Let's Make Common Manners Common Again
Let's make common manners common again
Several weeks ago I attended a late office meeting in downtown Dallas. The parking lot I used was across the street and to the side of that building. When the meeting ended around 8 pm it was dark outside. We all said our goodbyes at the front door and then the men walked off in the other direction talking about getting some beers… and we went our separate ways.
I must confess that I was a bit taken back and surprised by the fact that I was walking to an empty parking lot alone and that not one of these men offered to walk me to my vehicle or even just watch me get safely inside it. As I walked nervously to my vehicle, I became very irritated at these men for their lack of common manners. Don’t get me wrong…I’m a modern women who believes in equality, but if I had seen anyone from our group (male or female) walking alone in a deserted parking lot, I would have taken the time to watch that they got into their vehicle safely. I have even done that with complete strangers. It’s just the right thing to do.
Another case in point, I was in my vehicle recently when a funeral procession drove by on the opposite side of the road. I pulled my vehicle to the side of the road to show my respect for the person and their family. There was only one other car that did the same, while many others sped by and ignored what was going on. It saddened me to see that and I hoped that no one in the funeral procession noticed.
When I was a child my parents brought me up to say “please” and “thank you,” to hold the door open for the next person and to just show common respect and courtesy towards one another. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been out shopping when the person in front of me enters or leaves the building and the door closes in my face. I have noticed over time that these common manners are, unfortunately, no longer common.
What happened? Did people just get too busy to care about others anymore? Are they too busy trying to get where they’re going to hold the door for someone? Are they too busy to pull over and pay respect to a funeral? I don’t have the answers to these questions, and even as I’m writing this, I can’t for the life of me come up with any life changing, enlightening words of wisdom. I do believe that there are still a lot of us trying to do our best to follow and pass on fundamental life principles.
I think that it all begins with the children. When we fail to teach children common manners, we fail as people and we are doing a disservice to them as well as society. Kids are molded by everything and everyone around them. They look to us for guidance and we must do our part in setting the examples and expectations. Please...start today and make it a point to say “please” and “thank you” to someone, hold a door open for a complete stranger, pull over if you see a line of cars with their headlights on. Walk with someone or watch them get safely in their vehicle. Let’s work to make common manners common again.
It’s just the right thing to do. Thank you! :-)