to visit. But it is running normal and naturally. .

After we observe the behavior of our guests. When we become a guest we must act good and wisely too. This is easily done if we promised and committed to respect the host. Maybe sometimes you stayed at your family home or a close relative when traveling out of town. We must know the proper ethics when the people stay at others home, even only one night. Let find out together.

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Send Message (notify your arrival)

Better, don't come suddenly. More polite if you notify your arrival plans, so that the targeted families can prepare everything properly. If you have intend to spend the night over there, better ask for their willingness and possibility to accept you. Specify how many family members who will come to stay. If the number of members of your family too much, consider staying at the hotel in order not to bother the host. I hope they understand with your family situation if it looks emergency.

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Bring a gift

Better, don't visit with empty hand. As a good attitude try to give something special from your hometown to the host. It could be anything, like: fruit, chocolate, bread, cake, etc. Or you can bring your food which had cooked before. I think the host more pleasant with that gift. It need a plan before and you have doing this before the departure. If you forget or do not have time and felt bothered bringing it along the way, buy something after arrived at the destination city.

Ask if you need to bring anything. If staying overnight, your host may not have linens or extra pillows for the extended stay. If coming for dinner, offer to bring dishes, desserts or wine. I think the host will understand with this good attitude.

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Do not bother the host

Make sure this is in our mind. Bring all necessary equipment, such as bathroom fixtures, towel, and a small packet of detergent if you intend to wash clothes there.
If bringing children under five years old, do not forget to bring all their needs such as milk, baby cereal, diapers, and others. And you can stay comfortable without bother the host.

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Putting yourself in the good side (offer the help)

Do not expect excellent service like five star hotels as a guest. Be sensitive and try to understand their circumstances. Give attention while the host was busy serving you. Offer help to prepare the dining table, raised food, and bring dirty dishes to the sink. Don't too long using the bathroom, remember there are other people who life in that house, including the host. but do not expect the host to act as cooks and waiters, you can share your recipes to make lunch or dinner Help around the house, like sweep the flood or anything you can do in that house.

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Good communication

As a guest we have good relations with the host. One of them through communication. If you want use anything inside the house try to permission first. By the good communication there is no gap between the guest and the host. If you have food allergies that can really cause some losses to your health, try to communicate with the host. You can choose another food.

Don't forget to always say "thank you" . This looks simple, but if we do not practice very often. It hard to be done. But I believe we can do that well. And the host will appreciate us, trust me!

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Keep the privacy

Provide privacy to the host in order not to disturbed by your presence. If bringing children, warn them not make noisy or doing troublemakers. Try not too late when going to bed not, in order to provide the opportunity for hosts to rest. You have responsibility to behave properly, by keeping good attitude. Also give space to the host, because they also need comfort to life in their own home.

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I hope we can learning something from this hub. Please, follow these steps and you'll get a good reputation as a gracious guest, your friends, or your relative will be happy to invite you back. Would you invite me to your house? I am glad to be your guest.......

Related hub:

  • How To Be a Wise Host

    Have you ever received the guests from out of town. Or your other family member from other town to spent the night in our home. Have you ever think to accept their as your guest. Do you want to be a good person? There is a simple way that make you a good person. The simple recipes is “helping others”. I am not bored to remind us about this. We can’t life alone, because we are a social beings. We need help from others, whereas  someone else also needs our help. This is like a “take and give” pyramid. It mean When we always helping others, we can get good replies from others.

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      "Quill" 7 years ago

      Great Hub...filled with great info and always well worth the read...

      Blessings

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      Hello, hello, 7 years ago from London, UK

      Thank you for a very well written hub with good advice.

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      Ann Nonymous 7 years ago from Virginia

      In correlation to your hub how to be a good host this is an excellent addition! Very well done, Prasetio!

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      Pete Maida 7 years ago

      It is very important to respect your host and their home. I think it is up to the guest to leave the host with little or no additional work. Unless you plan to pay for the visit you should not treat a friend's or a relative's home like a hotel.

