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How to tackle Negative Thinking

Updated on March 16, 2011
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Kulsum Mehmood is an Eye Consultant with 30 plus years of experience. She is single mother and a philanthropist. She is in a full time job.

How to tackle Negative Thinking?

In day to day living there occur many occasions when we tend to indulge in negative thinking. This is not good for our mental health. It leads to stress and many other stress related illnesses which manifests as high blood pressure, heart disease, acidity, loss of sleep, and mental illnesss to name a few.

Different kinds of negative thoughts come to our minds in various challenging situations. Here is a list of questions we should ask ourselves to get a very rational view about these negative thoughts:

  1. Am I being an extremist? Am I thinking in all-or-nothing terms?
  2. Am I condemning myself as a total person on the basis of a single event?
  3. Am I blowing up my weaknesses and forgetting my strength?
  4. Am I taking responsibility-or worse, blame- for something which, in the first place, is not my fault?
  5. Am I taking something personally-which may have little or nothing to do with me?
  6. Am I expecting myself, or another person, to be perfect?
  7. Am I over-reacting and thinking in terms of a disaster?
  8. Am I exaggerating about what my mistake would imply?
  9. Am I worrying about the way things ought to be instead of accepting and dealing with them as they come?
  10. Am I being a fatalist and assuming that I can do nothing to change the situation?
  11. Am I assuming disaster in the future when I can only guess about what may happen?
  12. Am I overlooking solutions to problems on the assumption that they would not work?

I do a couple of affirmations to boost my morale when faced with negative thinking :

I love and approve of myself the way I am….. Louise Hay

Out of this situation only good will come. This is easily resolved for the highest good of all concerned. All is well and I am safe….. Louise Hay

 

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    • Kulsum Mehmood profile imageAUTHOR

      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      6 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Thank you cristina for reading my hub. God Bless.

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      Maria Cristina Aquino Santander 

      6 years ago from Manila

      Great hub, greatpointers to live by. Thank you for sharing this. Remain blessed always and best regards.

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      BkCreative 

      8 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      This is an excellent list! It serves as a great reminder. Sometimes we get caught in a negative loop - I think we take too much personally, for no good reason - but then once you start down that road you seem to attract negativity to you.

      It's time to stop - take a deep breath - and read through your list. We spend too much time being miserable.

      Thanks for this reminder!

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      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      9 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Yes jayb. I will definitely vote for your hub. I hope you will come out as a winner. Best Wishes.

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      jayb23 

      9 years ago from India

      Hey Kulsum, my hub " The other side of Subprime Loans" has been chosen as one of the HUBNUGGETS nominees. Click on this link to read more about it. https://hubpages.com/community/HubNuggets-Overload

      Be sure to vote and ask your friends to vote for my hub! :-). It is only because of readers like you who liked my hub, that helped it to get nominated. Thanks.

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      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      9 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Thank you George for your list of 20 keys to a happy life. Very nice.

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      GEORGE VARGHESE 

      9 years ago

      20 Keys To A Happy Life

      1) Compliment 3 people everyday!2) Watch a sunrise3) Be the first to say "hello" 4) Treat everyone as you want to be treated5) Live beneath your means 6) Forget the Joneses7) Never give up on anybody ~ miracles happen!8) Remember someone's name9) Be kinder than you have to be10) Wish not for things, but for wisdom and courage11) Be tough-minded, but tender hearted12) Don't forget that a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated13) Keep your promises14) Leave everything better than you found it15) Show cheerfulness even when you don't feel it16) Remember that winners do what losers don't want to do17) Remember that overnight success usually takes 15 years18) When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten everyone's day19) Don't rain on other people's parades20) Don't waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them!

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      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      9 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Thank you marinealways for the comment.

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      marinealways24 

      9 years ago

      Great Article, you are able to see the "big picture". Thank You for sharing.

    • Kulsum Mehmood profile imageAUTHOR

      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      9 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Thank you jayb for the nice comment.

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      jayb23 

      9 years ago from India

      Thumbs up for a lovely Hub. Liked the affiramtions too

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      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      9 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Thank you MindfFeld for the corrction. And thanks for visiting.

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      MindField 

      9 years ago from Portland, Oregon

      Another important hub, Kulsum. Thank you for it!

      Oh, by the way, the author whose affirmations you quote is 'Louise' Hay, not 'Louie,' just in case anyone wants to look for her book, You Can Heal Your Life. It's been very helpful and influential to a lot of people.

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      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      9 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Thank you Chuck for visiting.

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      Chuck Nugent 

      9 years ago from Tucson, Arizona

      Common sense things that most of us already know and even agree with but, unfortunately, don't work unless we keep constantly reminding ourselves and practicing them daily. Great Hub!

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      hot dorkage 

      9 years ago from Oregon, USA

      Nice quick affirmations. I like your new picture much better too. :)

      Negative thinking will never get me down again ..... sometimes it takes a trial of fire to really bring that home.

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      someonewhoknows 

      9 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

      TWELVE GREAT VIRTUES

      devotion

      sincerity

      kindliness

      tolerance

      precision

      efficiency

      patience

      forebearance

      discrimination

      courage

      charity

      humility

      we all need to balance all of these virtues,each has a proper place,in our life,we have to figure out how each one fits into our daily life.

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      Trsmd 

      9 years ago from India

      Instead of opposing negative thoughts, encourage them. Use reverse psychology. Act as if you are superior to the thoughts. They are powerless against your free will.

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      countrywomen 

      9 years ago from Washington, USA

      Very good affirmations. Thumbs up for a fantastic hub. Btw here is a hub written on similar lines by another excellent hubber (Marie): https://hubpages.com/religion-philosophy/Why-I-Cho...

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      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      9 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Triplet Mom, Hi. We all do a lot of negative thinking now and then. We should stop it as soon as we ralise that such damaging thoughts are creeping into our mind. For me, I start doing the affirmatuions I quoted. It works. Best wishes to you. Thanks for visiting.

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      Triplet Mom 

      9 years ago from West Coast

      Kulsum - Nice hub, I am constantly catching myself with negative thoughts and talk. I try to stop myself and reverse what I am thinking or saying so that it is positive. It is not always easy to do but I continue to change my thinking and speak. Thanks for the hub.

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