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Fat Women Are Hot! Men Like Large Women!
Anyone paying attention knows that the U.S. is a country of overweight people, both adults and children. According to statistics from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey (2011 - 2014) the prevalence of obesity in the U.S. was just over 36% of all adults between 20 years old and death. Obesity was higher in women (38.3%) than in men (34.3%)
Large Women Are Sexy Too
Large Women Are Self-Conscious About Their Bodies
Most people (both men and women) have been programmed to believe that for someone of the opposite sex to be attracted to them they must be beautiful and have a certain look that equals beautiful in our society. Generally that ‘look’ does not include being overweight or obese.
Statistics show that many women who do not meet the beauty standard, whatever it happens to be at any given time, do not want to have sex and will try to avoid it if possible. I am not just talking about women who are obese here. I am also referring to women who are slightly overweight, or who may have a wider bottom than is considered ideal, or who may have thick thighs, or a bit of cellulite. How negatively a woman sees her physical body will often determine how interested or willing she is to engage in sex even with her husband.
While very thin women (or men) may not readily come to mind when we think of people who do not fit the ‘ideal’ that society demands, they too, are often self conscious about their body image just as overweight people are.
Pretty much anyone who hates the thought of wearing a swim suit and or whose main reason for avoiding the water or other activities that require wearing less clothing and baring one’s body more than usual, has body image issues due almost entirely to society’s unreasonable expectations. Those unreasonable expectations are everywhere in the media constantly shaming people who do not meet the required standards of perfection.
Self-consciousness can be painful. Not just emotionally painful, but physically painful as well. Some people actually experience nausea and/or diarrhea or have other symptoms of anxiety at just the thought of anyone seeing them naked.
Overweight and obese people will often avoid going out in public fully dressed, even to the grocery store. They also avoid doctors and getting the healthcare they need because they can feel the disapproval of people around them in these settings, even if no ugly words or ‘looks’ are thrown their way — and often they are.
New recent study results from Plos One
A new study regarding men’s attitudes about large women has recently been published in a journal called Plos One, according to CNN Health “The Chart.”
The study re-examined what has long been known – that men who are stressed or hungry are drawn to large women.
Jacque Wilson writes for CNN Health, ” Scientists have long known that a society's ideal body size is shaped by their access to resources. Larger women are preferred when there is a threat, like limited food, because their bodies signify the ability to survive in hostile environments.
It should be noted that stress comes in many forms -- a bad economy where a man may be worried about losing his job, or about whether he can manage all of his financial obligations.
The study shows that the way men view larger women when they are under stress has not changed.
Very Large Woman Discovers Some Men Like Large Women
With all the negativity in our society towards people who are overweight, including the disgust many people voice regarding people who are obese, I was surprised to read about the adventures of an overweight woman called Alice on Huff Post Women.
Basically, Alice, aged 35 and very overweight, discovered over time and through many conversations with men, that what everyone had been telling her, and what the media had been programming her to believe, was wrong. It turns out that men do not want to have sex with skinny women exclusively. What they really want (many of them anyway) is to have sex with real women. Not many real women are sticks, even if they are not overweight.
Rebecca Jane Weinstein, yes, a fluffy person, writing for Huff Post Women writes that Alice learned that, “As it turns out, many of them [men] liked fat women, because they have big breasts, and big . . . [bottoms], . . . That was far more important than a slim waist and a flat tummy.”
Alice Finally Developed the Nerve to Try a Dating Site
After several years of anonymous experimentation over the Internet, Alice finally put up a listing on a dating site and she was honest. Her add: ‘"Are you single, attractive, around my age, and healthy? Do you love extra large women? Can you also hold a decent conversation? Single only, please."’
Alice was shocked. She received several responses from men who were not appalled or disgusted. They said they actually liked large women. That was the most shocking part given all the negative messages Alice had received about her body for years.
Alice claims to have learned a lot more things that I will not print here, but the most important thing she learned, I think, is that there are all kinds of men, and some of them actually like large women. Some of them actually think large women are sexy and beautiful. They actually appreciate large women even out in public having lunch, watching a movie, or simply having a conversation. Not just secretly behind closed doors.
Big Beautiful Women
More From Au Fait and Friends About Sex and Overweight
- How Often Do Women Think About Sex?
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- The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!
Terrible things people say about my weight. Am I that fat. My experience with people who have been nasty to me. "You are not alone."
- Do Men Really Think About Sex Every 7 Seconds?
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It Is No Secret That Some Men Just Want Sex and Not a Relationship
Even AskeMen.com says that large women are popular! They say it is because large women are ‘easier.’ Whatever the reason, they agree that men like large women.
The one thing I would say on this issue is that there are a lot of men who will take advantage of any woman if they can. It is a game for them and they know many large women feel like they should be grateful for any attention they get.
Well ladies, there is some attention you should not be grateful for. Like your skinny girlfriends, you should be particular. Do not fall for the first guy who comes along. Give the relationship a chance. If he leaves because you were not easy after all, he is no loss. Count your blessings that he is gone before you make a heavy emotional investment in him.
Patience is the key. Do not waste your time on someone who is only trying to use you. Giving your attention to him may cause you to miss the great guy who was interested in you as a person, not just a body, but you were too busy obsessing over the guy who was not being so nice, or the guy you misjudged thinking he was really interested in you as a person. So you never even realized that a great guy who was interested in you as a person, not just a 'object,' was there and interested in you, because you were focused on a shallow man who only wanted to use you. The wrong man.
Give time a chance. If he is really interested, he will not try to push things along too fast. In fact trying to push for a quick consummation is usually the epitome of a guy who is only looking for sex. If you are of the same mind that may work out, but if you are not, never feel obligated to give in.
Sex in exchange for a drink or even dinner is an insult at best. No man should expect sex in return for those things, nor should any woman feel obligated to provide sex in return for those things.
The Bottom Line
So after considering all the warnings and the good news here as well, if you are a large woman (or man) this news should let you know (if you did not know already) that there is no reason to hide at home, or to be lonely. There are people out there who would like to meet you. Nice people. You just have to take your time at determining who they are. So put on your war paint and your glad rags on and get out there and have some fun!
To see a short clip of a Big Beautiful Women's Beauty Pageant click on this line.
Kaiser Family Foundation
Percentage of obese people by sex and state
Stressed out men like larger women.
NPR Organization on obesity statistics