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So, I'm an Optimist. Get over it!
It never ceases to amaze me how passionately some people dislike optimists. Just to make things clear, an optimist is someone who has a very positive demeanour, who sees the silver lining in every cloud and looks at the bright side of every dark situation.
An optimist will be the one who's smiling when plans to picnic in the park has been ruined by unexpected rain. They'll be the one to say, "Hey, we can have a picnic in my living room!" An optimist will be the one to take a job loss as an opportunity to get a better job.
I am like that and apparently, it annoys people. I remember my facebook status was one: "Well, I had a horrible start to me day. I guess that means it can only get better from here." One of my friends commented and wrote: "Your optimism makes me wanna puke." The best response I had for her was: lol.
“Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can't be done.”
- Bo Bennett
Where Did My Positivity Come From?
For me, thinking positively is easy. I don't know if it has to do with how I've been raised or it's just a personality I was born with. Whatever it is, positivity and optimism have always came easy to me. For some reason, I've always been able to look on the bright side of things.
You're probably thinking that means I've had an easy life, right? Or an easy childhood. Well, sadly that is not completely true. Things have been... well, bad for lack of a better word. There has been a lot of struggles that I have faced. Some of the things I've been through, no one would ever guess, by the smile that's always on my face.
The Role of My Faith
I have a very strong belief in Christ - in God. I go to church at LEAST twice a week and I just love it. Prayer is a great exercise in faith, hope and often leads to positivity. With faith in God, I know things will be alright no matter what. I've been taught that God doesn't give me more than I can handle. Therefore, all my struggles and hardships - I can handle it. I'll get through it and I know it can only make me stronger.
To me, when a hardship comes along, it's just another test. A test from God to see how I will handle it. From the looks of things, I think I've passed every test... well I sure hope so. In the end, I hope I can look back at my struggles and laugh at it all.
My Anger Inability
I have a remarkable sense of "forgive and forget." I CANNOT stay upset with anyone. I just cannot. If someone angers me, within the hour, my anger melts away. I'm not exaggerating. I just cannot hold a grudge and I guess I can tie that to my optimism. I don't know how exactly I can tie the two things together but there has to be a connection.
Sometimes I get upset with myself for my inability to stay angry. Sometimes I just wish I can stay angry with someone - at least for a little while longer. It's ridiculous. I remember once I got into a fight (yes, a physical fight) with my best friend. I was about 12 years old then. I was heated (I had a bad tempter)! Yet, to this very day, I cannot remember what in the world we were fighting about.
It's the strangest thing. After fighting with my friend, I was talking to her like nothing happened. I'm pretty sure that was less than an hour later.
Pessimists Vs. Optimists
I heard that people WANT to be around optimists. Optimists are supposed to make others feel better. They can share their ability to turn a bad situation into a good situation. At the same time, people are annoyed by the sunshiny nature of optimists. It simply irks them that optimists can be so... well, optimistic all the time!
I remember my friend yelled at me once for smiling when a class field trip was cancelled. My thought was: "Well, we get to do nothing all day!" We were still in school but since the trip was supposed to be an all-day event, there were no lesson plans. We watched movies all day basically. It was great.
They say that opposites attract but it is a fact that pessimists do no like optimists. Pessimists are those who are very negative. Pessimists make bad situations are far worse than they are. When bad things come around, they feel death is near. Pessimists walk around with a dark cloud over their heads, optimists walk around with a rainbow over their heads.
I'm Not ALWAYS Happy
I'm an optimist but I do have times of negativity. I mean, I can't be happy ALL THE TIME. Only people who know me very well have seen the negative side of me. Only people who can see into my heart can see when I'm in a mood of pessimism and negativity.
It's usually during times when there is a lot on my plate. That is the ONLY time you will see my negative side - when I'm stressed. But at the end, I can talk myself into looking at the positive side of things.
I've been called annoying so many times JUST for my optimism. But I'm an optimist! I'm not going to change that. It's what keeps me alive. It's my coping mechanism; my method of survival. It's what I thrive on! I'm an optimist! Get over it!
For my Health Psychology class, I've finally chosen a topic for my APA Research Paper: "The Effect of Optimism on the Immune System." I've started doing research and I'm fascinated. I'm going to share my research with HubPages through an optimism series. Keep posted! :)