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Maintaining a positive attitude

Updated on May 31, 2013

The thought patterns that people maintain influences every aspect of their lives because thoughts determine ones personality, quality of relationships, physical health, emotional well being as well as ones quality of life. Additionally every human being has an inner power, an inner strength within their mind to eliminate negativity and to develop positivity. In order to have a successful life, maintaining a positive attitude is very important. Some aspects of life require certain skills in order to strive to success. Thus, skills are easier to learn when one holds a positive mind-set.

For many people it’s not always easy to remain positive and keep a positive attitude, especially when things continue to go wrong and negative thoughts appear to take over with ease. Despite numerous people acknowledging the benefits of positive thinking, a great proportion does not know the actual way to think in a positive manner. Thus people might find it difficult to replace negativity with positivity.


Vera Peiffer: how to replace negative thoughts

Vera Peiffer, author of Positive Thinking:Everything you have always known about positive thinking but were afraid to put into practice, suggests a number of ways to replace ‘classic’ negative thoughts with positive ones.


1. Turn your weakness into strength.

Example: A negative thought would be: ‘God, I wish I didn’t have to go to my colleague’s party tonight, I never know what to say around strangers’. However a positive thought would be ‘I cant wait to go to my colleague’s party and meet interesting people. I enjoy being with people and I am a good listener. Others are glad when they talk with me’


2. Stop being the victim (when you discuss what bothers you, the situation may change)

Example: A negative thought would be: ‘I feel like I a fool. The man I have hired to take care of the garden always leaves the patio filthy and never empties the bins.’ A positive thought: ‘The man I have hired to take care of the garden is excellent. The only problem is that he leaves the patio muddy and he forgets to empty the bins. I’ll inform him when he comes next week. I am sure the issue will be solved’


3. Take care of your self.

Example: A negative thought: ‘My life is miserable. Nothing good ever happens’. A positive one: ‘Today is the first day of the rest of my life. Everything is different starting today. I’ve decided that I deserve to give my self a gift; I am going to the spa.’


4. Change the image you have about your self.

Example: A negative thought: ‘I’m so anxious about the meeting I have next week. Everyone will be looking at me and I’m going to freeze.’ A positive one would be: ‘I am totally prepared for the meeting I have next week. I know what to say, I can’t wait to share my opinion with others. They are always interested in what I have to say’


Nevertheless, Peiffer suggests that there are certain rules you must follow when you start having positive thoughts.

First rule, you must avoid using negative phrases. For instance, don’t say “I won’t be afraid” say “I’m calm and relaxed”. In other words think of what you want instead of what you don’t want.

Second rule, talk in the present not for the future. Instead of saying “I will feel confident when I will speak to others”, say “I am confident when I talk to others”. Your subconscious mind prints this information. It’s essential that you feel ‘confident’ now in order to feel the same way when you talk to others.

Third rule, you must continue repeating your positive thoughts because old habits are difficult to erase and you must insist on replacing them when ever they come up. Following this you will see that your positive thoughts will start coming up automatically.

The forth rule is: Start today.

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      Nithya Venkat 5 years ago from Dubai

      Easier said than done. Great pointers. Power of Positive Thinking - Needs a lot of hard work, pratice and patience. Voted up.

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      Chris Achilleos 5 years ago

      Thank you Vellur :)

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      stessily 5 years ago

      Chris Achilleos, Presented well with helpful suggestions for adopting and maintaining a positive attitude.

      Your fourth rule, "Start today", may seem obvious but it's important for taking that first step and every step thereafter.

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      TarHeelGreen 5 years ago from Tennessee

      I agree with the above. In my opinion the most important rule is #4. Many times, especially when guided by negative thoughts, we somehow put in our minds we will not be able to do something. Therefore we defeat ourselves without even trying. By starting NOW, we do not have time to wonder whether we will or not be successful. Instead our energy will be focused on achieving and that is definitely a good start!

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      Peg Cole 5 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      These are great suggestions for maintaining a positive attitude. I also believe that we can choose the type of day we are going to have every day when we awaken. One way to start the process is to read something inspirational each morning to set the tone for the day. Gratitude also opens the door for more blessings and developing an attitude of gratitude is another key to happiness.

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      Chris Achilleos 5 years ago

      Thank you for these very good suggestions Peg, reading inspirational quotes is very helpful. I agree that gratitude is another key to happiness. Thank you for reading and commenting :)

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      jojokaya 5 years ago from USA

      Very nice hub.

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      Chris Achilleos 5 years ago

      Thank you :)

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      L M Reid 5 years ago from Ireland

      Yes I certainly believe that what we think is what we are. But it is hard sometimes to keep a positive outlook all the time.

      I practice every day with positive thinking and attitudes though

      Thanks for SHARING. Up and Awesome

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      Chris Achilleos 5 years ago

      Thank you for reading and commenting. I know its hard to achieve a positive mind set, especially with all the challenges we confront today, but it is possible with lots of practice :)

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      Brian Leekley 4 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      Up, Useful, Interesting, and shared with followers and on social networking sites.

      My days do go better when I have a positive attitude and positive thoughts. If just before I do something, I have a brief mental image of doing it easily and well, I am more likely to do it easily and well.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      A hub ona subject so close to my heart and what a great hub it is. Your pointers and advice is spot on and I now look forward to many more hubs by you.

      Have a great weekend.

      Eddy.

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      B.Leekley and Eiddwen: Thank you very much for reading as well as for your wonderful comments. Unfortunately I haven't been writing lately due to moving to another country and had many things to sort out. I will be posting some new hubs really soon though. Hopefully you will find them interesting.

      I am very glad you enjoyed reading, as positive psychology is one of my favorite subjects :). Thank you both once again.

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      Elena 4 years ago from London, UK

      Thanks for a very inspiring, motivational and practical read. I am always amazed at No 1. Seeing people turn their weaknesses into Strengths. A positive mind is so powerful, but we need constant reminders. So, I am glad you wrote this.

      I will check our Vera Peiffer too.

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      I am very glad that you have found this hub inspiring and motivational Lady E. I truly believe that keeping positive is very important. I know that this may be hard at times, especially when unfortunate events take place. However, we must fight the negativity and move forward with a positive mind set.

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting, as well as for following, :) I truly appreciate it.

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      acaetnna 4 years ago from Guildford

      I totally agree ... with a positive attitude anything may be achieved. A great hub ... thank you for sharing!

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Thank you acaetnna :)

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      A great lesson indeed, Chris! I've seen positive thinking do wonders for me so I try to remain positive all the time. I agree we attract like things, positivity if we are positive and viceversa.

      Voted up and useful.

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Thank you very much for reading rajan, I am really glad you have found my hub useful. Your votes are truly appreciated.

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thank you for this hub! Voted up and sharing! I need more of this :-)

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Thank you very much livingsta, I'm happy you enjoyed reading :)

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      Indian Chef 4 years ago from New Delhi India

      Very interesting points chris... Voting it up

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Thank you very much Chef.

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      smw1962 4 years ago

      Very good advice. These items are definately worth working on.

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Thanks smw1962, I hope you find the information helpful!

      Have a wonderful week,

      Chris

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