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      Micky Dee 7 years ago

      You always have the great advice Sir! Keep up the good work Prasetio!

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      HappyHer 7 years ago from Cleveland, OH

      Very well put. Many people are not taught to be good guests, yet it is an important life skill to know. Thank you.

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      devsir 7 years ago from Earth

      really nice hub

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      breakfastpop 7 years ago

      Smart advice. I happen to prefer to sleep at a hotel and take my would be host to dinner!

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      Katrina Ariel 7 years ago from The Highlands of British Columbia, Canada

      Courtesy is important, and these are some great tips.

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      katiem2 7 years ago from I'm outta here

      Prasetio, I LOVE this hub. Now we have both the host and the guest and brillantly done. Thanks and Peace :)

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      Pamela Oglesby 7 years ago from United States

      Prasetio, This is a great hub and something people should think about when they are a guest in another home. Good hub.

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      Mystique1957 7 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

      My brother Prasetio...

      Very good hub indeed! Sometimes people forget themselves! It is as important being a good host as it is being a good guest! Nice and thoughtful recommendations! Thumbs up, my friend!

      Warmest regards and infinite eternal blessings,

      Al

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      Darlene Sabella 7 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

      Very good article, and yes manners are very important, thanks you for all your wise advise, thumbs up my friend...

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks "Quill" for supporting this hub. I am glad we still keep in touch.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you Hello, because of you this hub more colorful.

      I hope we can practice it well.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Ann Nonymous, I want to give something complete between host and guest. We can't evaluate this only one side but we have to know the other side to compare. I think the result will be good. Thank you for give nice comment to this hub.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Pete for share your thought here.

      You are absolutely right about that. When we can put ourselves in the good side, I think we leave the host with goodness. They do not feel disturbed by our arrival. And I hope we welcome again with our second arrival. but don't too often. Have a nice day!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Micky, thanks for supporting this hub. I know you have a lot of experience than me. And I believe you had traveling in many places and felt how to be a good guest and wise host also. See you......

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you HappyHer for give good comment to this hub. LIke Pete said before, it hard to do when we see that like in hotel. Remember..... We live in someone else's home. We leave the host with little or no additional work. It depend on us. But when we treat us well as a good host. I think we can leave the host with good image.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks devsir for coming to this hub, I hope you enjoy all information above.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks you POP, you are very wise and good person. I have to learn from you. You still have a chance invite them to dinner. Have a great day!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Katrina,Welcome to my hub again. You always accepted here. I am glad you liked this hub. Thank you very much.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Katie for your appreciation and give much attention to this hub. I hope we can learn together, not only become wise host. But sometimes we have to be good guest also.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you, Pamela. I am glad to read your comment. I hope we can be a good guest when visit another home. Have a great day!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      My brother Mystique1957 you always support my hub. Including this one. Kindness come from ourself, when we can place ourself in the good side it bring happiness to anyone. Like when we act as a wise host and a good guest. As a person who have much experience in life, I have to learn from you my Brother. Gracias!

      Prasetio

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Darlene for giving your time to visit this hub. I hope you enjoy all tips above. I agree with you that manners is important in our life, especially when we stay with others. I hope we can be a good guest...amen.

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      thevoice 7 years ago from carthage ill

      you have great hub work here be proud thanks

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks, thevoice for coming to this hub. I am glad to know that. I hope you enjoy all information above. And we can learn a "little" from this. See you.......

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      Audrey Kirchner 7 years ago from Central Oregon

      Great info and so nicely put - I try and do those things when I'm a guest but most often myself as host!

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      Michael Shane 7 years ago from Gadsden, Alabama

      Great job prasetio! Always have such good advice & tips!

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      febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia

      Wonderful hub Pras, I agree with your #1, notify your arrival. I hate when people just come up to my house without any notification, haha..

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      Sandy Mertens 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

      Great hub.

