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How to Help Teenagers Deal with Peer Pressure?

Updated on March 14, 2011

Peer pressure can be very damaging to teenagers especially. They may end up doing things they'd otherwise not do - just to "fit in." Dealing with peer pressure is not easy because saying "no" often means you are ostracized from the group, you could be made fun of, you could be sneered at, you might not be welcome to hang out with the group. Since friendships mean a lot to people, especially teenagers, often times they can't bring themselves to say "no" and end up doing things that could damage their lives, sometimes irreparably so.

You wouldn't want your son/daughter getting addicted to drugs for example, or indulging in reckless and dangerous sexual behavior. Drugs in fact is one of the prime examples of how peer pressure can damage and damage quite severely. That first smoke/snort/injection/inhalation often turns into a chronic addiction.

You can enable teenagers (and others) to deal with peer pressure by educating them on what to do when such peer pressures come into play. You need to inculcate in them a set of belief systems (a list of things they would not do under any circumstance). They need to be taught that saying "no" does not mean you are any less "cool" than the crowd.

The best thing though is to have a friend for your child who believes in those value systems - who can support your child in that group - so that your child isn't the lone voice who isn't "fitting in." Parents can do a lot in this respect. They can choose some sound, good kids as friends for their children. Good friends can be like guiding angels - often times they support you and keep you from drifting with "the crowd."

Even if your child is alone in a group, tell him/her that saying "no" is often times more important than saying "yes." Give them examples of what drugs and reckless sexual behavior do to people. Reinforce the point that when it comes to drugs, there is no "one time." Let them know that that "one time" can turn into an addiction and that they'd be better off saying no the first time itself.


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      emmadilemma73 6 years ago

      This is so true. Not only is the peer-pressure of teens troublesome but also teen-bullying is a serious problem that needs to be dealt with as well.

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      Shil1978 7 years ago

      Thank you, snwrit, for stopping by. Glad you liked this hub!!

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      snwrit 7 years ago

      Good points! Thanks for sharing the tips.

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      Shil1978 8 years ago

      Thanks Daniella for sharing your story. I know what you are talking about. As you say, saying "No" is "do-able" - just wish more people can bring themselves to say it. Would save them a lot of anguish, if they did. The choice should be theirs - there should be no pressure!! Thanks for letting me know of your hub, would sure check it out :)

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      DaniellaWood 8 years ago from England

      Thank you for your hub, Shil1978. I'm a teenager and feel under a lot of pressure to drink - I've never liked alcohol and don't want to drink, but everyone always says "go on, it'll be fun!" to which I say "no thanks" and sit back and watch them get drunk, which isn't much fun for me, as you can imagine. It's difficult. Just having the courage to say "no" is difficult. But it's do-able.

      I don't want to make this into my life story, but I've never fitted in either, which I'm ok about, but I know lots of people aren't. I wrote a hub called "Dealing with Being Bullied" and I address some of the issues that children/teenagers sometimes have to deal with.

      Thanks again, Daniella

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      shikha kapoor 8 years ago

      Peer pressure should be handled with care.Teenagers can have disastous effect on their entire life.To prevent this one should learn to face difficult situations where humiliation is a big deal.

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      Shil1978 8 years ago

      Yes Melissa, there are always better ways at explaining. Perhaps, you could contribute in your own way and add to explaining peer pressure. Thanks for your comments :)

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      Melissa Moore 8 years ago

      I think that you couldve done better. but you did an okay job at explaining peer pressure but you should have maybe made up a story that explained how people feel.but good job!

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      MiMi 8 years ago


      ( KEEP ON GOIN')

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      Shil1978 9 years ago

      You are welcome Uriel - glad you liked it. Its an important issue and something that should be discussed with kids. They do have problems with peer pressure and educating them goes a long way in keeping them away from potential trouble.

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      Uriel 9 years ago from Lebanon

      Thank you alot for this really informative well-organixed and helpful hub. I do support you with all the points you discussed in your hub. Also i believe that the pieces of advice present here can come in handy when the time comes. Thanks for sharing . Uriel