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Remember You are Not Alone: The Thought of Suicide

Updated on April 6, 2017
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A Painful Time for Most People

Has everything become too much to cope with in your life?

· Do you feel there is no way out?

· Like when nothing matters anymore?

· Have you lost all hope and faith that things will get better?

· Do yo have no hope for the future?

· Do you blame yourself?

· Are you going to prove to yourself that you don't want to die?

You are just exhausted and at this moment feel you can't cope with the pain.

Sometimes, the pressure gets too much and individuals can be convinced that nothing matters anymore.

Suicide comes to mind at that point of their lives feel it is the-only way out of their miserable state of minds.

One can take their own lives and not even know how that would affect others. That sounds good and an only option to get away from their ruined lives.

· There is no way out life’s hassle.

Before individuals decide to take their lives they should first think of designing their own gravestones, complete with epitaph.

Start with the following:

Here: lies the name, Born; the date of birth. Died on a specific date, then the epitaph meaning a term written in regards to the dead person.

· What will others say about your life?

Leave a space for this and make a few copies of your headstone design. Give them to colleagues, friends, and your partner, kids or whoever else is close to you.

· Don't say you have no one.

· What about your doctor, or the shopkeeper where you buy your milk or bread?

You touch many people's lives whether you realize it or not. Let them fill in the blank space and return the photocopy to you.

Someone once did this who was in a problem.

This person who thought of suicide was amazed to discover what others thought about her and the role she played in their lives.

One never knows how much they are appreciated and needed. Once you start asking you will find it could give your life anew meaning as it did for this person.

· Do you have children?

· Do you have a mother or father?

· Can you imagine what Tom’s kids would have felt if he had taken his life?

Sometimes you can lose perspective, but your loved ones never do when it comes to what you mean to them.

Strangely enough you are not alone. At some stage you all fell hopeless and unable to carry on. Maybe that is how your neighbor or your boss is feeling at the moment.

Yes, it can happen to anyone, even those around you who look as though they have it all.

People get to a crossroads where they feel alone and isolated; they do not know in which direction to go or feel they can’t go on.

That is when you got to be there for one another when you need to be there for your neighbor or boss.

It is good for you to know what it feels like to be desperate and hopeless; it makes you even more valuable. Now you can help others when they get to this point.

If you persevere now you will be able to tell them of the day you lost perspective but woke up and came to your senses in time.

You will be able to mean so much to people to know how to change their lives around for the best and positive way.

· Think of anyone with exceptional skills and talent who committed suicide.

What a loss to the world!

It happened only because the person temporarily lost perspective. Look at the situation objectively and you realize it is so unnecessary. They had so many choices; so many ways open to them.

· You have choices too!

Off-course it is your right to commit suicide that is if you really want to go ahead with the plan.

Just remember to have that epitaph completed first.

While you are waiting for the photocopies to come back to you ponder a few things.

· Can you remember a time when you had an appetite for life?

· When things looked good and the future was hopeful?

· When everything made sense?

Take yourself back there and ask yourself what is so different now.

You might have lost someone or experienced a deep trauma.

So things can never be exactly the same as they were, but if you have once experienced happiness you can always find something new in life.

If not something then someone can make your life exciting all over again.

· The possibilities are endless.

The world is yours for the taking. There are things yet to be discovered or created that really can make you feel happy again.

· Still not convinced?

· Think about a time when things were really bad. You survived and overcame, did you not?

You have always been a survivor.

· Why is it different now?

Perhaps the only thing that has changed is you are older, wiser, and more experienced so you are in an even better position to handle things that used to upset you.

If you really want to commit suicide set a date a week or a month from now, and then think about what you would achieve in this time, your last opportunity ever.

You want to kill yourself so consider this: what would you do if you were told yo had cancer and had only one month to live?

· Does this begin to give you a sense of worth and perspective?

You have so much control over your life. You can end it or you can regard your problems as challenges to which you can find solutions.

· Remember you are not alone.

There is always help. You just have to ask. If you don't have a particular person in mind there always the choice of the church and many churches. The many organizations that wait with open arms to help and support you.

Wiggle your fingers and curl your toes. Go for a walk and listen to the birds. You are very much alive and filled with potential just waiting to be realized.

You will discover suffering and pain contain a message that can make your life even more meaningful and make you a more mature, richer person.

Crisis provides a chance to grow; you will miss that chance if you give up now.

· If you are contemplating suicide this letter is a must read.

· From a friend with lots of love.

The many thoughts suggested here are more than just an eye-opener for many who consider ending their lives so soon.

There is not much thought given into their situations you would surely find this information helpful.

· How often do parents say ''If only they had seen the signs?''

The signs are sometimes not seen by parents but only by the individual.

