ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

The POWER of a Mentor

Updated on May 16, 2010

The word alone might sound alien to many of you, M-E-N-T-O-R.  Before I had one I thought people who had mentors shaved their heads, changed their names, put on yellow robes with red belts, learned an ancient form of Martial Arts, and moved to the mountains of Asia. Seriously (Almost).  That all changed a few years ago when I had the privilege of falling under the tutelage of a highly successful entrepreneur.  

When I was on the brink of complete burn-out in life I met a man who by divine providence changed the course of my life, my family's life, and many other lives forever.  I began meeting with him, listening to him, learning from him, and following him.  Why?  Well, I knew I had come to a point in my life which I did not intentionally plan on coming to.  But I did "plan" on it, as the saying goes, "failing to plan is planning to fail."  I had done virtually NOTHING on purpose up to that point in my life.

I was about as self-destructive as one can get and still somewhat hold it together.  And I use the word "together" very loosely.  That ALL changed when I received some NEW INFORMATION.

After modeling after my mentor for some time, (I took 10 years to screw everything up, it took more than a couple weeks to repair) I began to see some of his type of results show up in my life and eventually in my driveway!  If nothing else, in the beginning, I was learning to THINK like those who call their own shots in life, the wealthy.  I don't mean the elitists, I simply mean those who have the time, money, and results in life that match their definition of success.

Almost instantly I experienced improvements in my top priorities in life-The 5 F's:  Faith, Family, Friends, Finances, and Fitness.

EXPERIENCE

We've all heard that the best way to learn is by experience. Well, wouldn't you agree that if we can learn by other peoples' experience that's even better?! How can you know whether a person's experience is worthy for you to follow after? Well, it's all about the fruit on the tree. If someone is at a high level in any arena, it's a guaranteed they've struggled, probably more than you could imagine. The great news about that is they know how to get through those struggles and win. They're finishers. Anyone can start anything. Very few are willing to do what it takes to finish. If you find someone like this, grab on and learn.

Another great value which coincides with Experience is the wisdom and insight one gains from having made it to the "other side" of struggle which is victory. An analogy I love that is not mine is if someone has made it across a mine field and they have all parts still attached that person has knowledge to offer. Most of us see that figurative scenario in life and choose to go on our own way anyway, thinking we know better. This was me too many times to mention. By following someone through that "mine field" we can save lots of time, money, heartache, etc.

A cautionary note: All the experience in the world is nothing if the person doesn't have character. Do they do what they say? Does their walk match their talk? What are their relationships like? How do they treat their spouse, kids, co-workers, and so on. More so, how do they treat the proverbial "little guy"?

Find an upstanding person with a bunch of great experience which lines up with your values and aspirations and you have the makings of a wonderful mentor. BUT, that's not all.

CHALLENGE

This is where a major piece of motivation comes in. More often than not, left to ourselves, we will not accomplish nearly as much as we would with someone next to us, challenging and cheering us on. I know, you're probably saying, "I don't need motivation." Well, that's interesting, let's examine that. The last time I checked OLYMPIC ATHLETES need motivation. And statistically speaking, odds are you are not quite an Olympic athlete, neither am I. They probably have the highest level of internal motivation and discipline in the world and they still need coaches and cheerleaders. So let's not use that one.

A good mentor will buy NONE of your "logical" excuses. This isn't because your obstacles to success aren't real, it's because they know, by experience, you can conquer them. He/she will help you develop a game plan that will stretch you and force you to grow. Often times, through the relationship forged in this process you will meet these challenges simply to prove to yourself and show your mentor you CAN. I could go on and on about the value of a challenging environment, but for the sake of HUB-nation I won't.

BELIEF

I saved what I believe to be the most important piece for last. I cannot overstate the importance of this. Ralph Waldo Emerson said it right, “Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.”

Most people, including myself, grow up in a harsh and condemning world without a consistent, positive, affirming voice telling us we can accomplish greatness. Actually, we're told we can be anything we want to be until somewhere around junior high. At that point, we're told to get our heads out of the clouds and to stop fantasizing. Well, I speak from personal experience, my mentor is that affirming voice. He does not whisper blind positivity in my ears and he does not ignore issues. But, he does pour belief into me and I've benefited greatly in real ways from it.

There are going to be times in life when you will be kicked in the teeth per se. If you're an adult it's probably already happened. There is nothing quite like knowing you have someone no further than a phone to reach their hand down to grab your out-reached hand and pull you up. It's okay to have that kind of help in life. As a matter of fact, those who have been beneficiaries of this kind of love are much better of than those without it. Try it.

Find Someone!

I hope the insight I've offered here is helpful in YOUR life. I encourage you to seek out someone who has or embodies the principles and life you espouse to. If you are on top of your game, I encourage you to pay it forward and help a hungry student that could benefit from your wisdom. If you are actively involved in a mentor/mentoree relationship you know the gift you have. If you have been in the past I hope this Hub rekindles that fire and you pursue it again. We never "arrive" and once we're done growing we're ripe, then comes rotten.

"You don't know what you don't know and what you don't know is keeping you broke!"

This Hub is dedicated to all Mentors out there, thanks for all you do!

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • thevoice profile image

      thevoice 

      8 years ago from carthage ill

      terrific great hub read truth fact well read thanks

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)