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Teachers Should Take The Blame For Bullying In School Here's Why!
Annual Bullying Check 2014
- 51 percent of schoolchildren were disappointed with the lack of bullying support from their teachers.
- 26 percent suffered bullying every day at school.
- 63 percent were bullied purely because of their disability.
- 61 percent were physically attacked.
- 30 percent have gone on to self harm because of the bullying.
- 10 percent have tried to commit suicide.
- 83 percent claim bullying has ruined their self esteem.
- 56 percent say that bullying has hurt their studies.
- 41 percent who had NOT been bulled achieved A grades.
- 30 percent who had been bullied in the PAST achieved A grades.
- Only 26 percent of continued bullying passed their A grades!
As you can see, there is a huge gap between the non bullied and the bullied.*
The following is not directed at the many teachers who do a great job protecting our kids from bullies. But there are still many who just ignore or don't see what's going on in their classroom.
Long term effects of bullying.......
When you are bullied at school you never believe that it will change your life.
School bullying is something that you have to put up with, once you leave school then its over. You can get on with your life and forget your past.
But that's not how your mind works. What happens in those few years can totally change your path in life, and affect your relationships, careers and choices.
Leaving behind the feeling of low self worth is not easy. You never ever forget those horrible words thrown at you, or the nasty deeds that are done to your mind and body.
What about them.......?
But what's worse than the actual bullying, is the complete disregard of the teachers to your feelings and actions against you, day after day.
Teachers are supposed to be our protectors and helpers in the absence of our parents. There is always talk of helping children get an education when coming from a broken home, or having abusive parents, but where is the help for bullied children?
Nobody seems to address the fact that, if a child comes from a stable warm loving home and then gets projected into an environment where they are totally overwhelmed by bitchiness, attacks and mental trauma how are they going to cope?
My story.......How could a teacher be so stupid?
I was bullied literally from the first day of school. I remember a boy kicking and spitting at me, so I told my parents and my mother took me to the classroom where we confronted the child and his parents.
And this is where my life changed. Even at the age of five I had been brought up to believe in fair chances. I looked at the boy and told my parents that no, I had made it up. I believed that by lying for him he and others would think I was a good kid.
But it was not to be. The other children began to bully me in their childish ways. I remember one girl a couple of years older constantly picking on me. I kept quiet because I didn't want to cause trouble.
By the time I had got to middle school, the bullying was in full force. I remember one incident that made me begin to realise that teachers were not only treating us with complete disregard but deliberately targeting the bullied child.
We had to walk up behind the school to the end of the big playing field. I was on my own, others were in pairs. One pair kept talking. I was walking quite a way from the others, so imagine my surprise when the teacher shouted 'Who's talking?' Then looked at me and said, 'Nell it was you wasn't it? Go back to the classroom now'! She shouted it out so loudly I ran back inside.
I sat at my desk in bewilderment. How could she think it was me? Couldn't she see? When she returned I tried to tell her, but being so shy I just kept blustering on, and she said, 'Take your punishment, I want this work done before the end of class'.
Fair? Of course not.
Intelligence gets a double helping of bullying.....!
By the time I started the 11 to 16 year old school it just got worse and worse. I never bitched or bullied, and because of that I stood out like a sore thumb. I was intelligent for my age, far above the other kids in common sense and learning. That's not boasting, just a fact.
I felt much older than my years, and looking back I realised that even at five years old I was learning about Planets and Dinosaurs at home, not playing like the other kids.
I remember one incident that actually makes me laugh in a very ironic way. At 13 years old I remember going to school thinking, 'Great we are all teenagers now, nearly adults! No more bullying!'
Yep childish and naïve, but I really thought that at the time! I remember to this day how horrified I felt when I realised that no, its not going to happen!
And of course the teachers carried on totally ignoring my pain and humiliation.
WHAT ABOUT ME?
Two incidents really stand out among the hundreds of incidents.
The first being totally humiliated and embarrassed by the other kids when, sitting in a class lined up on seats that where placed together, all the bullies started yelling, 'Ew she stinks, get away from that....' and ' I am not sitting with that skank.....'
They also grabbed my school bag, threw it to each other and dropped all my stuff on the floor. My sandwiches for dinner were in there, and the stamped on them too.
