How to Avoid Being Bullied
What is bullying? According to the National Center Against Bullying, bullying is when someone or a group of people with more power repeatedly and intentionally causes hurt or harm to another person or group of people who feel helpless to respond. Bullying behaviors can be physical, such as fighting or hitting. Bullying can be emotional, such as name-calling, leaving people out on purpose and gossiping.
Why do people bully? In short, they are insecure and making others feel bad about themselves, makes them feel good.
Unfortunately, bullies are everywhere! Bullies are in our schools and in our workplaces. Everyone at some point in their life encounters a bully! Let's talk about ways to prevent being bullied!
How Can I Avoid Being Bullied?
Build Your Confidence- If the bully views you as weaker than them, they are more likely to pick you as an easy target.
- Do not give into the bully's demands.
- Use your "I" words. Tell the bully, "I do not like what you are doing!"
- Stand tall and look people in the eye! The way you carry yourself sends a message to the people around you. Having good posture tells others that you think that you are important!
- Standing up to the bully will prove that you will not be pushed around!
Find a group of people that share your interests and support each other- A bully will be less likely to confront you if you are with a group of people.
- Make sure that you find a group that is positive! Hanging around negative people can only bring about negativity!
Ignore the bully and don't let them see you upset- When the bully sees that you are upset, in their mind they won the little game that they were playing with you. Their intentions were to upset you and they did. If their plan doesn't work and they don't upset you, they will be less likely to come back a second time because the "game" won't be as fun to them.
Be prepared- practice and plan what you are going to say the next time you are confronted by a bully.
Embrace your uniqueness and make it cool- Talk about what makes you unique before your bully has a chance to try and put you on the spot. Let's say you just moved from another school. Introduce yourself and talk about where you used to live. It's not as appealing for your bully to single you out and try to make fun of you if others are now interested in what you have to say.
Don't be a bully yourself- "Treat others the way you want to be treated," is an excellent quote to live by. If others gossip to you, they will gossip about you. By bullying others and putting them down, you are inviting bullies to do the same to you!
If you or anyone you know is being bullied, please check out these sites for more suggestions!
- Stomp Out Bullying
- What You Can Do | StopBullying.gov
There are things you can do to keep yourself and the kids you know safe from bullying. Find out more at StopBullying.gov.
An interactive, creative and relevant bullying prevention web site created for and by kids to raise awareness of bullying prevention in elementary schools for individuals and in schools, organizations, and communities.
- Teens Against Bullying
Created by and for teens, it’s a place for middle and high school students to find ways to address bullying, to take action, to be heard, and to join an important social cause.
Books About Bullying
I believe, the #1 strategy to avoid being bullied, is to build your confidence! A bully is going to be a lot less hesitant about approaching someone that might stand up to them than they are about approaching someone that they view they can easily gain control over. Start your day, with a self esteem affirmation! Tell yourself, "I am Special" or "I am Strong," every day! The more you hear those words, the more you believe them!