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How to overcome failures

Updated on September 6, 2012

Whenever we cruise through to what we called life there are series of failures that will test our mettle along the way. The weak are expected to fold up, while the strong ones are expected to pull through unscathed. Failures already forced some to cease living by committing suicide while the others who cannot cope up, fall prey to insanity haplessly.

Failures may come in different forms and magnitudes such as failing to carve out a passing grade, experiencing immense social embarrassment because of errors were made, disappointing people you love the most and the list goes on.

Since nobody is perfect making errors and even blunders are inevitable. It’s quite difficult to pick the shattered pieces of you once you fail big time. Anxiety, depression and desperation may set in. Oftentimes you become too sad, such that you will keep on blaming yourself for the mistakes you made.

Here are some things to do in order to avoid feeling the pain brought about by your past and present mistakes:

  • Lessen the chance of failure by reducing potential pressure that will bother you in the coming days. You can do this by having sensible, achievable and modest goals. This implies that you need to have some limitations. It is great to test your capabilities to enhance abilities and skills further. But be realistic. If you fail in a field of endeavor which is not your forte then let it be. You can be successful anyways in other things that you are very familiar and comfortable with. Excel in the things you feel like you are very good at and it is indeed essential to set goals that are doable. If you do your best on things that you are very interested and really good at and still failure appear again out of the blue, then do not stop doing your best and just charge this to experience to make you stronger and more mature.
  • High expectations from others can be potent venom to your well-being, whether they’re from your parents, teachers, relatives, superiors and among others. If lofty expectations are not met, crippling and even devastating disappointments and even unpleasant words about your so-so performance may come into picture. But bear in mind that you cannot please anybody else, though they are not doing this on purpose. Tell them straightforward about what you feel and together you can able to set goals and objectives that are attainable.
  • Making serious mistakes and committing a serious sin can also crush you. Guilt will be all over the place and to overcome this, you may repent and find help from older men in your congregation. Their helpful words can give you a shot in the arm to recover.
  • Slay the ghost of the past. Move on with the past mistakes that you made in the previous years. Pinpoint what you failed and what sets the stage for them to happen. This will make you wiser as you will not able to make the same errors again in the future and at the same time help you to forget the failures that haunt you at present.

Do not take life too seriously and find time to unwind and have some fun as much as possible. Do not get discouraged. Overcome your fear. Divert yourself to your family and spend quality time with them. Try a sport or a hobby to get busy with, healthy and fit. Remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel, no matter what challenges that will come in your way. There are a lot of solutions to multitudes of problems that can be troublesome and burdensome.

Source: Awake

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    • sergs_pogi profile image

      sergs_pogi 5 years ago

      I'm glad to see you again in HubPages. One thing I like is "slay the ghost of the past." Thanks for sharing this hub.

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      Gener Geminiano 5 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      Goals can be SMART and you can able to discern if it is attainable... Yeah you are right there you become so good if you put great effort and time on it....

      SMART Goals by the way means specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timeframed. Get it (:

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      Kenneth Brown 5 years ago from United States

      I have a issue with the suggestion of being realistic about goals. Who defines realistic? Also how can you know whether or not something is your forte without putting massive amounts of effort into it?

      Overall, this is a great topic. It really needs to be discussed since some people do tend to allow failures to destroy them when it is only temporary.