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Positive Attitude Can Help You To Make Friends

Updated on February 2, 2013

Positive attitude attracts friends


There probably are thousands of tips on how one can make friends. Websites and blogs have been built around the subject. And it should not surprise us. All of us want to have close people around us. But how can we get them? What if nobody wants to communicate with us? What if we actually repel people, not attract them? How do we solve that? There must be a cause why people run away from us and the answer should not be searched for in external circumstances. It is in our attitudes. Most of us lack positive attitude and this makes other people to distance themselves from us.

We are the causes of our own problems

Majority of people do not understand that they are the causes of their own problems. There is one underlying law present in the entire universe, which works for everybody. It does not matter if you know about it or not, try to ignore it or not, like it or not. It just works! It is the law of cause and effect. If you are in some specific circumstances, that you like or don’t, means that there are definite causes for that. Your circumstances are result (or effect) and the reason that caused them has to be found by you if you really want to change them.

It does not mean you have to start blaming or hating yourself for where you are, or feeling hopeless. No, all of us get into these kind of adverse circumstances just because we do not know how to form and control our attitudes.

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How does your attitude affect your relationships?

How does it work in friendships? A person may not have any friends just because he (she) thinks that they are not good, ugly, fat, not talented, not intelligent enough and nobody wants to be friends with them. These are not merely thoughts. These are inner beliefs that move things in material world. Anything that we say or do is born in our minds, thoughts and attitudes. These are later transferred to real world by means of words, actions and some other ways.

So, if you have been thinking and telling yourself how bad, ugly and unpleasant you are, do not wonder why people run away from you. These negative thoughts and attitudes are transmitted (in the spiritual real) to people who are your potential friends and they feeling this negativity are naturally repelled by you.

If you continue keeping to this negative attitude you will continue chasing away your possible future or even present buddies. Or you will start attracting people that resemble your own attitude – those who are negative, always complain, hate themselves, think they are ugly and etc. Oh yes, birds of a feather flock together. So take care what kind of feathers you have. I am joking. Feathers as you may understand are your attitudes.

As you read this you may probably see why some people are surrounded by cheerful, interesting, communicative, positive and self confident people, while others have friends that always complain, are unhappy and are ever dependent on external circumstances. It is all about their approach.

Your approach is more important than your circumstances, talents, education and etc. It is much more important how you react to what happens than what really happens to you.

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Change your attitude and friends will come

So, change your attitude from positive to negative and attract more positive friends to your life. How can you do that? It is simply a choice. You can think positive thoughts and stop negative ones. That’s where most people make mistakes. They have a wrong self image and they believe in that image and they think that it is impossible to change. It is possible! Some say:” I am that way and I cannot do anything to change that”. Yes, as long as you think that you cannot, you are right. But you can! You are this or that way, because one day you chose to be like that. Decide to be different today and you will change.

Now, even if you change your general attitude from negative to positive to whatever happens in life, this will have a tremendous impact on your relationships. People will be attracted to you like bees to honey. It will take off various boundaries from your life and folks seeing what a wonderful personality you are will rush to be friends with you. The most wonderful thing about it is that positive people will be drawn to you and negative ones either will leave you or start changing too.


I do not mean to say that you can change your attitude instantly. No, beliefs and thinking patterns are formed from our childhood till they become our second nature. But it is also never too late to start. And you do it by changing your thoughts and reactions to everything and everybody around you. Be an optimist and you will have a lot of friends.

I also did not mean my hub to be a thorough manual on how to develop positive attitude or attract friends. I just wanted to stress that developing first you naturally get the second. It only takes practice, time and patience. Well, maybe I should not say “only”. Patience is difficult. But not impossible!


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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Good topic and well covered. I believe that if you are positive in your frienships that you will infect those around you who desire the change.

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      fibo777 5 years ago

      Thanks for reading the hub teaches12345. Let positive attitude help you to achieve all that you want.

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      roland 4 years ago

      Good topic,but I have been trying that, sometimes what we see physical things or hear tend to influence my judgement on these topic,though is a nice one I like it,so teach me how to get done better

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      fibo777 4 years ago

      Hi, roland. Thanks for reading the hub. I write about things that I am learning about myself. I do not consider myself to be an expert in the field. So, teaching this kind of attitude is not an easy thing. I would recommend Tony Robbins books. He is good at achieving long term results by means of psychology and working with oneself.

      Have a nice day!

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