How to Explain Introversion to People Who are Extroverts
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- Introvert or Extrovert Quiz: Who are You?
Quiz and explanation of characteristics of both types as well as famous introverts and extroverts.
Personality of an Introvert
As the video explains introverts often find being in a group of people exhausting. Group settings for them are not easy and they would much rather fall back into the crowd than ever be the center of attention. Unlike their extroverted cousins who crave socialization and feel invigorated by large gatherings, parties, or functions.
For this reason introverts prefer to be alone in order to "recharge" themselves rather than in a group type setting.
How to Communicate with an Introvert
When it comes to communicating the introvert may come across as rude or less than empathetic.
An introvert is not interested in meaningless conversation. If there is no "meat" to a conversation or the introvert is not interested in the topic at hand they simply will not participate.
If the introvert does participate unwillingly, in an attempt to be polite; expect simple one worded answers in an attempt to stop any further conversing.
Keep in mind the introvert is not being rude he or she is just unable to become enthused in small talk; especially with people they deem as strangers.
Even simpler don't try to engage an introvert, let them do the engaging.
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8 Myths About Introverts Debunked
1.Introverts don't know how to have fun.
Introverts most definitely know how to have fun. Their definition of "fun" however is much different then the extroverts definition. Where an extrovert may enjoy a group outing or party type setting, the introvert prefers reading or less "busy" activities.
2. Introverts can become extroverts if they try and "fix" it.
Introverts cannot "fix" themselves anymore then a person who is left handed can "fix" themselves. There's really nothing to fix; that's just who they are.
3. Introverts are just quiet, creepy, dorks
Quiet - Yes.
Creepy - since they generally do not share their feelings, thoughts, or opinions with others I guess they could be considered as "creepy". Not knowing things make people uncomfortable.
Nerds - Again it depends on your definition of a nerd. Since they enjoy solitary activities like reading and writing they tend to be more creative and focused individuals. Creativity has been linked to higher IQ levels. Is being smart considered nerdy?
4. Introverts ALWAYS want to be alone.
No. Not ALWAYS. They enjoy their family and friends in small doses. After a hectic family gathering they want to retreat to peace and quiet. Let them.
5. Introverts don't like people.
Again not true. They don't necessarily like to associate with strangers, or talk about things they have no interest in and small talk will never go over well with the true introvert. However they do enjoy quiet intimate gatherings. Just not in abundance. They are human beings after all some socialization is necessary. Just keep it to a minimum.
6. Introverts are rude.
They are often mistaken as rude because they don't enjoy small talk. They would rather sit in silence in a room of strangers then associate with them. This can come across as rude, uninterested, or aloof to many. The introvert is not trying to be rude at all he or she is just being an INTROVERT.
7. Introverts are shy.
Yes, their personalities can be compared to being shy. Although if you ask their close friends or family shy would not be a word used to describe the introvert. But to a stranger "shy" would be a much nicer description then "rude".
8. Introverts are just depressed.
Are you an introvert or extrovert?
The Introvert and Depression
Are Introverts Depressed?
No, an introvert is not depressed, sad, unfriendly, or rude. Simply put they value their alone time and would rather stay at home alone or with a few chosen friends rather than follow a group to a large gathering.
If forced into an uncomfortable situation the introvert may become sad, anxious, depressed, or just plain cranky.
Of course any of these characteristics are a result of being uncomfortable in the situation and not a true indicator of the introverts total personality.
Introversion Vs. Isolation
Introversion - (in·tro·ver·sion) noun
a. the act of directing one's interest inward or to things within the self. b. the state of being concerned primarily with one's own thoughts and feelings rather than with the external environment.
Isolation - (i·so·la·tion) noun
the complete separation from others
Introverts are NOT Sociopaths
A common myth is that being introverted leads to isolation.
Isolation is usually one of the first things mentioned when sociopathic behaviors are being explained via the media or in regards to behaviors that are considered abnormal.
For this reason a person who is introverted may be mistaken for someone who isolates themselves from all human interaction.
Introverts like ineraction to a degree it just must be inneraction with a well known group for the true introvert to relax and feel comfortable.
While isolation is a key factor or symptom in being diagnosed depressed or mentally ill it is not the only factor in the equation.
Isolation and introversion are two different beings.
Susan Cain: Author of The Power of Introverts
For More On Introversion See:
- Jung's Theory of Temperaments
Jung's theory of psychological types is sketched as a prelude to developing a naturalistic ethics.
- Caring for Your Introvert - Jonathan Rauch - The Atlantic
The habits and needs of a little-understood group
- The Upside Of Being An Introvert (And Why Extroverts Are Overrated) - TIME
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