How to Heal DID with System Unification Method (Video)
Your Brain is Hardwired to Survive
Healing Dissociative Identity Disorder
Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) has been a very misinterpreted, underestimated, misunderstood and feared diagnosis for both survivors and many members of the therapeutic community. Dissociative Identity Disorder has been dreaded for centuries. Dissociative Identity Disorder is not a mental illness rather it is a natural response, reaction to experiencing repetitive overwhelming and life threatening events.
The label of DID carries with it a lot of stigma as depicted in movies and television. Societal beliefs, religious beliefs and science do not cast a favorable view of Dissociative Identity Disorder. Some professionals, particularly psychiatrists, do not even believe DID is real, and others are not trained to assess or conduct therapy on the complex condition. Anyone who has received a DID diagnosis has felt extreme pressure, real or imagined, to hide his or her condition. Therefore, those who carry this condition experience feelings of blame, embarrassment, guilt, shame, and humiliation. Survivors with DID really think they are damaged inside or crazy because many survivors do not understand the symptoms they are having at the onset.
Traditional types of treatment do not seem to be effective with survivors who have a diagnosis of DID. Conventional accepted therapies focus on past life experiences looking for the specific “event” that caused the “problem.” Once the problem is found, a diagnosis has to be given. Then treatment is done by the correct protocol connected to that diagnosis even if the problem is misdiagnosed.
This type of therapeutic self-discovery can cause re-living experiences, very frightening events, feelings of disloyalty, dissociative episodes, shameful thoughts, rejection, extreme triggering, and can be emotionally devastating … to name a just few of the potential side effects. This type of therapeutic course of treatment is extremely hard and time consuming for survivors with a DID. Traditional methods of treatment like integration, including medication, tend to cause abuse and trauma survivors to be re-traumatized as a result and experience frequent relapses as well as regression periods. Conversely, the inner system views these types of treatment as an attack, and experience increased feelings of fear, multiple episodes of switching between the parts and re-traumatization.
DID can be healed
Refreshing View of DID
The brain is hardwired to survive no matter what. I believe creating a DID System is a normal defense reaction to experiencing horrible, repetitive life threatening events. It is a natural defensive response to overwhelming traumatic experiences.
This life saving separation of a whole self into a DID system appears to be a mirror of the human brain and how it functions. Think about this … even though the brain is one organ, the brain operation on the whole is done via functional compartments. The brain governs the functions of both the body and the mind through different centers. Development of DID is an innate defense mechanism to protect the whole by forming many different compartments of parts or alters with each one functioning differently.
Process of Surviving
The ability to compartmentalize one’s identity to survive occurs on a symbolic level, not on a literal level. It is a symbolic inner re-structuring that partitions off sections of the identity into independent parts of the whole. The only way a human can escape or dissociate from an overwhelming painful and life threatening experience when trapped is to do so symbolically in the mind. Compartmentalization is completed instantly and silently, and it is accomplished internally within the victim during an attack.
So it would only make sense that if the process of surviving multiple threatening events happens on a symbolic level, then wouldn’t healing occur on the same type of symbolic level utilizing the same successful path? Therefore, an alternative method or symbolic protocol is needed to safely assist survivors with DID to restructure his or her system and which is also acceptable to the parts. This will move the whole person along the path to healing and recovery.
Alternative Way of Healing DID
Dissociative Identity Disorder is a symbolic survival process in which the person experiencing trauma separates their identity into compartments that function independently within the brain. It appears that DID mirrors the brain. Meaning the brain is one organ that totally runs the whole body in different connected compartments. If we take this premise as fact, then DID configuration changes occur within the brain and are not visible externally. Research has shown that changes to identity occur within the brain as a response to repetitive life threatening experiences and are not visible to the observer.
Following along these lines, it makes sense that recovery should mirror how the brain is configured. It is considered one united organism with smaller compartments to insure successful functioning. To facilitate healing, separated compartments should be united and function as one whole unit or one identity. Internally, the whole should continue to function as compartments, thus keeping the integrity of the system.
System Unification Method or SUM is a unique, safe and protective symbolic protocol that reverses the survival process without removing or eliminating the parts, protective skills or survival abilities. The SUM protocol utilizes the survivor’s strengths, creative abilities and inner power to unify all parts of self, without decreasing his or her individual characteristics while strengthening the integrity of the core. SUM guides the survivor to create a structure of symbolic “wholeness.”
Some of the benefits of completing the SUM protocol:
- past emotional charge within traumatic memories in each compartment is eliminated,
- triggers are disconnected
- hypersensitivity and hypervigilance is removed
- old negative core beliefs are removed (which formed during each life threatening event)
- old core expectations are shifted
- self-limiting, self-harming and self-defeating messages are eliminated
The SUM protocol allows the survivor to free his or her parts from past traumatic material setting the stage for new growth. A positive side effect is the significant reduction of PTSD symptoms experienced by the DID system.
System Unification Method is a significant improvement or upgrade of the extremely beneficial Incorporation Therapy (IT) developed in the 1990s and used successfully with thousands of clients to stabilize DID systems. For over 20 years, Incorporation Therapy was practiced in an inpatient psychiatric setting. Incorporation Therapy was designed as an alternative method to integration therapy. Incorporation Therapy’s effective principles were chronicled in the book Separated From the Light (Tollefson Enterprises; 2nd edition, 2004). Incorporation Therapy facilitated internal structure and symptom stabilization from chaos and crisis as well as reducing the intensity of PTSD symptoms.
