Pushing Creates Resistance
Pushing Creates Resistance
By Tony DeLorger © 2011
Forever challenged by life’s unpredictable onslaughts, I have come to realise that contending in any way with life is without purpose. Our knee-jerk response is to push back trying to uphold our will and to force life into fulfilling our wishes. Of course life has no intentions; it merely enacts the course and flow, the cause and affect of our erratic deeds.
One human fault that creates more havoc than anything else is our penchant for ‘pushing’. Forcing anything in life creates opposition by its nature. Let me explain. ‘For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction’. We are all familiar with this idea but don’t realise it applies to everything, not just in a physical sense.
When you mentally push against an issue, problem or task, you are conceding that it has power enough to push back. In other words your action gives strength to your issue, empowering it in your own mind. It is ironical for sure, but this simple philosophy explains a number of circumstances we create.
Mentally pushing against anything creates stumbling blocks and opposing circumstances. If you don’t believe me test it out. The next time you try to force something, note what happens as a consequence. ‘Pushing creates Resistance’. It is not always easy but being aware of this fact can help us to curb this bad habit and make life a little easier for us.
Emotions play a major role in this attitude of pushing, forcing our will. If we want something, we simply go hell for leather to attain it. We stir ourselves up, investing whatever it takes to be successful and our emotions are the catalyst. Success is always promoted as the result of commitment, tenacity and belief, but no-one ever talks about the act of pushing, that one step further that creates all the problems.
Patience and timing are far more affective tools in being successful. The other characteristics are important also but being lost in the frenzy can bring you undone quicker than anything else.
Force in life has always been present within our human existence. It’s commonly believed to be the course of winning. But no-one looks closely enough at the collateral damage or simply accepts it as a consequence of force. The fact remains that forcing anything creates loss on many levels and it need not be.
Without force, men would have to meet of mind, relinquishing the power of will and be open to intelligent compromise. This is attempted in the world constantly, peace talks and the like. But rarely do matters get resolved because of this forcing of will, a contention that creates stumbling blocks and adds further walls to break down.
Pushing creates resistance, which in turn creates circumstance. In the end it is like two goats with locked horns butting heads. Who wins depends on strength and endurance; the collateral damage cuts and bruises. Unfortunately in a global sense, butting heads has far worse circumstances. In global politics and war the collateral damage is life, and the destruction of homes and the basic rights to live a peaceful, safe life.
Pushing creates resistance, and whatever comes from it is no success.