How To Know When And How To *Hug* Someone In Any Situation:
Body Languages Speak:
Some people love to give and receive hugs, and some people would prefer not to be touched at all. To be able to know when to give a hug is sometimes difficult, especially if you do not know the other person well. Sometimes when you first meet someone, you should study his or her body language and try to figure out if they will accept your hug or push you off of him or her. The key is not to be afraid reach out and hug someone. Fear of touching someone may make the other person feel as if you are standoffish, angry, or plain do not like them. If you are not a "hugger", this article may not be for you unless you would like to work on being one. If you do not like to hug, a nice firm handshake can do. I hope you enjoy these types of "hugs" as much as I enjoyed thinking of them.
Hugs For Embarrassing Moments
Let's jump right in to the things we did that make us laugh (or cry) later. You know these situations. They are the kind you would rather forget. There may not be any hugging after these moments, but just in case...........
- One too many drinks hug: Sloppy and the equilibrium is not functioning properly. Actually, this hug is usually not embarrassing to the hug giver until the next day.
- The “nice to meet you, but I’ll never see you again” hug: At this point you really don’t care and go in any way you want with this hug. This hug is used sometimes right before the walk of shame.
- The famous "walk of shame" hug: A quick handshake (if that) will sometimes do. You don't want to make the receiver of the hug any more uncomfortable than he or she is already.
- The “sweaty person” hug: Designed not to absorb any moisture. This hug can be embarrassing but usually only for the person giving the hug. The receiver usually does not know he or she is sweaty or smelly. An experienced, considerate hugger will warn someone first before a hug when he or she or he feels they are sweaty. This gives the receiver a chance to option out of the hug.
Sometimes People Just Need A Hug :)
The Greeting In Any Place Hugs:
Why not act like you know a person when you don't? This will be an icebreaker instead of beating around the bush looking for the right words to say. These "unsure" hugs will make others feel so happy and these people will like you without even knowing you. Most people who get a hug from someone they don't know will say in their mind, "wow, I really like that person. They do not even know me but they reached out to me and made me feel welcomed and happy".
- The “I don’t really know you” sideways hug: Facing the same direction of the person, put your right or left arm around his or her back, leaning sideways touching the person's side. (Hence the "sideways" hug). When I first meet someone, I ALWAYS offer a hug. I am more of a "hugging" person, so a hug may not apply to everyone. For the sideways hug, when first meeting someone, you can walk close to the person, and say something like, "Oh, it's very nice to meet you". Then you can put your arm around the person's shoulder giving the other person a chance to do the same. If you are uncomfortable using this hug, try shaking someone's hand first. You do not need to go right in with a hug when you are first learning.
- The "Sunday after church" hug: This is a light, gentle hug used with both arms around the receiver's shoulders. One should never try to put their arms around a church attendees waste. He or she may find this offensive. This hug is intended for anyone attending church services including Priests and Pastors. Church attendees will appreciate these hugs since most people at services enjoy warmth. This hug is used for both greeting when arriving at church but also used when departing after service.
- The "accommodation" hug: When you do not require the receiving person to move. If you were ever in a situation where you see someone sitting and comfortable, but need to leave, the best way to say goodbye would be the "accommodation" hug. Most people feel "unsure" if they should go for a hug when someone is sitting, but I say you should go for it! This is saying to the receiver, "Hey I know you work hard (or don't)" or "I know you're tired, don't move, I'll come to you". People who are sitting comfy will love this hug. Try it on anyone!
- The "through the window of a car" Hug: OK, so you forgot to hug the person you just met, or your longtime friend goodbye.... Well, That's alright. I'm sure they won't mind you reaching through the window of their car to give them a kind farewell. Just reach on in and grab them if you know the person well. If you are not sure how the person will react, you can always ask for permission first.
- The "You just got engaged" hug: Of course if you know the newly engaged person, you go right in and give the person a great big hug, saying something like, "I can't believe you two decided to finally do it!!!" You can choose to squeeze, or choose not to use too much pressure. The amount of excitement and pressure depends on how well you know the person.
- The "You are having a baby" hug: Please see above. The "engagement" hug will also pertain to the "baby" hug; except if the expecting is a woman. Do not use too much pressure of course in case to hurt the stomach.
- The "You are going to be on Cash Explosion" hug: With this hug, most likely you will know the person if he or she is telling you they will be on the show. Go all in for this one. Make this hug as long as you want and as hard as you want. You may even kiss the person if you know them well enough. If you don't know them well, you may try and kiss them anyway.
The Sad Hugs:
Some people are very uncomfortable with this hug, so if you are not ready yet, a handshake will do just fine. Or you can tell the person you will be thinking or praying for him or her:
- The loss of a job Hug: A light hug is a great hug for losing a job. Put your arms around the receiver's shoulders and let the person know you will be thinking about them. You can also say something positive to lift his or her spirits.
- The Funeral Hug: People usually do not know how to act in these situations. If you are not comfortable hugging the person, you can just let the person know you are there for them. Even though I am a "hugging" person, I still have a hard time with funerals. Just remember the person who lost someone usually understands that others will not know what to say or do. By just telling the person you are sorry for their loss, your words should make them feel a little bit better.
Keeping Yourself And Others Happy:
I have always believed a hug can really help someone in any situation. If I am having a bad day and feel low, I always welcome a hug. I usually feel much better instantly. By the person hugging me, this also increases my self-esteem and self-confidence knowing that someone else cares and is there for me. Hugs are also good for confidence boosters. If someone has a hard decision to make, give the person a hug. Let them know he or she can tackle any obstacle. According to Sabrina Bachai at http://www.medicaldaily.com/hugging-healthy, "Touch and hugs also have the ability to help people who suffer from low self-esteem. Embracing inanimate objects such as stuffed animals or pillows can help to alleviate fear."
I have found that even the ones who say they hate people, really do not. If you offer a smile, hug, or funny joke, they start to soften and become a little happier. I really believe these "people haters" will start to like people a little more just because of someone's hug.
One by one, our world will become softer, sweeter, and less stressed only because you offered others something that everyone needs, a hug.