Difference between System Unification Method (SUM) and Incorporation Therapy (IT)
System Unification Method is a complete change from Incorporation Therapy. Incorporation Therapy was designed to achieve stabilization only. Incorporation Therapy stopped the chaos, crisis and fear cycle. Over time, it was found that the effects of Incorporation Therapy waned with growth of the DID survivor and did not offer adaption skills and mechanisms in continued therapy.
System Unification Method was designed to achieve a more complete healing of the whole person. It helps them to improve connections between the various compartments and the ability to create a new identity, as well as adapt new life skills and growth mechanisms.
No longer is there a dome configuration, and internal mechanisms are different to insure structural integrity. Specific differences between these two life-saving programs can be explained as follows:
- SUM puts more control into the hands of the client
- SUM provides a gyroscope configuration to insure system balance and stability
- SUM addresses the client’s core belief wall
- SUM explores the client’s core expectation wall
- SUM gives the client greatly improved external and internal safety and protection mechanisms
Memory and DID
One of worst symptoms that affects all DID survivors is re-experiencing traumatic memory and flashbacks. Not only does the “host” have a memory bank, each part has its own memory bank which stores the memories it recorded when it was active. For safety reasons, each memory bank is not connected, so each part does not know the memories of the others.
Since the DID structure is symbolic, memory in the system should be viewed in the same way. To help view memory symbolically, picture a balloon with a string. The inside of the balloon is the Emotional Component; the outside skin is the Physical Component; and the string is the Trigger. The emotional component contains all the emotions that were too painful and overwhelming to deal with at the time of the event. The outer covering is the physical component which contains what the part saw, touched, smelled or heard. The string is the trigger that ties the memory from the dissociative storage area to consciousness.
The emotional component (pain and hurt) is the most difficult to make closure. The remembered emotions of a past event always surface first, and a natural reaction by the survivor or part is to “shut down or numb out” the emotions. The survivor or part fears that, if felt again, the emotions will completely re-traumatize the person. Even though there may have been many years between the event and the present day, without the acquisition of new coping skills, the survivor still remains unable to face the painful emotions which surface when triggered.
The defense against these intrusive painful emotions has been reactiveness (acting out), denial, numbing out and/or rationalization. Addictions, self-mutilation, and other self-harming behaviors are linked to avoiding re-living or re-traumatizing effects from realizing the emotional component.
The emotional component overpowers the survivor and parts, as well, and causes the part to want to protect them, even if the fear of possible trauma is imagined. The emotional charge in this component throws the survivor into a reliving of the experience. In reliving a traumatic memory, the emotions are just as painful as the original emotions and sometimes even more intense. The survivor feels the original fear, terror and anxiety, as well as the sense of being trapped. These overwhelming feelings inhibit the survivor’s ability to stay in the present, process closure of past events, or function in their daily life.
Another major feeling experienced by the survivor is a sense of emptiness or “separation from self.” The ensuing “relationship with self” becomes critical, negative, rejecting of self or parts and damaging. In order to enter into a new relationship with self and one’s system as a whole, the survivor has to shift from a disease model mindset to a healthy/normal mindset and enter into the recovery/healing stage.
Dissociative Identity Disorder Presentation on Healing
A Story of Unification
“My name is Sheri and I went through the Incorporation Therapy years ago. Years later I hit a wall and began to feel stuck. I did not know why. I had experienced a couple more traumatic events after incorporation and felt like I had lost my connectedness to my system. It seemed like I ran out of skills and nothing was working. I contacted Dr. Bill again who was no longer associated with the WiiT program where I had been incorporated. He was able to evaluate quickly that some of my parts had left the dome (a part of the incorporating process) that unified us. The parts had left in order to help us survive the traumas and did not know how to return. Dr Bill stated that he no longer was doing Incorporation Therapy with DID systems, and he had improved the process which was now called System Unification Method. The experience of SUM was immediate and added so many more improvements. I learned that I need more skills to get to a point of healing rather than just stabilization. He taught me how to draw on my pain without reliving or re-experiencing it. I was able to connect with my uniqueness, heal my wounds, and truly unite with my parts. In the process, he guided me to gain and accept my creativeness, change my mindset to be more positive about the DID system, characteristics strength and inner power, and my difference as a person. The process took away old beliefs that had limited me and self-defeating thoughts and behavior. I finally feel balanced. After I was done, I had a formed a new identity. I don’t totally understand all that happened, but it worked. Since then I have embraced my difference as a strength, creativity to live, and survival skills. I see that these can be used for growth and adapting to normal life. I thought my difference was an illness from the messages given during my awful abuse. This has been turned around to a positive point and has enhanced my life.
To understand that my DID was a natural response and not a mental illness allowed me to like myself rather than think of me as “crazy” which is what I had been told ever since my symptoms first surfaced. My life has been transformed thanks to SUM.”
The System Unification Method session was designed to help re-fold, restructure and unite the host with the parts safely and protectively. The SUM experience assists the survivor in taking back control of the whole and achieving balance. SUM allows the brain to move from a state of being reactive to a state of proactive involvement with life.
© 2014 Bill Tollefson