No sense in blaming others for not fixing the problem you got to prevent the suicide.

With deep thought the suicide can be prevented and one can move on easily with no issues.

· Why should you think in the attempt of a suicide and that you are alone when you are not alone?

There are many people around you who love and appreciate you. Don't forget that even those who don't show you love they care for you deep in their hearts. They just don't know how to express such feelings to you.

In taking your life it can shatter many people's lives around you and it is too late to try and save what is no longer there for you.

Live and let be experience life and faces up to challenges always remember you are loved and cared for by someone in your life.

· People can be selfish about quotes.

Think about your life

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      Devika Primić 16 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Hari I watched Worlds Greatest Dad, Robin Williams was the suited actor for this movie, and there are many individuals who feel it is the end at some point in their lives. It is sad that they feel taking their lives is the answer. Thank you very much for stopping by.

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      Harish Mamgain 16 months ago from India

      This is an intriguing subject. Some guys get entangled so badly in life 's complex affairs that they find no other better option. I think it is when the world becomes too harsh for some people that they lose all attraction for it.

      Not only the common folk but even the most intelligent people are no exception to this tendency. Your very thoughtful hub gives inspiration to get on life despite odd circumstances. I think, we should learn to accept all shades of life, good and bad both. Since you are daring in both thoughts and actions, this hub shows it all.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you!

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      Athena 3 years ago

      DIE!!!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      This is a subject so many don't want to talk about and that can often be the problems. Knowing you are not alone, seeking help from family, friends, medical professionals...there is help out there. Well done DDE.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      someonewhoknows you are right on and thanks fro sharing such a detailed comment on this topic suicide in my opinion is just plain selfish, trying to get rid of ones pain but also leaving others to think of their problems is not a right or kind thing to do

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      someonewhoknows 3 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

      The issue of suicide and religion is a touchy subject. Even more so, than suicide alone or for what is seen as selfish reasons.Like, getting something after the fact as a incentive which seems to be a middle eastern concept from what I gather.

      Suicide as a weapon of war is something we are all too aware of in recent times with the so-called war on terror.Something I think should be called the war of terror on those they disagree with.

      The Japanese used suicide as a weapon in connection with their religious views on life and death in wartime at least.In situations such as this suicide is considered an honorable way to die for them.For their country as, well as for their personal families honor.That's the way they see it!

      Countries around the world utilize this same religious and or patriotic view which in my mind is really a way to use people's natural tendency to want to be patriotic whether it be for country or religion It's really all just the same thing.

      Even we in the united states have our own version of patriotic suicide where war is concerned.

      However when it comes to religion and suicide we in the west tend to believe suicide is a cowardly act especially when it comes to our own personal pain and suffering.This may very well be true!Some people just don't have the will to fight the tendency to commit suicide for whatever reason that might be.Suicide definitely is one of the most personally contentious thoughts one can have.

      Some do it as an unselfish act in order to save another 's life in war as well as in peacetime where crime's in certain types of situations may give rise to the thought of giving up one's own life in order to save others lives. Some commit suicide simply because it seems less painful than the alternative in their mind at least .

      Personally If,I were too feeble to take care of myself I would be more inclined toward suicide if it were not too painful for myself and or those who I love and that love me. If, I thought,I had nothing to live for. I would rather not be just alive knowing it would be a waste of time and money or a burden on my family.Especially if I were not conscious.Then there are cases where people have been unconscious for years and actually regained consciousness only to have a really strange craving for seeing a particular rock band in concert like I heard about online not too long ago. Go figure!

      p.s almost forgot the insurance companies thoughts on the subject, butt then again forget it!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks Mhatter99 so nice of you to leave a thoughtful comment

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ending a life is not an option things can be talked about and there is always a solution to a problem thanks very much for commenting and I appreciate you stopping by Jackie Lynnley I am glad you shared what is on your mind.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      thelyricwriter so nice of you to share your true opinions as I read this comment I can see how truly you have thought of this topic, it is sad and also selfish of one to take their own lives leaving others with their burdens thanks for votes up useful and interesting

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Bishop55 I so agree with you and know not every one would agree with all you have mentioned here but I too feel the same, any one who goes down that road is low. Others who care will miss the person and feel its their fault for what has happened. So much of truth in your comment so glad you shared your opinions. Thanks very much for coming by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Beth100 thanks for sharing your valuable thoughts here there is hope if only could see further in life, for I so appreciate you taking the time and stopping by here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VictoriaSheffield so glad you came by thanks

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi CraftytotheCore it is sad when one thinks that way to take their lives and there are others who love and care for them surely a touchy event of life, thanks very much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and experiences.

