Maintaining a positive attitude
The thought patterns that people maintain influences every aspect of their lives because thoughts determine ones personality, quality of relationships, physical health, emotional well being as well as ones quality of life. Additionally every human being has an inner power, an inner strength within their mind to eliminate negativity and to develop positivity. In order to have a successful life, maintaining a positive attitude is very important. Some aspects of life require certain skills in order to strive to success. Thus, skills are easier to learn when one holds a positive mind-set.
For many people it’s not always easy to remain positive and keep a positive attitude, especially when things continue to go wrong and negative thoughts appear to take over with ease. Despite numerous people acknowledging the benefits of positive thinking, a great proportion does not know the actual way to think in a positive manner. Thus people might find it difficult to replace negativity with positivity.
Vera Peiffer, Positive Thinking
Vera Peiffer: how to replace negative thoughts
Vera Peiffer, author of Positive Thinking:Everything you have always known about positive thinking but were afraid to put into practice, suggests a number of ways to replace ‘classic’ negative thoughts with positive ones.
1. Turn your weakness into strength.
Example: A negative thought would be: ‘God, I wish I didn’t have to go to my colleague’s party tonight, I never know what to say around strangers’. However a positive thought would be ‘I cant wait to go to my colleague’s party and meet interesting people. I enjoy being with people and I am a good listener. Others are glad when they talk with me’
2. Stop being the victim (when you discuss what bothers you, the situation may change)
Example: A negative thought would be: ‘I feel like I a fool. The man I have hired to take care of the garden always leaves the patio filthy and never empties the bins.’ A positive thought: ‘The man I have hired to take care of the garden is excellent. The only problem is that he leaves the patio muddy and he forgets to empty the bins. I’ll inform him when he comes next week. I am sure the issue will be solved’
3. Take care of your self.
Example: A negative thought: ‘My life is miserable. Nothing good ever happens’. A positive one: ‘Today is the first day of the rest of my life. Everything is different starting today. I’ve decided that I deserve to give my self a gift; I am going to the spa.’
4. Change the image you have about your self.
Example: A negative thought: ‘I’m so anxious about the meeting I have next week. Everyone will be looking at me and I’m going to freeze.’ A positive one would be: ‘I am totally prepared for the meeting I have next week. I know what to say, I can’t wait to share my opinion with others. They are always interested in what I have to say’
Nevertheless, Peiffer suggests that there are certain rules you must follow when you start having positive thoughts.
First rule, you must avoid using negative phrases. For instance, don’t say “I won’t be afraid” say “I’m calm and relaxed”. In other words think of what you want instead of what you don’t want.
Second rule, talk in the present not for the future. Instead of saying “I will feel confident when I will speak to others”, say “I am confident when I talk to others”. Your subconscious mind prints this information. It’s essential that you feel ‘confident’ now in order to feel the same way when you talk to others.
Third rule, you must continue repeating your positive thoughts because old habits are difficult to erase and you must insist on replacing them when ever they come up. Following this you will see that your positive thoughts will start coming up automatically.
The forth rule is: Start today.
- The Peiffer Foundation: Positive Thinking courses and books
The Peiffer Foundation: Positive Thinking correspondence courses and books
- The Happiness Consultancy - Happiness Weekends
The Happiness Consultancy - Happiness Weekend, March 2012