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Life in A-Town

Updated on June 24, 2011

Hey ya’ll,

It’s E. Short for Erica short for Erica B. Sanchez yes that’s I, Bellawritter23, the true me. I live in a town called Alhambra Long for A-Town, California. I am a divorcee with three children which makes me a single mommy. I am 28 going on extinct. I am American/Mexican. I started writing since I was about 6 years old, but back then it was all just scribble never any sense made of it. I started my journey back in September of 1982. I was born to a very young mother that was 15 years old and to a father who was addicted to minor drugs back then. My mom was an American citizen but my dad no I can’t say he was, he was a citizen of across the border (Mexico). Well I was conceived in Mexico but born to the U.S. civilization. My mom and dad where madly in love (apparently not) but my dad had a lover and her name was DRUGS, my mom didn’t know any better back then she was just a naive girl looking for her prince charming which she thought she found but any who, so where did I leave off oh yes my dad I guess was the real Mccoy back then and had many female friends and happened to exchange some loving with another female which makes that the mother to my brother Ha Ha (brother from another mother). Well any how my mom had me this gremlin you see today in my default pic yeah Hi that’s me.

She was too young to raise me on her own so we lived with my grandparents Grammies and Grampies. My mom found a lover man and decided to get married and make him her husband, well I wasn’t to happy to hear I was leaving my grandparents so my mom decided to leave me with them, don’t get me wrong she was still my mother and provided like a mother should, but I wanted my grandparents more than her, I know a bit harsh but I was only four who doesn’t want to be spoiled by their grandparentsJ. Well , my mom drove off in her happily married cart and moved into her happily married home while I stayed with Grammie and Grampies. Grampies not such a nice fella he enjoyed the bottle and the woman and the bars a bit too much. So gramies and I bonded way too much and grew more than her children. My grampies was becoming a very mean person and just was nasty on the inside.

Physical violence became a part of my mental recollection from the age of 5. Gramies couldn’t handle him no more so her and I carried on to another home and became the bestest of friends. Not only was she my grandmother/mother but my guardian angel. My anger for my grampies grew with age and well my mom she had her own problems with her so called husband she was pregnant with my sister and also had her very own case of abuse. Come on who didn’t in the 80’s. Well I turned out a good gremlin went to school did my homework carried on, but always wondered why my mom’s so called husband never looked for me he was my dad right? Oh well life continued. I was graduating from high school now at 17 and got accepted into a Fashion Design school and preceded with my dreams of becoming a fashion designer oh but wait rewind let me elaborate on my real dad.

Well I was led to believe that my step dad was my real dad no one ever spoke of my real dad so I assumed my step dad was my biological father. Well I guess you can say I was lied to on who my real dad was. So I asked, who else, then my very own grammies, she would never lie to me she just withheld the missing info. So I asked and she told me the whole story. I understood and I continued on that was around graduation so I continued living. I was now 18 almost finished with school because it was an Associate’s Degree. I had two jobs at 18 and a fool time college student. I met my Boy Friend at work and we fell madly in love so I thought. Barf, yes I was foolish enough to think he even loved me once. That was in the year 2000. Two years into our relationship we had our very own gremlin. Oh yes let me not forget I faced his ugly truth of his fists in my face. Blacked and blued skin the bed rests because of my broken bones, and so forth. Then something very scary happened and I was strangled and that widened my eyes to leave. So I decided to travel to Southern Cali, to go see, guess who? Yes bingo my real dad. So we met for the first time and he stared at the ground he not only did he have a daughter but a grandson. We sat together for one hour and talked. Oh yes he was in a drug rehab for heroin usage, the big nasty stuff that can kill ya. Well I lived with my aunt and uncle for about 3 months after that and decided I wanted to work things out with my demon (ex-husband). I moved back and guess what? I get a call six months shortly after telling me my dad passed away from failed organs due to a fall he had on heroin. Yes very disturbing and heart rending.

My real dad only new me for 1 hour and we were lost forever from there on. My abusive life continued nothing changed everything remained the same. 7 years passed and I grew stronger and gained maturity and decided no more abuse for me. I left him at the age of 26. I have struggled for the past two years with my emotions and have tried to find myself as they call it. It has been the hardest thing I have ever done. Raising three children alone is quite a task within itself. I have come a very long way and I stand here before you now. I found writing to be my outlet and I have abused it to the core. My emotions met poetry and have become my hugest obsession. I think to myself and look back at all I have been through and witnessed and say I am blessed no matter how much I struggle it is never too much for me. Some say I am a beautiful person within and out. I believe so or at least I try to be.