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      carolina muscle 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Another great post !!!

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      AARON99 7 years ago

      This tips are very helpful for socialite and communications. A very helpful hub for any individual. Well done. Enjoy.

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      TattoGuy 7 years ago

      Great hub my friend, I really must ctach up on your other ones, hope you had a great Easter !

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      Alfreta Sailor 7 years ago from Southern California

      I wish I'd written this. This is such good information. Sometimes we think we are being good guest, but along the way we miss the mark. Using information you provided here will fine tune our ability to be a good guest. Thanks so much for providing this wonderful info, prasetio30,

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks akirchner, I hope you can do that. But I liked that most often you are as a host.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Michael, thanks for your coming and your appreciation to this hub. I hope you can enjoy all the information above.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Febrie for share your thought about this topic.

      Of course, we can prepare everything when we get notification first. Maybe we can clean our house before the guest come to our house or prepare dinner or lunch to respect our guest.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Sandy for coming to this hub. I hope you liked it.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Carolina for giving your time to visit this hub.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks AARON99, I hope you get benefit by reading this hub. And we can practice it well. With the big hope the host will accept us. thank you very much.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Welcome back TattoGuy to my hub.

      I hope this hub useful for you, Don't forget to read the other hub which related with this hub, about " how to be a wise host". thank you very much!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Fastfreta, I am glad this hub useful for you and especially for us who want to visit our relative house. Sometimes we missed a little of the manner. But I hope by this hub it could reminds us about how to be a good guest. And I hope we can imitate some of these information. Have a great day!

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      BJBenson 7 years ago from USA

      I travel a lot and I do love reading your hub.

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      building chicken coops 7 years ago

      Although I agree with many of the points you presented, I still see guest compliance as a dependence on comunication (i could probably do a hub alone on this) Everyone is diffrent, and it really comes down to the guest being aware of when its time to gratefully accept and move on. Aswell as when the hostest must say enough is enough. Great Article, liked to see other hubs as well thought out. Grats.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks BJBenson and building chicken coops for coming to this hub.

      For BJBenson, I know you had traveled in many places. I think you are good guest. I don't doubt about that. I have to learn much from you.

      For building chicken coops, Thanks for share your thought here and I get good input from you. I agree with you that everyone is different. But I hope with differences between us, we can doing the best to other people, especially when to the host. thank you very much.

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      tweetter 7 years ago

      Hi prasetio30, thanx for commenting on my hubs :-)

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      tweetter 7 years ago

      How can i contact you?

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks tweeter for coming to this hub. I am glad become a good guest in your hub. Just use contact button in this page. thank you very much.

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      Lecie 7 years ago

      very informative hub. i have social phobias and feel very uncomfortable when i visit people. these are some great tips that i will try to use for future visits. thanks.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Lucie, I am glad this hub useful for you. I believe you are good person and you can place your self in the right situation around the people. And I believe you can do it well. I wish the best for you. See you .........

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      V. Ratri Aryani 7 years ago

      very good tips Prasetio, especially in eastern cultures where every year many people visit each other. Thank you for sharing this advice....also thanks for your nice comment on my hubs, if you don't mind, I invite you to join my fan.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks V.Ratri Aryani for coming to this hub and give a comment also. I agree with you that eastern uphold the cultural. I am glad join your fans. Thanks for remind me.

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      viryabo 7 years ago

      This is a good article prasetio. Some guests are quite inconsiderate and will even turn up at your doorstep without notice, wnating to stay for days. this may put the host in a flap.

      I know how it can be because i have experienced the same. Turning them back will hurt their feelings, so atimes, we may have to grin and bear it, but making up our mind's that there wont be a next time.

      Great hub.

      Thanks for sharing prasetio.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks viryabo for coming and share your thought about this topic.

      I know from you that it not good when we act badly as a guest. Visiting our relative house without permission and staying for days. Maybe it look annoying when they don't do anything as long as stay in our house. That's why I write this hub, in order we can put ourselves when we visit others home as a guest. Thank you very much, have a great day!

