On being happy in 2010
A key to being HAPPIEST in 2010
Stephen Covey wrote a book entitled FIRST THINGS FIRST The key to your joy is making sure you follow his recipe.
Let me explain.
He suggested that all and each of our activities could be
placed in one of four categories
He further inferred that we as good people always do the
URGENT AND IMPORTANT things
(or we might lose the house).
He also suggested we very often do the URGENT AND NOT
IMPORTANT things because society deems them urgent (like
regularly scheduled meetings at work that never result in
any action steps)
Additionally WE often do the NOT URGENT, NOT IMPORTANT
things (to keep from going crazy,
like rushing home to watch wrestling or American Idol on TV)
He suggested that WHAT that often goes lacking is the
IMPORTANT but NOT URGENT things in our lives.
He suggested that not doing these IMPORTANT but NOT URGENT
things will limit our joy and happiness.
Now what are some of these things we often put off doing?
What are these things we often say, “It’s important but I
can do that later.
1. Visiting your grandparents (or parents) in another state
(before they pass away)
2. Getting more education or training to increase your
3. Doing activities with your Spouse to increase closeness.
4. GOING TO THE DOCTOR.
1. Think about the things you do each day and categorized
them in one of the four quadrants
2. Now make yourself do more of the IMPORTANT but not URGENT
Stephen Convey also wrote the 7 habits of highly effective
Habit 1 said Be proactive
habit 2 is the first creation (in the mind).
Habit 3 is do FIRST THINGS FIRST
Put First Things First sounds very logical, yet we mess this
one up a lot of times.
First Things are not the things that need to be done first,
but the things that have to come first.
YOU decide what the first things are! In habit 2 you have
made a lot of these decisions.
The things that make you happy, the things that give you
fulfillment, those are the First Things.
ACTION STEP: Stop for a minute. Write down what makes
you happy. Think when was I the absolute happiest? What was
I doing? You will discover that you have spent most of
January 2010 doing things that in no way made you happy.
Change that for February.