How do you change the cognitive component of attitude?
The cognitive component is really the thought process behind attitude. Has it ever happened that people called you out on what you are thinking about when they could not have possibly thought of that, it is because our pose or body language reflects our thoughts. We are complicated creatures. The life that has made this 100%-integrated system(cognitive-emotional-behavioral) has allowed others to recognize: what body language is, what confidence is and what a great attitude is. If you take siri on the iphone as an analogy, you see how it has changed its response with time when you ask it one same question multiple times. We simply can learn that fast. Even if we wanted to be stupid we can’t, I know this gave a laugh.
It could be a set of belief systems you have, the developed mentality, self-affirmations and focusing on positive things. These are Sam’s four pillars of the thought process according to my notion.
I can briefly explain mentality is a very essential part of attitude. It resonates or translates into how you show it in your actions. In order for you to develop mentality, you have to digest information that can enrich you, so you can follow a very-thought-out path in life. It happens that our body might age over time quickly, but our mentality age is not in line with physical age. We as human beings are lazy creatures by nature. We have not developed the habit of focusing on this personal growth.
As soon as you see this article, I recommend you check these books and look at motivational videos. I know I picked up motivational books because I realized the financial advantages. It has kept me emotionally positive. I have learned there is no point of losing yourself when we can’t control a person, a thing or a situation, but we can control our thoughts and actions we take. It's a different story in regards to controlling people if you are from the X-men lol , but you are not.
Some great books on Amazon are:
Some popular videos are by great motivational speakers such as Tony Robbins and Eric Thomas
Here are a couple of videos you can look at below.
Tony Robbins Seminar - Greatest Secret Ever Tony Robbins -
Eric Thomas Amazing motivational video, Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
styles of motivation
Whose style of motivation do you like better?
Developing your mentality will help you go towards the positive path and increase emotional stability (found in my blog: Attitude is how you visualize things around you http://sam777777.hubpages.com/hub/Attitude-is-how-you-visualize-things-around )
These are positive phrases you want to program in your mind. You want to build up this bank of positive phrases to serve as tool to combat the negative thoughts. You have to make a habit of going over this several times to mentally scrap off the negativity.
We always have a past or future story, so why don’t have a present story. Your present story is of a person you want to become. Take what you write in notepad of your iphone and stand in front of the mirrors. Say it so many times that you believe it and activates your feelings. After you start saying the positive phrases, you become who you wish.
I actually start off doing this in the morning because most mornings I'm not in the mood I want to be in. After I do this, I become calm and feel unstoppable. Try doing this.
According to David Mcgraw, there are things you cannot control such as people, situations and things. And there are three things you can control: the thought you think, the images you visualize and the actions you take.
Look at David Mcgraw’s video below.
Success Affirmations 101 Affirmations for Success
You have certain beliefs, which cannot be compromised. They are laws by which you operate. You do things for a specific reason. You will be questioned, but you have solid beliefs. You want to explain when you have to do them. Or if your explaining requires a lot of time and effort at one particular point due to restraint of time, then you set an appointment with the individuals. At other times, it does not matter what others think about you. This belief system can be changed according to you because of the loss it brings. It does not have to be explained, but if someone questions that you have changed a little off course, you can explain the implications of what loss it has or will bring in your life.
We don’t have problems in life. We have negatives and they are a given. We should not take an emotional standpoint of any issues and say why is this happening to me in life. Some negatives are own faults because of bad habits you have. You need to get rid of these habits because it will affect you financially. Or some of it just gives you a view of how underdeveloped you are mentality-wise. Take actions in conditioning those bad habits out of your life. You want to be the most refined product of yourself.
Once you realize those habits. Lay them on the table and analyze not on the problems but finding the possible solutions. If you can’t find them, ask a friend you confide in. It will put you on path of what you have to do and not worry about different situations that can possibly arise. Realize when you put into effect, you will face a different set of negatives in that path. You want to crush that negative to make it to the next destination on the path. Make the negative as a checkpoint or levels to make it amusing or fun for you. The negatives can be stop signs, red lights, and uncertainty where to go.
Focus on the positive
You should have mind mechanisms that break you from upsetting thoughts and habits. Or you should have positive self-talk or say stop Sam thinking about that. Do it even though it sounds crazy. It works!!
In order to break from the upsetting thoughts, you have to speak to yourself in the third person.
Sam Go do this……. Or that
You should have mind mechanism that brings you into a state that will engage in an activity that will fulfill your goal. An example of an upsetting thought is the thought that people are listening in on what you are saying. This is a public-speaking fear.
You want to make mental rituals such as positive self-talk to get you out of that phase.
Command for yourself: Sam stop thinking about the fear that people are listening and just speak in front of people.
Also, to stay focused in a positive way, you need to throw out your negative thoughts. You want to put your bad thoughts on a piece of paper to defog your sight. You want to find a solution for every thought you have throughout the day. You want to program your belief system to realize that there is no point thinking about your problems at the beginning of the day because you want your “day’s vehicle to drive right” or your mind.
The cognitive components of attitude are the sum of your belief systems, self-affirmations, mentality, and positive focus.