People From Large Families Tend to Have The MOST Virulent Prejudice Against & Misconceptions Regarding Only Children
Small Families vs Large Families, A CLASH of Viewpoints & Ideologies
Small Family vs Large Family, A Clash of Differing Perspectives and Outlooks
There has been an unspoken war for a long time. This was has been ongoing for quite a while. This was has nothing to do with race, ethnicity, or even religion yet it is as evident as those aforementioned components. This was done to do somewhat with socioeconomic class. However, this war is based upon mostly lifestyles, psychology, perspective and outlooks. This was has to do with family systems and structures. To put it more specifically, this was is about certain systems and structures of families.
For quite a while, there has been contention, even dissension between small and large families. Small(1-2 children per family) and large families(6 and more children per family) have different and divergent, even diametrically opposite viewpoints. Each family type has a different culture and psychology as to its approach, attitude, consensus, and general construct. Although no two small and large families are alike, each family type has unifying factors in common. Yes, there is war between small and large families in terms of consciousness, culture, lifestyle, mindset, and psychology. Small families view large families as bulwarks from another, less enlightened era while large families consider small families to be the ultimate of hedonistic behavior, extravagance, materialism, and ultimate selfishness.
There are beliefs, even perceptions as to what family is from both small and large families. Small families and large families view things oppositely. Small families stress higher human needs, accomplishments, and success while large families main emphasis is on the more rudimentary human needs, struggle, basic survival, and nothing beyond that. Those in small families and large families have different influences as a result of belonging to their respective family of origin.
It seems that large families, for the most part, are highly judgmental and prejudiced against small families. To those from large families, small families are perceived as soft and decadent. They further argue that children from small families have it too good and too easy. They further remark that people in small families have no concept of struggle and doing without as they do. They seem to react viscerally against small families, especially in terms of their lifestyle and socioeconomic choices. However, they reserve their most vitriol and venom against only children. They see only children as the small family prototype of indulgence and self-centeredness.
The Attitude of Large Families Towards Only Children
Only Children in the Large Family Mind
People from large families have very strong opinions about those from small families. They look upon those from small families with scorn, even derision. It is the perception of those from large families that their counterparts from small families are somehow inferior and do not possess the stamina that they do because they have not endured nor underwent hardships and struggle as they have. They consider those from small families lazy, weak, and ineffectual because they did not have it as tough as they did. They oftentimes feel morally superior because they have experienced deprivations.
The average person from a large family has such vitriol against those from small families. The most vitriolic remarks and prejudice of those from large families are often reserved for only children. In their view, only children are viewed as the prototypical antithesis of them. Many people from large families perceive only children as having a life of easy, without any type of struggle and deprivation. They furthermore see only children as having a very easy life. When they inquire if a person is an only child and he/she answers in the affirmative, they sneer that he/she probably is spoiled or derisively assert that they hope he/she is not spoiled.
There are people from large families who have an animus of one form of another against only children. They find it really strange, even peculiar that people do not have many siblings like they do. If that is not enough, they find it quite perplexing, even weird that there are people who do not have any no siblings at all. In their purview, how do only children exist and have a life without siblings. They oftentimes look down upon only children because in their purview, they have no family as siblings are equated to family. They may see only children as incomplete people because they have no siblings as they believe that everyone should have siblings in order to be complete people.
Really CAN'T Fathom This At All
People From Large Families Cannot Really Fathom Only Chilldren
People from large families view only children as so diametrically different from them in terms of attitude, outlook, and perspectives. They really cannot understand how people can live without siblings. They also find it difficult to comprehend that there are those with very different lifestyles from them. They are of the belief that people should have the same lifestyle and struggles as they have. They rationalize that hardships and struggle make children develop faster and appreciate what they have. They contend that people should have and live on what is absolutely necessary and no more.
People from large families maintain that only children particularly never had to struggle as they did nor did without. They look upon the latter as spoiled and having it so easy because they had everything or almost everything at their fingertips. They further maintain that only children are woefully selfish and self-centered because they never had to divide anything among a large number of siblings as they had to. They point out that only children had individualized attention while they are lucky if they had any attention at all. They elucidated that they had to raise themselves and fight for what little parental attention and favor they got.