I am just a woman of three children who enjoys writing and reading and helping others through their difficult times. That’s it! That is me nothing less than what I said here. My life in A-town is just like every other person out here in this finely crafted weapon just trying to make a dollar out of fifteen cents. Well now you know my life my biography all summed up into 1,202 words. Till next time…….toodles!!


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      Charlotte B Plum 6 years ago

      You are a very strong women, and I salute your strength and courage!

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Charlotte B. Plum, A pleasure to meet you! Thank you for the wonderful comment. I dont think we have met or maybe if not welcome to my journey...

      bella

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      Mentalist acer 6 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

      Hopefully your destiny will be worth the journey,beautiful Bella.;)

      My sincere wish for peace and contentment sooner rather than later.;)

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Acer, Peace is what I lead to believe I have once in a while then there is those loops n holes and ditches I fall into but nothin that I cannot handle!!

      bella

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Oh Bella, Your life was a lot like mine, i never knew my Father. My Mother married several times, don't misunderstand, she loved me, but our life was always upside down. I'm glad to know you better. You are strong, as am i. We're survivers...YEA

      Cheers

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Always, It is funny how many writers have very similar lifestyles or lived lifestyles. I am strong and so are you we will be strong together :)

      bella

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      quester.ltd 6 years ago

      Strong enough to get yourself out of a situation - please make sure that your children know what you have gone through and that they need not go through it as well.

      Hold your head up - you have much to be proud of - without letting pride get in the way.

      My prayers go with you

      q

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      Wayne Brown 6 years ago from Texas

      Erica (Bella) I applaud you for writing this piece and I praise your effort to make things better for you and your children. Breaking out of the circular aspect of abuse and drugs is almost impossible for so many but you have found the magic...you must have a vision. You must be able to see yourself in a better place and time. Never lose sight of that perspective for you or your children. This is how we grow. It was the singular most important element which changed my own life...my ability to envision myself succeeding in life. You have talent as a writer and it serves as a fantastic emotional outlet in the low times. I hope you will continue in your quest...the effort is the hardest part...stay with it regardless! My best to you and your children. WB

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      mckbirdbks 6 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      You display an unshakable resolve. Your courage, strength and fortitude have taken you many miles from the storms you have walked through. It sounds like you are setting a fine example for your children. Wayne is correct, set goals for yourself, that is one of the secrets to pushing forward. The advice I give my daughters is, ‘Dig in”, that way each wave that passes does not sweep you away.

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      brewskitimeguy 6 years ago from Maine

      LOVE YOUR STUFF WOMAN...YOU ARE STRONG...AND DESERVE ONLY THE BEST LIFE HAS TO OFFER

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      Becky 6 years ago

      I was never abused and I thank God for that. I have friends who were and it is a horrible thing for anyone to go through. Break the cycle and make sure your kids know not to put up with it. It will continue on through them if you don't. My prayers are going out and they are for you to continue to be strong. God never gives us more than we can handle. Whenever times are hard, it is a learning experience.

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      attemptedhumour 6 years ago from Australia

      Hi Bella, what an honest and straight to the point account of your life. It's really sad to read that the men in your life were so unworthy of you. Being a mother is a great part for any woman to play and it sounds like you are starring in that regard. Writing helps all of us in its different ways. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sure it has helped you to move on in a more positive manner. Cheers from a wintery Melbourne.

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      James W. Nelson 6 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      Thank you, Bella, for sharing with us the real Bellawritter23. You truly are a beautiful person. Oh, yes, and I continue liking your new profile pics, and this one is one of your best.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Quester,

      I cannot tell you how hard it was and still is. My children were witnesses of the domestic violence that was being dished out. My oldest is very well aware that I try my hardest and what I do is for them. Staying with their father would have killed me mentally and possibly physically. I thank you for taking the time to comment and read my story!!

