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Suicide and its consequences
The game of life is hard to play. Im gonna lose it anyway.
The losing card I'll someday lay so this is all I have to say.
That suicide is painless it brings on many changes...and so on says a song written by Mike Altman and Johnny Mandel.
Suicide definitely brings on many changes.
We all have been there. Maybe we still are. Some of us might have tried to attempt suicide in the past and luckily survived. Many people were although successful on their first try and they never got a chance to get out of their state of mind and realize that life can be worth living.
I have recently been talking about suicide with couple of people, as there was a girl who jumped off the bridge near my town. In the middle of the night, she took of her clothes and was standing on the edge. Someone saw her, called the police and they quickly arrived. However, she jumped. And survived because they quickly got her out of the water. Now she is in a really bad state in the hospital...she might die, she might never walk again, hopefully her body will heal and she will look at her new life differently..
Some of my friends think that suicide is not acceptable and really judge people who leave this world that way.
Maybe it is quite selfish and certainly not a great way to solve any problems.
Loneliness, Illness, financial problems, sadness, losing our motivation to live, feeling of not being wanted, feeling that our loved ones will be much better off without us, depression - this and much more can be reason for someone to take his own life. It takes a lot of courage to do that. It's very scary. But sometimes staying alive can be more terrifying and we never know what was happening in that person's head.
If someone decides to end his life, the ones who keep suffering are the ones who loved that person.
One of my good friends called Rebecca. We met at school and were bestfriends for a long time. She has a fantastic smile and is one of the people who always make you laugh.
However, her childhood wasn't great, her parents divorced pretty early and since a young age she has been looking after her grandparents. She loved them to bits, don't take me wrong, but part of her childhood was taken away from her.
One day, we were 19 and were supposed to meet up for a coffee, when I got a text:,,Tragedy happened - I can't come.'' I immediately assumed something happened to her grandpa and I was completely wrong. She found her own dad hanged in his flat.
She was 19, getting ready for Drama school interviews, and her life completely turned around. Although she found hard to get close to her dad, she loved him very much.
Later on, she found a goodbye letter. Her dad wrote that no one loved him but his sister. And he has lost his power to live long time ago.
My friend loved him as much as a daughter can love her father. Realizing that her dad didn't feel loved, was heartbreaking.
Everyone, I mean everyone, was absolutely surprised by this. He was a successful bussinessman who seemed to have everything he desired. Massive shock.
7 years ago, and Rebecca still keeps going back to that day. If not in a day time, then she dreams about it at night. She felt very guilty and often she thought about what she could have done to prevent that. How comes she didn't have a clue about what's going to happen. How comes he did it without explaining his reasons. Why didn't she see his sadness, and how comes she didn't realize he was depressed.
Nowadays, Rebecca has a good job, brilliant boyfriend (they just finished renovation of their house) and she keeps acting. She tries to live her life to limits and enjoy it as much as possible. Her beautiful smile is back on her face and if you met her, you would think that she is one of these attractive, lucky, funny, perfect women whose life was probably very easy. She definitely belongs to one of my heroes.
I could go on and write about much more people who had similar experience as Rebecca. Not only their family members, but also friends, best friends. One of my friend's best friend slit his wrist last year. She found out the next day and attempted suicide the same week. Fortunately she survived. She just couldn't understand and also this was a second best friend of hers who died this way. Overwhelming.
All these people whose loved one chose to finish his life on his own, have many things in common.
They are one of the bravest people I've ever met and can be inspiration for many others. They keep their heads up and fight for their place on this planet.
They all were absolutely devastated when they found their loved one dead, or when they received the news.
It could happen one year, eight years or twenty years ago, but the memory is still alive and the feeling will never be forgotten.
Their heart broke into millions of pieces. In a few days, few weeks, few months or few years, they searched the pieces and puzzled them back together. It will never be the same but ,,the show must go on.''
The most vulnerable souls, sometimes lost in a large field of fear.
They are amazing people with strong personalities and they live for this moment.
And finally they would love to get back in time to have a chance and show their loved ones who ended their journey, that life can be beautiful and they will make it through together. Whatever fears they had, they would face them together. Together we can change the world...
We all are down sometimes. Sometimes we can be very tempted. My experience is that people who talk about suicide, don't attempt one. People who always smile and seem completely happy, think about it. Or worse.
Let's show our love to our friends and family as often as we can. Let's make people wanted and let them know that they are not alone.
Somewhere over the rainbow
Song mentioned above - Suicide is painless, known as a theme song for the movie and TV series M*A*S*H:
Inspirational books. The alchemist from Paolo Coelho certainly affected my life couple of years ago. I read couple of his other books and always enjoyed it.
The secret - this book teaches us to achieve anything we want.