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How We Learn From Maya Angelou. What Three Situations Teach You The Most About Another Person's Character Traits?
April 4, 1928 - May 28, 2014
CNN Obituary for Maya Angelou who died at age 86
We will be hearing life stories from those who knew and loved Maya, an award winning poet, actress, professor, singer, dancer and activist. We will hear readings from her biography. Our hearts will be touched from learning how she overcame adversity and pushes each of us to grow and flourish in a harsh world.
What Three Situations?
In what three situations would you be able to determine the most about a person?
Maya Angelou said, 'I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.'
Ms Angelou touches upon three situations in a person's life, that perhaps teaches us about how she herself deals with stress, since we all reflect each other. She uses these observations as a test of a strong character. Hypothetically, could it be that Maya finds a rainy day boring, confining, disappointing, or uncomfortable in some way. There are a few sayings like, "Don't rain on my parade," "Rain, rain, go away, come again another day," and, "I can see clearly now, the rain is gone. I can see all obstacles in my way."
When It Is Dark Outside What Is Going On Inside Your Mind?
Obviously, when there are clouds and the sky is darkened many people are stuck inside, may even have physical ailments like rheumatoid arthritis, sinusitis, or depression. Those painful situations may occur all due to rain and the weather.
When a sports fan, or mother of young kids, learns the 'game is rained out" and they simply can't go out to play, the result again is distressful, cooped up inside and disappointment that plans have been spoiled. Thus, this stressful time presents obstacles to keeping a sunny disposition and staying positive about life inside, no matter the weather outside.
Maya Angelou Teaches Us About Character Traits
What! They Lost My Luggage Again!
Strength of Character, Faith and Trust
The second signature question that Maya feels will tell about a person's nature is 'lost luggage.' This presents numerous opportunities for a reaction. Are the material things in the bag the most important of the trip, and can someone get along on the minimum or next to nothing? This might take a resourceful type. What if you lose all your clothes, personal items and even gifts for friends? Again, another disappointment and messed up plans. If you like to change into fresh clothing, this could be a challenge. How does one handle that? Are there others who will rally to the cause and help this person out? How does a person ask for help? A simple question brings up many tests in life. Loss of an anticipated vacation or grande time when traveling, or coming home and waiting to unpack all those lovely things delays fulfillment. Does one have the patience to wait for the lost luggage to arrive? Does one trust that everything always works out for the best?
Can you find the Humor in this situation?
Charlie Brown - Rain, Rain Go Away
What is your response to a rainy day?
When you have plans and the skies darken with clouds and an expectation of rain, do you?
Australian Lost Luggage Comedy Skit
Friends say when you look back on this time you will find the humor in it
Do you make light of a difficult situation?
Have You Got Sparkling Personality?
Treatment of Others When Frustration Turns You Into A Knot
Tangled Christmas Tree Lights represents 'frustration' to me. Is there a way to untie this knot? Will I find a way out of this lost situation? Am I competent enough to solve this problem? Will I remain calm, cool and collected while everyone is waiting for me to celebrate and put up the lights? When will I realize they will never untangle and its time to toss them in the trash and just start fresh.
How do I treat myself and others during times of frustration, delay, disappointment, pressure, sadness and stress? Maybe you will have other explanations for Maya's test to understand and know the character and temperament of a person. Maya specifically mentioned a holiday time, which is most stressful in itself.
Is this another mess you got me into, Ollie? Have you been wise enough to pack away the previous year's lights carefully? What is your time worth? What about your sanity? Santa has an answer below.
This is my solution, too.
Oh My Deer. What Beautiful Antler Lights You Have This Christmas
My Three Situations
Post your thoughts in the comment section below.
Three Situations That Tell A Lot About A Person
1. How they treat their in-laws, that includes the mother-in-law will tell if a person will open their heart, act in a dignified manner and welcome a new family into their lives. This may not be such a quick and easy matter, especially when in-laws come from different cultures, a different background, up-bringing, race, have different habits, interests, dietary needs, and living situations. How someone respects another person, especially in-laws will teach you a lot about a person.
2. How does a person behave in a strange, new and uncertain situation? Whether it means entering a room full of strangers or starting a new endeavor, I believe this will somehow tell us if persons have self confidence in themselves. Can they maintain composure, speak confidently both on the greeting level and the in-depth level. Can they enter or begin without getting flustered and trust that all will work out? I suppose this also tells us whether they have some type of faith and trust in themselves, others and at the spiritual level.
3. Does a person share easily? This hub has been a test for me. I started out just thinking, "Wow, Maya has insight into people based upon three little every day things. I wonder what others would consider their three selections. As I've been writing, it turns out that I am also testing myself and how I might perceive others and myself. What kinds of values are important to me?" This last question relates to giving freely, wanting to connect, feeling abundance and that there is enough for everyone. Sharing includes more than just things, like what is on your plate at the restaurant. Sharing includes you ability to tell someone how your are feeling and listen to what others are thinking, too. Sharing bonds people together. Sharing time, space, emotions, intellectual property and material property.
This hub has been quite educational and I will consider more ways I can learn about people and perhaps unconsciously how I act to connect with others by fulfilling these three qualities. Now its your turn. I'm listening to your stories and comments. It's enlightening to return year after year to the words of a great poet.
About the Author
Debby Bruck, CHOM founded Homeopathy World Community social network. Debby believes that homeopathy is the wave of the future that provides hope and healing to those who have tried every other approach. Find Debby on Twitter.
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