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      I really like your thinking, but there is a disadvantage to living s dream.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      We all have down times in our lives and I am sure most of us have thought at one time we would like to not be on this earth but that should not mean we want to die. We all got over whatever it was and it is so sad the ones that end it cannot have that chance. It is never serious enough to end our life, never.

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      Richard Ricky Hale 3 years ago from West Virginia

      We have to reach out for these people. Are they overreacting? Probably, but I'm quite sure people has treated then poor or they've made some mistakes. I love that quote at the top of the page. We can't judge others. If you walked those same shoes, those same roads, then make your case. If you haven't, you don't know anything and you don't have the right to make such judgement. Shame on anyone that thinks otherwise. If you lost your kids, would the pain make you think of killing yourself? What is you lost everything? Heck yeah, it would. Everyone is always wanting to judge the cover, READ THE BOOK PAL! Then and on then will you understand.

      DDE, sorry, sensitive subject. You did a great job covering everything, I love that first quote you added, so true. Some people in this world are nasty and cold-hearted. It's a crying shame that they torture others. Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

      I know my response may make people mad. But here it is. DDE this is a beautiful hub btw, let me just say that first. However, I think that if someone is so low, that they'd result to suicide, they should just do it. 1.it's population control. 2. Nothing in life is so serious that someone should consider killing themselves and I personally believe it's a sign of weakness an the ultimate insult to our creator (whoever that even is). 3. Suicide takes great bravery and massive amounts of hopelessness. Personally, I have never been there, but have thought that if at particular moments I were to die, I would not care. But I'd NEVER resort to killing myself. It's usually based on emotion and lack of logic. I say this because life changes, that is the one constant we can all count on. If you kill yourself, it is typically caused from an emotional response and lack of consideration that things will change. My advice to someone contemplating suicide...reach out, get help if you need it, but whatever you are feeling will pass, so hang in there (not literally of course).

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      Beth100 3 years ago from Canada

      There is so much hope, but we, as humans, do not see it. We are bombarded with negatives -- global warming, war, invasions, revolutions, financial failures, global debt, the world ending.... the list goes on and on. The scariest part is that our youth are hearing, reading, seeing and being taught this on a daily basis. Their hope is thin and it is important for them to know that they are not alone. Despite what is "out there".

      You will touch at least one life with your hope and you will change their future forever.

      Peace and light.

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      Author Victoria Sheffield 3 years ago from Georgia

      This is a much needed article!

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      So touching DDE! I've known several people that have taken their own life, starting back to grade school when my childhood friend Brian took his own life on the train tracks down the street from here. Some people don't realize how much they touch another person's life and take their own thinking they are worthless. My husband's sister is an example of a person who touched many people, yet took her own life.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sheilamyers so true sometimes one can hide their feelings I have heard of many people who did commit suicide and just to think how they never spoke about their problems is really disturbing. We live in a small community os something like this really known, thanks for commenting I appreciate your thoughts shared here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Faith Reaper

      So kind of you to share such meaningful comment it is sad about these situations and thanks for all votes up and sharing

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      I've known someone who committed suicide and it still bothers me. He always seemed to so upbeat and happy and I think that's why it took us all by surprise. It would be so much easier if we could see the signs and we could at least try to help. I guess some people don't want the help so they cover up their true feelings. I hope your hub lets anyone considering suicide know that there are always people out there who want to help them. All they have to do is keep talking to people and they'll find the person who will listen and help.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Profound write here! Yes, it seems that is the thought indeed, that they are alone. What a sad reality for anyone to think such, whether it is just their perceived thoughts or reality, still sad that no one close sees the clues to intervene. I have heard many say, the person did not give even their closest family members and friends a clue they were thinking such and there was not even a sign of anything wrong that their friends or family even detected.

      This article will help many. Up and more and sharing.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi kidscrafts thank very much for commenting on my hub Remember You are Not Alone: The Thought of Suicide: so nice of you to come by it is however sad and painful to see how things can change for some individuals

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello MartieCoetser

      Most interesting thoughts here on Remember You are Not Alone: The Thought of Suicide: so meaningful to anyone in such situations and I am glad you found the wonderful life after depression. Thanks very much for sharing your valuable comment

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      I believe this hub will mean a lot to those who think suicide is the only way out. By the time we believe this, we are at the bottom of our state of depression, where it is too dark to have a positive perspective on anything but death. We should not allow ourselves in the 1st place to slip down and lose our hope and trust in the future. There are medicine and excellent programs to get the chemicals in our brain in balance again. These chemicals, empowered by our negative thoughts and perspectives, are enemies we can and must conquer. There IS a wonderful life after depression. I know, because I have found it.

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      A very serious subject that we shouldn't ignore! There are many reasons for people to think about doing that ultimate act. But the good thing... there is help. The sad thing.... some people don't have the energy or the will anymore to seek help!