Teenage Files - A to Z Teen Guide
This is an A - Z guide, that I wrote for my younger siblings. Feel free to share any part of it with anyone who might find it interesting.
Appearance –Always look nice. People tend to judge you from meeting you the first time. Not only that, it’s just nice to have a very good dress sense and please no micro – mini skirts. You can look gorgeous without revealing your "bits and bobs". As for guys, pull your trousers to your waist.
Borrowing– Whatever you borrow, do give it back as it does not belong to you and some friends could take offence when this happens.
Cook – learn to cook as one day you will leave home and it will be a waste of money buying “Take Aways” every day. Also, you do not know the hygiene conditions under which the food was prepared.
Drugs – Don’t be tempted to give it a try. Don’t even sniff it!
Envy – Please don’t be envious of what others have. Your time will come. Whatever, you may be tempted to be envious of, when yours comes (be it a car or job) it would even be better. So don’t be envious or you will wake up looking green one day.
Forgive – Forget Arguments. Don’t sleep on any argument you’ve had with a friend. Try to end it, there and then. Otherwise, you’ll keep on pondering over it and it starts eating away at you. The more you keep on reliving the disagreement, negative feelings emerge – not healthy!! If you learn this habit now, people’s bad attitudes will not phase you later in life.
God – Keep your Faith. Continue to believe in God and when you feel down, this is what will keep you strong and help you overcome problems.
Health – If any part of your body is not feeling right, don’t ignore the symptoms hoping it would go away. Make sure you talk to mum/dad or visit a Doctor, so it doesn’t get worse.
Illegal – Do not get involved in any illegal activities. There are a lot of teens in prisons. Age doesn’t come into being sentenced. Stay Clean and keep a good reputation.
Jotter – As a student, always jot down a lot of notes in class. Don’t assume you will remember everything the Lecturer has said. It makes revision easier.
Karma – Treat people as you would like to be treated. “What goes around, comes around” It’s a natural law in life, that you reap what you sow.
Laugh – Laughter is good medicine for the heart. Have a good sense of Humour. Notice how I make you laugh until you can’t take it anymore. It’s a nice feeling isn’t it? I’m not saying, go round tickling everyone but be light-hearted. Take life easy and smile often.
Men/Women (relationships) – Wish I had whole day to talk to you about this. You are young. So for now, I would say don’t just believe everything you are told. Always ask a lot of questions and later on see if the answers check out. I’m not saying everyone lies, but from experience people tend to bend the truth a bit. So, be cautious.
Nighttime – As much as possible, make sure you are home before 12 Midnight and that’s if you are not alone. It’s never a good thing to be out at night, unless there is a good reason for it.
Open Doors – To my young gentleman – Open doors for ladies. If you get into the habit, it will stick with you and that’s one of the qualities of a gentleman. My lovely sister, when this happens, give a quick smile and say “thanks” – don’t just whizz past like a Queen Bee.
Pray – Pray for yourself and others daily. Always commit your day into God’s hands.
Quietness - This is important to have first thing in the morning and at night.(15 – 30 mins) Think about the goals you have in your life, how are you achieving them? What action do you have to take to move you closer to your goal? Write the details in a Journal, reflect on it. Most times when your mind is quiet, answers to questions you’ve been asking yourself come naturally or you’ll have new ideas.
Respectful – Always be respectful to people around you. Both young and old.
Sensitive – Be sensitive to people around you. If someone is sick, ask about their welfare, see if there is anything you can do to help. E.g shopping, cooking or just spending time with them to cheer them up. I went to a conference years ago and our table in the restaurant wasn’t attended to on time. Eventually, we were told our waitress Fainted. The first thing, one of the people in my group said was, “what about our food?”. That’s what I call – Insensitive!
Truth- Be sincere, always tell the Truth, otherwise it’s only a matter of time before you get caught out and it will be embarrassing. It could also make people lose confidence in you.
Untidy – Try to tidy your room and the house at least once a week. Put everything in its rightful place. Books, dvd’s, cd’s, clothes, shoes and all those chocolate wrappers under the bed.
Visit – Visit friends or have them over. Have fun. Don’t isolate yourself. I don’t want you to be lonely and become “ Billy, no mates”.
Weight – Don’t be pressured into being a certain weight. However, do ensure you eat well and have a healthy diet.
xXx – Sex Files – Honestly, as a young Teen. It’s best you abstain. There is a time for everything.
Yes- Develop the habit of letting your “yeah be yeah” and your “nay be nay”.Your word should be your Bond. Let people to take you for your word.
Zzzzzzz – Have enough sleep – especially weekdays. If you sleep before midnight you will wake up feeling refreshed in the morning. If you sleep late into the night, you will wake up feeling rough and if you don’t, it will certainly catch up with you during the day.