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Social Skills|Definition of social skills

Updated on July 2, 2012

In one of my previous hub I wrote about 'How To Build Social Skills'. I only gave a brief definition of what social skills are assuming that many already know the definition. To my uttermost amagement, I found this question to be highly searched with a record of 246 000 searches monthly in Google search engine. I did a research in hubpage and found several hubs but not so directly answering the question "What Are Social Skills" This hub will answer that simple yet highly searched question in a more practical approach so that the reader can easily understand.

I will also explain two aspects of social skills, and how to evaluate your social skill status and provide some common scenarios where social skills are used.

Link to "How To Build Social Skills"

Below is a video I decided to include to refresh your memory from my previous hub link of which is given above.

Short Video On How To Learn Social Skills Easily

Lets Define Social Skills

The Phrase Social Skill is made up of two terms;

Social & Skill

So to understand better, we dissect the phrase and define each words separately and then tie them up.

Social: The term social can be used in many different sense but in our case, it refers to our characteristic as human beings and how we interact directly or indirectly with one another and the environment around us.

Skill: The Wikipedia definition of skill is a learned capacity to carry out pre-determined results often with the minimum outlay of time, energy, or both.

Social Skills therefore are any skills that that involves interaction of people with another and with the environment around them.

Two Aspects Of Social Skills

1. Verbal: This aspect of social skill involves spoken words and involves the ability to know the right thing to say, when to say it, how to say it and saying it in an morally acceptable manner.

2. Non-verbal: This aspect of social skill involves body languages such as standing up straight, making eye contact, making appropriate gestures, leaning toward the person one is speaking to, smiling appropriately, and keeping the body open when communicating.

Do you feel this way most of the time?
Do you feel this way most of the time? | Source

How Do You Tell If You Need If You Need Improvement In Social Skills

I guess you know it already. Now take a very closer look at your relationship, career, business, finance and family. Are you satisfied with what you have?

This is the basic question I use to assess myself when it comes to evaluating the status of my social skills. You can do the same.

These are just some personal questions to help you out.

  • Are you a shy person?
  • Love to have more friends but don’t know how to make friends
  • Are you confidnt being around other people?
  • Search for words when you meet new people?
  • Do you feel lonely always?
  • Sometimes feel like there's nobody to turn to when you need support?

If you answer yes to more than three questions in this list, then you have some work to do if you really want to be successfully in certain areas of your life, say, career, relationship, finance, family etc..

People Interacting In Different Ways Using Social Skills

Social skills are used in many different ways and in different situations. See different scenarios in the videos below where people use social skills

Use Of Social Skills in Social Event-Wedding

Using Socials Skills in Work Place or in Business

Using Social Skills In Schools

Using Social Skills In A Family

Using Social Skills In Relationship

Lovers chatting
Lovers chatting | Source

Final Words

There you have it. We defined the phrase social skill, discussed two aspects of it, learnt how to evaluate our social skill status and summed up with videos on using social skills in different scenarios.


Grade Your Social Skill Status Here

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks much WhyTheHappen. Cheers. Ian.

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      WhydThatHappen 5 years ago

      You've got some serious style, Ian. True Fan, right here

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      Ian D Hetri 6 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thank you Denise for your continuous support. i appreciate your comment. I wish you and your nephew an enjoyable learning experience.

      Regards from the Pacific.


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      Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

      Ian-this is an important hub with useful info. I have a nephew I am raising and it is a constant 'battle' to teach him social skills. Well done.

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      Ian D Hetri 6 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks for commenting. At least we have some humour in the hub. At first when I was putting together the hub, I thought the Jerry Bruckheimer was kinda unfair with the new guy but then I realised all he was doing was brain-storming for ideas which he did well enough to capture a brilliant idea from some one who came unprepared.

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      rLcasaLme 6 years ago from Dubai, United Arab Emirates

      The meeting with Jerry Bruckheimer was really hilarious. I had to look around me before laughing.