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Waste of Life: How Other People See You

Updated on August 22, 2012
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In response to the question: Wasted! What are the important things that get wasted in people’s lives and in their lifestyles?

I think different people will have a different answer to this question. My definition of living a fulfilling life without wasting anything is that I successfully achieve a college degree, have a happy family and a meaningful career. Without thinking radically, I would be tempted to say that whatever people do differently are a waste of their time, their opportunities and talents. People waste their time by playing games, partying and/or watching TV. People waste their talents by not using them as all. People waste their opportunities by watching them slip by…

However, this is only based on my definition of fulfilling and wasting. Not everyone agrees. If you asked my mom, she would say I have wasted my time, energy and money to get my BA degree, only to end up being a stay-at-home mom just like her. And she didn’t event set foot in middle school.
If you asked my sister, she would say I am wasting my black hair (well, the number of my gray hair is visibly increasing) by pursuing a new career as a writer at age of forty-three.
If you asked my nephew, he would say I have wasted the opportunities to enjoy life, to be carefree.
If you asked my friends, they would say I have wasted a good university degree and talents by being a stay-at-home mom for twelve workable years. And I could have made millions of dollars if I had not abandoned my career for my kids.

Different people have different definitions of fulfilling their lives. I remember an old story about a business man trying to convince a very skillful fishman to partner with him and make big money. The fishman refused because he believed he was living the life of his dreams: only spending a few hours of fishing during the day and enjoying fun activities with his family and friends at night. But the business man saw it was a big waste of time, talent and money. He knew that with his business skills and the fishman’s fishing skills they would have a very successful business . He couldn’t believe that the fishman passed such a wonderful opportunity so easily. So he continued to sell his idea that he guaranteed the fishman would become rich within ten years, then he could go back to his village to enjoy the life he had now. The fishman just laughed, then asked the business man, "Why would I want to waste my time and energy to travel a circle like that?”

So I wouldn’t say that people have wasted anything in their lifetime. Everyone is just doing what he/she believes is worth of doing at that moment. Who knows, maybe whatever people are doing right now that seem to be a waste of time to us, might turn out to be the most valuable lessons in their lives or even help enhance their opportunities to a successful life in the future. All I want to say is that go with your heart and do what is better to you as long as it doesn't cause any harm to other people.


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      Ann Leung 6 years ago from San Jose, California

      Thank you wayseeker for your thoughtful comment. I agreed that sometimes we do things that seem to have no relevance to our future goal, but they do enrich our life experience and put new perspectives on our lives.

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      wayseeker 6 years ago from Colorado

      I like very much how this brings the idea of wasting time into a personal context. That is, what I consider to be a waste of time may be invaluable to you, therefore, how are we to judge the ways in which other people spend their time?

      It also gives me a bit of a new perspective on my own life when I look back on it. There are certainly periods of my life when I could view myself as having "wasted time" because what I achieved during those times has no relevance to my goals today. At that time, however, what I was doing was very important.

      I guess the real truth is that what I gain from all of it is experience in life. What we take away from that is always valuable, no matter what our current circumstances might be.

      A thought provoking hub. Nice.


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      Ann Leung 6 years ago from San Jose, California

      Thank you nightcrawler123 for approving my choice of enriching of my knowledge by going through the convention way is worth of the time, energy and money. I agreed that illegal activities are a waste of time, but to some people they just have to take the hard way in order to learn to be a better person in the end. :)

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      Ann Leung 6 years ago from San Jose, California

      Well said KittyHut. Thanks for commenting! :)

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      KittyHut 6 years ago

      I am for the opnion that nothing is wasted. Every thing happen to us is meaningful, no matter what it lead to, a failure on a success. once we fail on something, we will get exprience from it. And if that happern to us once more, I am sure we can handle it more skillful. Whatever things lead to, we won't be rewraded with empty. The point is that if we figure out why it happen and how it go after that occured.

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      Ann Leung 6 years ago from San Jose, California

      Thank you donnaisabella. I am glad that I joined Hubpages and met great people like you who share the same interest as mine. :)

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      Donaisabella 6 years ago from Fort Myers

      Hey Kitty, very interesting view. It seems you and I walk very similar paths in our age group. I am glad to meet someone who takes pride and stands for the decisions they have made and I hear you loud and clear. There are many ways in which people think others waste time, but really, may be that is just their way of doing life. I find watching telly a waste of time most of the time, my husband finds it relaxing, he thinks writing things online that gives me near to nothing in terms of an income is a waste of time; I think that it is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me! Wise words sister, wise words!

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      Ann Leung 6 years ago from San Jose, California

      Thank you Pealdiver for asking that interesting question and your approval of my answer! :)

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      Rob Welsh 6 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

      Well I wouldn't consider the time it has taken to read these wise words to be a waste of time! It gives me the opportunity to say thank you for answering my question so. It shows that no matter what else, you can communicate with others on the other side of the world with a whole different culture and find common ground! Thanks for a very positive slant on this question and Nice To Meet You.. you tell your cynics that you know Kiwi now! :) Take care.