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Telling a Lie-Good or Not?

Updated on August 1, 2010

It is a question whether lies are considered good or not. In most situations, telling a lie seems to be one of the dominant factors why strong relationship among people breaks down. It is when love and trust fade until everyone who is involved emanates a feeling of hatred in the heart. Might as well, telling a lie would mean rejection, maltreatment or misjudgement.

Telling a lie is a sin. But, the question is, is it a perfect ground to judge someone else or put him on shame?

I have considered some situations where telling a lie is involved.Trying to weigh and balance, I have concluded that telling a lie is definitely bad when someone has a hidden agenda or negative purpose.

For example, a person who denies himself from stealing something and pinpoints another to let others believe that he is not the culprit but somebody else. In a situation where a person lies to displace himself from investigation and verdict or punishment, or lies to save someone from such, is not good.

Someone would also lie to get rid of being scorned or belittled. Someone lies to hide something from within. For example, a person pretends to be self sufficient or rich maybe to maintain a good relationship with friends or to displace himself from rejection or disdain.

On the other hand, though most of lies are perceived as bad, they are also considered good. Perhaps, someone would lie to protect himself from death, threats or from other dangerous elements. For example, a person who is haunted by the killers would of course, not tell where he dwells to escape from death.

The last example perhaps, is a concrete explanation why sometimes a person has to lie. But in most situations where a lie is involved, would you agree that it is good?   

All of us lie sometimes.But, if we are trying to maintain a good relationship with the people around us, we ought to tell the truth. Every word counts and every true word that comes out is an important thing to avoid misunderstanding and maintain the love and trust of somebody else. No harm in telling the truth. No amount of scorn, or misjudgement to bother us as long as we believe that telling the truth would benefit us and the people around.



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      meeeeeeee 6 years ago

      i loved this article thanks!?!?!?!?!?!:D

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      reymund 6 years ago

      thanks caroline.i love it when you read and enjoyed my hub.

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      CarolineVABC 6 years ago from Castaic

      Oops...meant "create"-sorry!

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      CarolineVABC 6 years ago from Castaic

      Beautifully written, Reymund! I do agree with you that lying, for the most part, can creat chaos, and sometimes distrust in personal relationships. Although there are some exceptions such as protecting someone's safety or when a job calls for it as when detectives need to withhold a certain information to ensure proper handling of their client's case and to protect the company's credibility. Nevertheless, habitual lying can have negative effects on any relationship, which can sometimes lead to broken and irreparable relationships. Lying is never good, but I think we should be more understanding why some people resort to lying. Also, as humans, we are bound to make mistakes which might place us in an awkward position where we need to choose whether to lie or not.

      As a Christian, I believe that God had commanded us not to lie: Thou shalt not bear false witness against they neighbor. On the other hand, God also gave us the freedom to choose right from wrong, and be more discerning, and use good judgment to the best of our abilities. Thank you for sharing this very thought provoking hub-I have enjoyed reading it. Keep at it. God bless!

      *Voted up-Awesome!:-)

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      Jay 7 years ago

      never lie it will always come to the light

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      prasetio30 8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      I think that is a bad Idea to lie. When you are religious person. Think it twice. But as a human we can' blame about that. We still have a little mistake sometimes. And the important thing is how to make it better. So my advice is stay away from lie. Nice topic, thanks!

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      reymund 8 years ago

      Hi there smarley. what a great explanation about telling a lie. I salute you for letting your children know about the negativity of lies as well as explaining to them why they should not trust liars. Thank you also for agreeing with me on one side.

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      smarleygrl7 8 years ago

      Reymund, it is never good to lie, but you are correct when you say that we have all done it at some point. That being the case we should always access the situation as to what we think made this person feel they had no choice but to lie about something. Put ourselves in their shoes. Was it selfishnes, fear, for the sake of sparing someone's feelings, what reason? In the end no matter the situation it is always best to tell the truth deal with the consequences and move on from that part of your life.

      Like I tell my children people do not trust a liar and we want to be considered trustworthy to the people who surround us.

      Happyontheinside, I believe it is best to tell them the dog died. We are going to have hardships in life and unfortunately the loss of animals and people will come. If we constantly protect them from that reality then we are painting a lollipop world that does not exist. No matter how bad it hurts I have come to understand that my kids want me to be honest with them, because they trust I will tell them the truth.

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      reymund 8 years ago

      hi there richie.that is exactly true. thanks for dropping by.

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      Richieb799 8 years ago from Cardiff, Wales UK

      Relationships often breakdwon due to competitiveness, neither person willing to backdown from an argument.. powerstruggle..although sometimes it can be benefitial to be submissive.. great hub mate!

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      Gous Ahmed 8 years ago from Muslim Nation

      I find lying people disgusting, when they lie for money, their benefit, belittling others, backbiting... And it goes on and on.

      When someone lies, one day before they die, the truth comes out. So what's the need to lie?

      Excellent hub.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      Hi Reymund, I agree on your take that to maintain a good relationship with people close to you, honesty is a must, thanks and nice take about lies and honesty, Maligayang Pasko, Maita

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      Katrionawrites 8 years ago from Scotland

      Ahahahaha what a great topic. Nicely written and an age old question.

      For a long time I played a character who could only tell the truth and was forbidden (on pain of an early afterlife) to tell any lies whatsoever. Now I consider myself to be an honest person - but it was the hardest character I have ever, ever played. It's hard to mislead people when you only tell the truth but let me tell you - it can be done! Sometimes it's what you fail to say rather than what you do say that can be where the lie is. An argument I would frequently have with another was that it was better to tell the truth in all instances - an associate once came back with the question of 'ok - so if an 8 year olds dog died is it better to just tell them its dead? Wouldn't it be nicer to tell them a lie to soften the blow?

      I don't actually know what the answer is; but I'm swinging towards the 'in certain circumstances lying is ok.' side of the fence.

      Well done, you certainly got me thinking!

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      aefrancisco 8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      Another great hub kabayan.:)

      Indeed, TRUTH will prevail no matter what.

      Keep it up!

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      Creamin 4 U 8 years ago

      Telling a lie is never good, because you always have to tell a lie to cover that lie and so on and so forth.