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How To Expose A Sociopath
How To Recognize And Expose A Sociopath
When we think about sociopaths, we think of horrifying crimes and we think about the perpetrators being in mental institutes or prisons. But that is not usually the case. Sociopaths can be very stealthy and are often never caught. Sociopaths will specifically use their intelligence to evade capture or avoid being noticed. They are intelligent enough to appear as just a regular person, holding down jobs and to some extent interacting with others. They can be highly intelligent, but all the intelligence is used specifically to avoid detection and continue their sociopathic behavior, which is very unique.
Sociopaths are rare but they can and do live among us. There is a fairly good chance you have encountered a sociopath at least once in your life. You could have crossed the path of a sociopath at your workplace or on the internet and not even realized it, because the nature and strategies of a sociopath is to remain undetected. The internet may even be conducive to a larger percentage of sociopaths than you might normally be exposed to, because the internet is inherently more covert. Sociopathic behavior, is a sociopath's nature. Just as a spider spins a web or a bat lives in a cave, it all comes natural to them. This nature can be magnified exponentially by their intelligence and ego.
One of the traits of a sociopath could include finding "much joy" in abusing their victims in some way, whether it's physical or emotional. Social settings of any kind are a sociopath's "playground". These can be places where they carry out their sociopathic behavior of avoiding detection, targeting victims and living out their disorder. What is especially unique about this behavior, is that the behaviors themselves all work in tandem or in concert for a specific goal, thereby exposing the specific traits of a sociopath and the sociopath herself/himself.
A key component, trait or activity, is that sociopaths will probe for sympathy or solicit sympathy in their social environment. They will use this tactic to analyze people around them, to gauge the depth of a person's conscience, amount of compassion or sympathy that various individuals are capable of. One way of looking at it is that they are basically creating chess pieces for their game. Playing this game is part of what brings so much joy or satisfaction to the sociopath as people are often hurt in the process in some form or another. In soliciting sympathy, they are not looking for actual sympathy, but instead they are looking for information they can then use or employ.
Avoiding detection is an important part, so anyone that has a strong conscience, who is capable of empathy, but also has good, sound judgement or anyone that is intuitive, that can sense or detect the sociopath, is a natural enemy or opponent to a sociopath. Those would be a high value opposing chess piece to a sociopath. Anyone in the sociopath's probe of sympathy or empathy in surrounding individuals that could be used as pawns against the targets, are also assessed and are incorporated as their own pieces in the game.
These "pawns" used by the sociopath might not want the discomfort of any negative attention or psychological abuse from the sociopath, so they go along with the game. It is far easier to comply, than face the other side of things with such a person. They might be chosen as pawns by the sociopath, based on the fact they may not particularly like the sociopath's victim or opponent. The sociopath may reward the pawn, with disingenuous praise, shallow compliments or superficial or codependent friendship that can pass for genuine friendship.
Pawns are specifically used to aid in targeting anyone that could expose the sociopath or the sociopath's games. Tactics could include drawing attention away from the sociopath's own involvement and to intimidate the target into silence or get them on the defense. They might be chosen as pawns by the sociopath, because in their analysis of them, the sociopath was capable of gaining sympathy from them, but the pawn lacked the ability to discern the sociopath or the sociopaths true intentions. For example, the sociopath sought sympathy from a potential pawn and noted it was a "blind sympathy", so they were recruited.
These unique traits and activities by the sociopath are all part of the game they like to play that has multiple purposes. The sociopath gets to manipulate people "for their amusement" but they also serve as a way to protect themselves from being detected. The sociopath will exhibit much joy or glee in playing their games. They can or will even brag about having no remorse or even entertaining the idea of remorse. Sociopaths have difficulty expressing normal emotions and will often mimic or copy other people's traits, words and emotions, to blend in, to avoid detection. Everyone involved is their victim, from pawns to targets, all just so they can continue playing their games.
These tactics, traits or games that sociopaths play are tried and true methods for the sociopath. They are effective at fooling anyone, even psychiatrists and law enforcement. Although fluid and dynamic, their tell-tale activity is very specific and if observed carefully, it can be recognized and exposed. If you think you might be in contact with or interacting with a sociopath, some questions you might ask yourself are: Have you noticed attempts to probe or enlist sympathy or empathy, by what seemed purposeful, insincere or disingenuous ways? Was there a solicitation for sympathy but it felt like it had an ulterior motive? Do you feel like you are being manipulated in any way to target specific people? Does the personality in question express inappropriate happiness when targeting, harassing or bullying specific people and then suddenly change course and make an appeal for sympathy or calmly rationalize their behavior? All these behaviors can indicate a sociopathic personality.
This article has been written to inform people about what I have personally learned through my own experiences, study and research on the topic of sociopaths that are part of society. This is not meant to be a full explanation of sociopaths by any means, nor share the full list of symptoms of a sociopath, though one can gather a lot through what is expressed here. Researching psychopathy, and other antisocial disorders can be helpful as well, as they can seem similar or overlap.
There is a book that goes into much more detail and gives examples of how they can cause pain in the lives of others while evading notice throughout the process. It is called The Empathy Trap: Understanding Antisocial Personalities by Dr. Jane and Tim McGregor. It goes into more detail about how others are used in the process as well to get what the sociopath wants accomplished. It develops the ideas shared here in a much more thorough way. In general, for your own safety, it is recommended to distance oneself from such a person if possible, reduce your exposure and potential liability or there will just be an ongoing cycle due to the nature of a person with such a disorder.
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