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Is there anyone who can help me out?
Sometimes people say, "I am totally confused with life. I don't know what to do and what not to do? I do not understand the purpose of my life and why I am living. It looks like everything about me and about my life has become stagnant. Growth of my business has slow down. My energy level and enthusiasm has slow down and not at all feeling like doing any thing. Negative habits and negative things are attracting me a lot towards them. I know everything but not acting on anything. Don't know why this is happening but it is happening so is there anybody who can help me to come out of my challenges.
First and foremost thing, I would like to say to them is that in the whole universe, there is only one person, who can help you and that person is you and only you and nobody other than you can help you. Yes what others can do is they can give you some advice and suggestion which they feel is the best to use in challenges, as they would have used those kinds of solutions in their tough times and that worked for them or they would have got those ideas from their mentors, so the best thing what others (including me) can do is this, that we can give you advice and solution what we feel will be the best for you, but we can't help you to take you out of your challenges because we are not in your shoe. We can see your challenge, we can understand what are you going through, but we can never feel your challenges, as you feel it because your and ours life situation, circumstances, environment etc. are completely different, so it is u who has to sit silently in some calm place and think, think, and think what best you can do to come out of your challenge. Yes, you must take others experience and advice as examples so that you have more choices to think what will work for you, so here is what I have to say for you.
Challenge, which you are facing, is a very common challenge, as many people would have gone through this part in their life towards their growth. Recognizing this challenge itself says that you are growing and this is just one of the process towards your growth. Just think gold has to go through the fire to become pure. Same is with the people who have the real spark of growing in their life has to go through different kinds of challenges at different parts of life. Remember if there is no challenge, then there is no growth.
So first and foremost, take a break from everything, from business, family, parents etc. and go for a small or long (what ever you feel comfortable) holiday trip. Do what you feel like doing (provided you should not feel regret later, so choose the activities properly) and enjoy the most what you are doing.
Meditation and exercises will help you
Other than that, start doing meditation every day, if you feel meditation is a tough task, then take some time for yourself everyday, sit in an isolated place and think about yourself about your goal, about your past (only happiness part), about your future etc. think what you feel like which will give you relaxation or do anything what you feel like for example, listening music or going for a drive, but remember you should be alone, no wife, no friends, no parents, no mobile, no TV, nothing, only you with yourself and your activities which make you relaxed (Caution: Don't get involved in any negative activity which may make you feel regret later). No no suicidal and homicidal activities are not for you. You are a gem and you have a fight with your own mind. You are so powerful because you are the only one who can help you.
Join some outdoor activities which make your body work out, it can be anything like aerobics, cycling, exercises, gym, cricket, swimming, anything which you like.
Then most of the time, be with those people who always appreciate and encourage you and your work and never give negative critics. Yes, listen and introspect all the positive criticism and always ignore negative critics.
Stop gossiping and criticizing others with your friends. If your are doing that, then you also have to face that, so better be a good friend. If you need a good friend, then first become a good friend.
Note all your official challenge and personal challenge into a paper and start exploring it one by one on how to solve it. Take others advice if required, but remember don't take others decisions, just take their advice and you decide what to do.
Stop blaming and complaining and take responsibility of your own life. Things will come back on track if you want them to come back.