To people from large families, only children are just mollycoddled babies who always get the attention and perks. They further argue that what very little they obtained and received from their parents whether it was time, love, care, and/or material and economic resources, they had to compete fiercely with other siblings for them. They go as far to assert that in their families, those who are usually older were left by the wayside while the younger ones got more parental attention and resources. Their contention is that while only children endlessly received, they endlessly did without or if they received, it was so miniscule and insignificant in comparison to what only children received.
There's ENVY in the Air
People From Large Families Are Unknowingly Envious of Only Children
People from large families are quite fond of rationalizing that only children are spoiled, selfish, and even mollycoddled by their parents as a disguise of their latent and subconscious envy of the latter and their lifestyle. The average lifestyle of those from large families is categorized as one of constant economic struggle. Poverty and impoverishment is extremely common in large families. There simply is never enough money to go around and cover a large number of children. It is quite common for those from large families to have gone without, even the necessities.
On the contrary, only children grew up in economically affluent circumstances. If they were not economically affluent, they were near it or at least economically viable. They had monies allotted to them for the necessities and beyond. It was not usual for only children to have many of advantages and accoutrements that money can buy. They also had individualized time, care, and attention from their parents. They and their parents did not have to struggle day to day economically and worry if there would be even enough of the basics. People from large families saw that the lifestyle of only children was far different from theirs. They saw how luxurious the latter lifestyle was in stark contrast to theirs of penurious struggle.
So instead of realizing that there were affluent lifestyles that did not involve struggle and doing without, people from large families expressed covert envy, indicating that people who lived such affluent lifestyles are hedonistic, spoiled, selfish, and even materialistic. They remark that only children are spoiled and selfish because the latter's parents could afford to give and provide them a lifestyle beyond subsistence and struggle unlike their parents. So instead of recognizing a more affluent lifestyle as legitimate and normative, they viewed such a lifestyle as totally deviant, becoming more entrenched in a consciousness, mindset, and psychology of deprivation, want, and lack.
People from large families are furthermore envious of the individualized time and attention that only children received from their parents while they received very little or no individualized or even overall time and attention from their parents. Many people from large families cannot understand the very close relationship only children have with their parents. They interpreted such parent-child closeness to be mollycoddling children when in fact such relationships are quite normative. They are used to little if any parental involvement in their life, being mostly left in the company of their siblings, emotionally scrambling the best way they can. They saw what only children received from their parents, being envious of the care and love the former received but adamantly refusing to admit this.
Anger, Even MISPLACED Anger
People From Large Families Are Prejudiced Against Only Children Because of Anger
People from large families are prejudiced against only children and their advantages because of their misplaced anger. They are angry at only children for the opportunities they felt they should somehow received. They are also angry because they struggled from day to day while only children had every conceivable opportunity handed to them. They contended that it was grossly unfair for them to live at a level of bare subsistence, pinching pennies and always cutting economic corners while only children seem to never have had an economic care in the world.
Many people from large families have an animus against only children because the latter had lifestyles and opportunities that they were not going to nor never will receive in their particular lifetime. They viewed themselves as being stuck on the periphery, always looking in at the societal cookie jar. They never seem to have had any opportunities while in their purview, only children had, got, and received opportunities left and right. They felt that they were on the very short end of the proverbial stick and more likely to get the shaft, being left to struggle and barely survive as they usually did.
Many people from large families display prejudice against only children because of misplaced anger towards their parents because the latter put them in such bleakly dire economic circumstances. They are angry as a result of being poor and having to struggle in their formative years. So instead of being angry at their parents, they misplace their anger, taking out their frustrations on only children as they had it so much better than they did economically and in terms of other opportunities.
People from large families have looked upon those from small families with suspicion because of different outlooks, perspectives, attitudes, and lifestyles. However, people from large families tend to be virulently prejudiced against only children in addition to having many misperceptions about them. To those from large families, only children symbolize the complete antithesis of who they are in terms of family and lifestyle. There is also underlying envy in terms of economic lifestyles and never granted opportunities regarding those from large families in relation to only children.
© 2015 Grace Marguerite Williams