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How to Avoid Being Bullied

Updated on August 8, 2013
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What is bullying? According to the National Center Against Bullying, bullying is when someone or a group of people with more power repeatedly and intentionally causes hurt or harm to another person or group of people who feel helpless to respond. Bullying behaviors can be physical, such as fighting or hitting. Bullying can be emotional, such as name-calling, leaving people out on purpose and gossiping.

Why do people bully? In short, they are insecure and making others feel bad about themselves, makes them feel good.

Unfortunately, bullies are everywhere! Bullies are in our schools and in our workplaces. Everyone at some point in their life encounters a bully! Let's talk about ways to prevent being bullied!


How Can I Avoid Being Bullied?

Build Your Confidence- If the bully views you as weaker than them, they are more likely to pick you as an easy target.

  • Do not give into the bully's demands.
  • Use your "I" words. Tell the bully, "I do not like what you are doing!"
  • Stand tall and look people in the eye! The way you carry yourself sends a message to the people around you. Having good posture tells others that you think that you are important!
  • Standing up to the bully will prove that you will not be pushed around!

Find a group of people that share your interests and support each other- A bully will be less likely to confront you if you are with a group of people.

  • Make sure that you find a group that is positive! Hanging around negative people can only bring about negativity!

Ignore the bully and don't let them see you upset- When the bully sees that you are upset, in their mind they won the little game that they were playing with you. Their intentions were to upset you and they did. If their plan doesn't work and they don't upset you, they will be less likely to come back a second time because the "game" won't be as fun to them.

Be prepared- practice and plan what you are going to say the next time you are confronted by a bully.

Embrace your uniqueness and make it cool- Talk about what makes you unique before your bully has a chance to try and put you on the spot. Let's say you just moved from another school. Introduce yourself and talk about where you used to live. It's not as appealing for your bully to single you out and try to make fun of you if others are now interested in what you have to say.

Don't be a bully yourself- "Treat others the way you want to be treated," is an excellent quote to live by. If others gossip to you, they will gossip about you. By bullying others and putting them down, you are inviting bullies to do the same to you!


I believe, the #1 strategy to avoid being bullied, is to build your confidence! A bully is going to be a lot less hesitant about approaching someone that might stand up to them than they are about approaching someone that they view they can easily gain control over. Start your day, with a self esteem affirmation! Tell yourself, "I am Special" or "I am Strong," every day! The more you hear those words, the more you believe them!

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      Sarah 4 years ago from USA

      Interesting advice. I hope people take what you wrote here and help them.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I agree with all of your suggestions, especially number one. I was raised in an old-fashioned way....my dad said you either stand up to a bully or you will forever be bullied. It was a hard lesson to learn, with many bruises and black eyes. :)

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      Melissa Propp 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Well-written hub and I agree that self-confidence is a huge factor in overcoming bullying. Of course, once you are out of school, the "bullies" can be a lot more subtle, like at work. But again, if you have good self-esteem and confidence, they will think twice about trying to push you around.

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Sarahshuihan, thanks! In addition to putting a stop to bullying, I think everyone should be educated on how to deal with bullying.

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Billybuc, I agree! When my two boys get a bit older, I want them to try out karate. That way they will learn the discipline and not walk around thinking they are tough but know how to defend themselves.

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Mpropp, thanks for the kind words!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Today's world is filled with bully's both young and old. We have to stand up to them or they will only take your self worth down. Wish our kids didn't have to deal with this, but your post is one that will help them to learn how to overcome the fear of being bullied.

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Thanks, teaches12345! I wish kids didn't have to deal with this either!!! :)

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Stephanie, this is such a powerful article with very practical tips. Very useful tips to instill in our kids. Excellent advice!

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      Audrey Howitt 4 years ago from California

      Well written and important--sharing this!

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Thank you, Careermommy! :)

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Thank you, Audrey!!:)

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      LKMore01 4 years ago

      Stephanie,

      Great Hub. Voted up and Awesome. I agree with all of the ideas and encourage parents, teachers and especially children to use them as a guide.

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      LKMore01, thank you!!! :)

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      ThyroidJames 3 years ago

      Great Hub and the best advice that could possibly be given! It's also great to see the link-resources posted below your Hub and people enduring bullying situations, should take advantage of those.

      My favorite line in the Hub is this one, explaining why people bully others:

      "they are insecure and making others feel bad about themselves, makes them feel good."

      Right on! Never a truer word was spoken!

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      stephanieb27 3 years ago from United States

      Thyroid James, thank you so much for reading and commenting! I have two boys (one entering first grade, the other starting pre-k). I have to tell you this whole bullying thing scares the life out of me! We had a great year in kindergarten and I hope that continues! I can only prepare them for bullies and how to deal with them. Like you said, they are here on the internet too. I would love to link to your book here on my hub if you want to share the title with me! :)

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      ThyroidJames 3 years ago

      I pray your boys will escape any of the overboard type bullying. You know as well as I do that they won't be free from some degree of it but they will definitely have the tools for defeating it, with your advice as outlined in your Hub.

      That's very kind of you to offer to link my book. The eBook version, is here: http://www.amazon.com/Bizarre-Bullying-Teenagers-S...

      If by chance the link doesn't appear on this comment post, this is the book title: "Bizarre Bullying of Teenagers Trying to Survive Life".

      I look forward to browsing/reading more of your hubs.

      James

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