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Information on Virginity and First-Time Sex for Teens
Virginity is something sacred and back in the day women saved themselves for their true love and the one that they would marry. It was unheard of to sleep around or sleep with someone before then.
Religious beliefs and morals that were instilled into everyone did no allow sex before marriage and women were proud to be virgins on their wedding day. Although most men wanted to play the field they wanted to marry a virgin.
In this century males and females have swept aside religion, and morals that are instilled today are not as strict as they were in the old days.
Peer pressure from friends and the movies that are on television make it difficult for kids today to stay virgins. Many families have given their children good advice and that is to stay a virgin for as long as possible where others have told their children to play it safe should they choose to have sex.
At one stage you were not cool if you were still a virgin at the end of high school but there are many people now that promote the "Chaste" lifestyle. Jonas Brothers were proud to state that they were straight edge kids and that sex and marriage were sacred.
Others followed in their footsteps and there are now many more teenagers that have decided to be "Straight Edge" which means no sex before marriage.
It is very difficult to remain a virgin when teenagers are exposed to the scenes that are seen on television and pressure from friends or partners can be difficult but nobody can make you do anything that you are not willing to do freely.
Sex is something special and it has to be with someone that you truly love and that loves you back completely.
It is a huge decision to make and can change your life completely, especially if it has been for the wrong reasons.
Virginity is sacred and there is nothing wrong with staying a virgin for as long as you choose to because at the end of the day only You have to live with your choices.
Dangers of Intercourse
It is not always as simple as wearing a condom because there are many diseases out there and a condom does not guarantee your safety. You have to know that disease is a reality and before you enter into a sexual relationship with someone, you need to know them and you need to know where they have been!
Pregnancy is also a huge problem with teenagers who have intercourse and just because a condom is involved, it is not a guarantee that you will not fall pregnant.
Even being on the "pill" or using other methods gives you no guarantee. Falling pregnant or catching a disease as a teenager can DESTROY YOUR LIFE!
You must also take into consideration that once you have had sex there is no turning back and if you have made the mistake of giving yourself to the wrong person than that will haunt you for life to. Word spreads and you will get a bad reputation and the very people that encouraged you to go ahead and do it will be the very people that will not want to know you.
Your parents will be greatly disappointed and sad to know that you gave it up so easily.
Before you have Sex
There are many things to consider before you have sex;
Love must be in the equation, if he doesn't love you and you do not love him then DON'T DO IT.
You need to plan ahead and get yourself on the pill at least six months before you commit to sleeping with your partner. Remember it is not a guarantee to protect you from pregnancy and neither is a condom.
Make sure that your first time is in a bed and that there is a romantic setting that will give you good memories to keep forever. If you can't have sex in a bed or in a romantic setting than you should not be doing it.
Tell someone that you will be planning to sleep with your partner because parents can see what you can't and if he or she is no good for you, they will warn you not to make a mistake.
Ensure that your partner has been with you for sometime before you just jump into bed with him/her. Get to know your partner well and date for a very long time before you make that decision.
It must also be a mutual decision and if either of you are not sure or ready than wait until you are. You have an entire life to live and rushing into things is unnecessary.
Once you have slept with your partner there is no turning back and your relationship will change!
Be prepared for change in your relationship and be prepared to commit fully and completely to your partner.
Sex for the First Time.
Having sex for the first time can be awkward and painful so you must feel comfortable with your partner and you should be able to communicate with each other on what you are doing.
Plan ahead or you could increase your chances of pregnancy which will RUIN your FUTURE.
Most girls bleed their first time but that is normal has the hymen is broken once penetrated.
Remember when that happens that YOU CAN'T GO BACK, so it is very important to know that you are making the right decision, with the right person and at the right age.
Special and Precious
Sex is a special and precious act between two people who love each other and are faithfully committed to one another.
It can be beautiful if it is with the one that you love. You should feel safe and comfortable with your partner and sex must be of mutual consent.
Remember that your parents are their to guide you into making the right decisions and if you feel that you can't talk to them then speak to an older sibling or a caring friend.
If you have doubts then don't do it as I said it will change your life and relationship.
Being a virgin and keeping yourself for marriage is not stupid or lame and it actually takes a very strong and intelligent person to wait!!
Bear in mind that your boyfriend in high school might not be the man you marry one day and once you leave school and head into different directions your relationship could change or fade away.