      Bella

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      WB,

      I thank you for the beautiful comment, I do have visions and bright ones at that. Breaking out of the cycle of visually examining my grandmother and my mother and then I being abused was more than enough for me. I do not want my children being a product of domestic violence. I try to do my best at writing and struggle sometimes with failure but it is all a learning experience. I thank you again with all my heart.

      bella

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Mck,

      Walking away was/is the hardest thing I never wanted a broken family but things happen in life that are inevitable. I take it as it comes and I roll with it. Setting short term and long term goals have been set for success. I have put forth a timeline for me and my children and I enforce it very strongly. If I don't do for us then no one will. Thank you very much for the warm comment.

      bella

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Brews, I greatly appreciate your comment. I try to do the best I can to my ability for myself and my wonderful children nothing less.

      bella

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Becky, I thank you very much. I welcome your prayers as they are extended. It is hard to break a cycle of generations. But it has to stop some place down the road. Thank you for your kind comment and thoughts.

      bella

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Attempted,

      A series of unworthy men yes. But I have faith that the right one will come along patience I have learned, and will continue to believe that one day. Is it what I focus on uhhh maybe not.lol . Thanks for the comment I thank you kindly.

      bella

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      sub,

      It is always a pleasure sharing my success stories even the bad ones. Thanks a bunch!

      bella

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      epigramman 6 years ago

      ...well, something I've never told anyone before, I am originally from Mars, sent here to your planet Earth to reside and observe human behavior and human nature - I must proudly say that you have been selected by 'our' people as someone who represents the resilience in humanity and as Gloria Gaynor once hit all the right notes in "I will survive" ..... yes you are a young woman to be admired for your god given talent as a writer, a patron and supporter of others here at the Hub and a really well rounded and decent human being who walks the walk and talks the talk ......this report will be send back to mission control via lake erie time 12:39pm

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Epi, You always make this woman smile. I appreciate the kind and warm comment. I try to the best I can for myself for my children and the ones I apreciate. I have survived and will continue to survive as long as I can until I cannot anymore!

      bella

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      Nikkij504gurl 6 years ago from Louisiana

      Blossom, dear, you should write a full auto-biography of your life. from start to present. You have been through a great deal of hardship and you have overcome them, and you are still standing strong and stronger every day, and many who read your story will learn from you. Theres much more to tell than just this, and so much more to write. I think it would be a great accomplishment. Who knows your life better than you?

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Sunshine you really think so?? Hmmm interesting maybe so you have planted a seed....

      bella

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      b. Malin 6 years ago

      You my dear Bella are a Beautiful Person, and one Hell-ofa Writer. Most Writer's have had crazy lives or upbringing that's what makes each of us Unique. I'm so glad I am following you. It is such a rewarding experience...And Never be too hard on yourself! LOL.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      B., you are the best. I thank you with all my heart for thinking that much of me! Hugsss from the sunny Cali!!

      bella

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      Nikkij504gurl 6 years ago from Louisiana

      well i am hear to help that seed grow. water it, feed it, support it, talk to it, comfort it whenever it needs it lol. I really think so. You have lived an interesting life, and your story is well worth telling and reading.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Well I wrote on how I met my dad a while back and just reposted it just thought I'd let ya know n thanks you are truly the best to think so of me!!

      bella

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      shygirl2 6 years ago

      bella...you have come a long way, in a very short time in your life. I think your grammie was probably your guardian angel. : ) Through all the ups and downs, the abuse factor and even neglect on both your real parents part...I admire your courage, not just in sharing but despite how you might think...keeping it together. Being a single momma is hard work. Living through abuse is even tougher, but surviving it all and keeping your head above water, with holding down jobs as well as schooling...that in itself, is a remarkable feat. You are a strong person. I believe you will be that image you hope to be someday and a good role model for your children. You are still young and love will find a way...a real love you can be proud of and shine through you. The right man is out there for you, who will treat you with respect and complete compassion. Hang in there when times get tough, as you've already shown you can do. I am so proud of the woman you've become, even if I've only met you here on the hubs. : )

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      A long way yes I have traveled. the thoughts of suicide, the thoughs of murder, the thoughts of pain, sorrow, hurt, deceit, betrayal, and many more. Have tought me a few valuable lessons. A crazy life I lived but I cherish it as my ignition and my fuel to keep me pushing for the better. I get weak at points but then I look back and see how far I have walked and decide its not my time to give up yet. I hope that one day I can be heard around the world through my writing and my past. Thanks for the thoughts Shygirl we have learned about each other which is not easy opening up to complete strangers at first but then we come to grow a special kind of care and tenderness for those who show an open heart even if its only through words!!

      smiles :)

      bella

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      tnderhrt23 4 years ago

      bella Girl, they say what doesn't kill us makes us stronger...you are a woman I admire, and what you have survived will touch and help many. You remain in my thoughts and prayers, always!

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      Erica Sanchez 4 years ago from California

      Thanks a bunches Mz. Marsha. Yes it hasn't killed me yet but it almost did a few months back yikes!!

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