Where was the teacher? Oh yeah, at the front of the class writing on the blackboard!!
She turned around, looked and then said 'Settle down please'!
Was that it? Was that all it was going to take? What about me? What about ME?
And still the teachers do not see.........!
The next humiliating incident happened in Commerce class.
The teacher was at the front writing on the blackboard, talking about how society used money and so on.
Meanwhile I was sitting at my desk being bombarded with pens, ink and glue which stuck in my hair, went on my clothes and all over my face.
The teacher just carried on teaching. She said nothing. I was too scared to move, and sat crying my eyes out.
Where were the so called caring teachers who were supposed to be looking out for me and others like me for Christs sake?
By this time my mother had been up that school so many times she had nearly worn a hole in the Headmasters carpet. But still it went on.
The total disregard of the teacher made me so sad.......
But among all this heartbreak there was one incident that to this day makes me angry, sad and wanting to punch the teachers face. Sorry but that's how I feel.
It was a good day. Nobody had picked on me and we had just got the exam results back for Music. For the exam we had to play the piano, listen to different tones, and read music. Then we had to sing.
The teacher read out the results for each of the students. Some had 54 percent right, others higher or lower. Then he came to me.
'Nell I am pleased to tell you, you have got 100 percent right'! I smiled, I was so pleased, and even better all the other kids looked at me in amazement!
I remember thinking.....this is it! This is the time for things to change, now the kids are looking at me in a different way.
I knew that when some students got a high score the teacher would say something along the lines of 'For being a great student at Music, would you like to join the choir, or even take extra piano lessons?'
This way the other kids, fickle as they were, would suddenly turn tail and be nice to them.
So I waited.......and waited.....but the teacher just smiled and moved on. At the end of class the other kids looked at him expectantly.
But nothing.....He just walked out the class and left me to it. The kids all turned to me and started laughing and shouting.....'Ah ha...you are not good enough, skank, even the teachers know it!'
I hated that teacher. I hated him so much I left music and changed to art. I wanted vengeance. What a bastard! He was the final nail that nearly drove me mad.
So I did the only thing I could think of. I lost it completely.
I take the law into my own hands and fight back.........
In my fifth year at the age of 15, a girl who had constantly bullied me from day one ran in front of me, and stopped, put her leg behind her and kicked me.
Next second I found myself throwing her against the Headmasters door. I hit her and hit her until four boys came over and dragged me off. She went off limping and shaking.
The worm had turned. I was never bullied again. Apart from one incident where I tipped a girl into a pond because once again she kicked me.
She obviously never got the memo!
So I would like to say, a big Thank you to all those teachers. For being completely blind, deaf and dumb to my pain. And thanks for sticking up to the bullies, not.
My life was dramatically changed because of school bullies. I met and married the wrong guy because I believed I was only worthy of him.
I never pushed myself at work, just staying the same old me in the same old job. Because I don't bully, and push and trample all over other people.
Oh? And I would have loved to study Physics or Science, and gone on to do the job I always wanted to do. But hey, thanks to the teachers I never had the chance.
I still managed to get 6 O' Levels when I left, but that was nothing compared to what I could have achieved.
I loved Science, History, and Geography. And of course Music. I had brains. But that doesn't matter, because when I left I am sure you gave the same thought and feeling to other poor kids who were bulled.
So, lets ask that question again.
Who's fault is it that kids get bullied?! I think you know the answer to that one.
School bullies are taught at home, Ignored at School, then go on to beat others down through life.....— Nell Rose
Teachers, take note and change.......
People always talk about school bullying and how to stop it. I say it should start and end with the teachers taking notice of who is being targeted, get them away, and help them.
Open your eyes, too many kids have taken their own lives because of school bullies. But all it takes is one teacher who can change that child's life.
And hey, here's a thought. If your child is getting constantly bullied, then take the school to court. Sue them for every penny.
If they ask on what ground, state the fact that teachers are supposed to be the carers of your children when at school.
Do this because your child's whole life is at stake.
Maybe then the school system will change. But I won't hold my breath.
And just remember......
Sometimes kids who get bullied fight back, because they have no other choice!
Now you have read this.......
Who do you blame for children being bullied?
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