Tension V Relaxation
A simple overview ...
The double helix:
Strand 1 – Medical & Biological Information
Strand 2 – Genetic Inheritance, Familial Coding
3 – Inner Space = Inner Universe
In tension these strands pull tautly against each other, pressing the inner space to empty its contents, preparing for new experiences.
During relaxation the space increases, allowing depth for problem -solving.
Accessing our inner space is the key to resolving issues of the past. It’s my belief as a therapist that we hold all of our experiences in the body, mostly in this space. This may be a great experience or register as trauma in our bodies.
A popular misconception is that we are strong when tense. In fact, the opposite is true. Strength can be defined in different ways. A tense adult arm weighs around three/ four pounds, a relaxed one weighs up to ten. In the tense state we have formed an attachment to the arm. The relaxed state allows the brain to disconnect from the body, effectively giving more weight to the arm movement. In soft- style martial arts this is the desired state.
In tension, we are stretching our limits in every way. The helix compresses, we have no “space” to think. When we become stressed, we limit our ability to find solutions. The mind is consumed with “doing”, forming attachments to all things representing security. These become the protective barriers, which we perceive will shield us through our difficult times. Choosing change over holding onto our attachments is not usually the easy option. We continue to think that we are protected. When we enter into denial we refuse to let these attachments go.
Extreme tension is crisis point for our bodies and minds. We have choice in how we deal with it. We can avoid, deny or escape it, or we can choose to feel the pain, learn and grow. Sometimes the pain of endurance is seems too huge, and the great door of denial awaits us. We excuse and apologise but then avoid true exfoliation of the issue by reverting to old patterns. This, in effect usually means the subject re- enters the issue innumerably, until exhaustion in one way or another forces an outcome. For example, we may revisit a crisis until we conquer it thru learning or allow it to conquer us, possibly sacrificing the mind. Stress can liberate us if we look upon it as creating time for change, a signal that we should re- assess our situation.
Some people have become human doings, as opposed to human beings living in a state of relaxation.
Extreme relaxation (if there is such a thing!), such as meditation or hypnosis increases our inner space, thus expanding our minds and ability to deal with all that life has to throw at us.
When our issues lie dormant or are unchallenged we have no conflict, tension or crisis. It’s not until we are faced with opposition that we introduce pressure. This may be aggravated by superficial worries, further irritated by daily concerns and suddenly the picture begins to show flaws. The stress becomes overwhelming, to the point of breaking the camels back, forcing rest and relaxation.
Our inner world consists of all of our learnings and dealings with the outside world. These are our truths and absolutes, but they are only limited to our experiences. Bear in mind these may have been formed in tense childhood states, therefore limiting the attitudes and behaviours of that child into adulthood because there were no coping skills available or wider learning. Each of us carries baggage from our childhood but as we grow into adults we give ourselves fresh experiences and hopefully empower ourselves with those instead of maintaining the attachments of the past.
Some people would rather not spend time with themselves and may find they are avoiding revisiting old experiences.So, this inner space might hold the experience and skills, good or bad, or at least the memory of it. It becomes our responsibility now to challenge the space to throw up all of our attachments, issues and inherited attitudes and begin to heal our selves through challenging our beliefs, relaxing into issues and addressing problems from an open and relaxed state. Thus allowing the release of trauma, limiting belief patterns, and outmoded attitudes.