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      BkCreative 7 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      Yes, prasetio30 - follow these tips and you may just get invited back. And always, always, bring a gift. How can you not?

      Many thanks!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks BkCreative for stopping by,

      These are good tips to follow. But it depend our situation. We can use some of them. You not always bring the gift for the host. That's for our grateful they allowed us to stay in their home. If we don't have time to buy a gift it is not a big problem. I think when we not meet them for a long time, we could visiting their home is a big gift for them. And the gift it doesn't mean always as a things. I hope you understand. In the certain situation you can follow only one tips is good for you. Thanks for the criticism. it made this hub more interesting to discuss. Have a great day!

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      Duchess OBlunt 7 years ago

      Good reminders prasetio30 about being a guest in someone else' home. II would add, that you not overstay your welcome either. Sometimes people come for a visit and don't know when to leave.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Duchess OBlunt for second visit on this day.

      It looks difficult to said to our guest about how long they want to stay in our house. But it have to try. And as a guest we have to know our position and we have to make the host comfortable with our visit. when they felt uncomfortable we have to know our self and we have to leave immediately. That's depend on us as a geust. I hope the best for us.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Duchess OBlunt for second visit on this day.

      It looks difficult to said to our guest about how long they want to stay in our house. But it have to try. And as a guest we have to know our position and we have to make the host comfortable with our visit. when they felt uncomfortable we have to know our self and we have to leave immediately. That's depend on us as a geust. I hope the best for us.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Duchess OBlunt for second visit on this day.

      It looks difficult to said to our guest about how long they want to stay in our house. But it have to try. And as a guest we have to know our position and we have to make the host comfortable with our visit. when they felt uncomfortable we have to know our self and we have to leave immediately. That's depend on us as a geust. I hope the best for us.

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      Support Med. 7 years ago from Michigan

      Well written and informative. Notifying the host is really good advice, it gives them time to prepare. And, true, we should not treat the host as if we are staying at a hotel. We should help as much as possible when we can. Good communication makes both host and guest responsibilities more welcoming and enjoyable. Good hub!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Support Med. for supporting this hub and share your opinion about this topic.

      I think you are a good guest. I agree with your comment. If we can place our self as a good guest we can get warmest relation between guest and host. Helping the host is important to do. have a nice day!

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      agusfanani 6 years ago from Indonesia

      Those are useful tips that not every one knows. We learn how to manner to be a good guest after reading this hub.

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      prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Welcome to this hub, Agusfanani. A hubland where we can learn such a manner like how to be a good guest. I hope this hub useful for us. Thanks my friend for always reading my hub. Cheers....

      Prasetio:)

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      Truckstop Sally 6 years ago

      Your suggestion of bringing a gift is great! You can always send when after your departure as a thank you too.

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      prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks, Truckstop Sally for coming to this hub and share your opinion about this topic. I hope we can be a good guest. Take care!

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      Peggy Woods 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Great advice as to how to be a good guest in someone's home. Voted useful and up.

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      prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Hi, Peggy. I am glad you enjoy this information. Thanks for give your vote to this hub. I believe you are good guest in every my hubs. Take care!

      Prasetio,

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      moonlake 6 years ago from America

      Great hub and all good things to do when visiting. I also take someting to read and my iphone or laptop so I can watch movies in private if they all go to bed. I'm a night owl and hate going to bed early. Gave you a vote.

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      prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you very much, moonlake for coming. You are one of my good guest and I am happy to be your host. I love your vote. See you!

      Prasetio

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      vespawoolf 5 years ago from Peru, South America

      These are great tips. It's so nice, in this day and age, to read such good advice! Now if we could all just learn to follow it.

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      prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks, vespawoolf for reading and I am glad you enjoy it. I hope this hub useful for us. Take care and have a nice day!

      Prasetio

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