What is Hazing? College Rituals and Initiations: What A Parent Needs to Know
Picture of Hazing Of College Student
What Does "Hazing" Mean
Hazing in college is on the rise and the dangers are real and hazing can kill. You hear them talk about it on the news all the time. If you're like me, then you're probably thinking, (like most parents) "So glad my son isn't involved in that."
I would like to explain "hazing" and what happens during the rituals. I have been hearing all over the news about hazing deaths and I really never knew exactly what it meant. Then, I learned hazing is associated usuallly, with College fraternities or groups, so I decided I better look more closely because I have a son getting ready for college. What I read was absolutely astonishing and just so unbelievable. Please read this as we need to educate our children now; not later, but now.
Hazing Is A Term Used To Describe Different Ritual And Activities That Involve One Or More Of The Following:
The rituals are used to "initiate" your son or daughter into a fraternity or group. In the United States, the word hazing is normally used with fraternities, but hazing is done all over the world in different initiations to other activities.
Hazing needs to be more publicized and parents and students need more education either from the Colleges or group they have joined. Below is just one story out of many.
You are about to read a story of a hazing incident of a College student in the band. Hazing doesn't just happen in band; it is happening for fraternity pledges, football, basketball, etc. This is a horrible problem and all parents need to step up to the plate and demand answers from the school and really educate your child. It's really hard to so when at 16-24 years old, your kid probably knows everything and doesn't need your advice. After all, you can't text a 100 words in one minute so what would you know about life.
College Student Dies as Result of Hazing
Here is a story of a college student who was involved in a hazing fatality. Your children need to know the dangers of what they are getting into. Such a tragedy that was basically murder.
A 26 Yr old College Student died in Florida that was in the college band and had everything going for him. One evening, a fraternity brother came to the dorms to pick up pledge and bring them back to the fraternity house for a party. That night, Chuck died and the coroner told his mother that the cause was alcohol poisoning. The fraternity and the university refused to accept responsibility or provide a thorough investigation. Incredulous, his mother set out to investigate on her own.
Over the next few weeks and months, she refused to give up her quest to find out the truth. While she was stonewalled at nearly every turn by the institution and the fraternity, witnesses eventually came forward to share details of the night's events. Eventually, the mother had a much clearer picture of what had happened to her son that fateful night. As it turned out, Chuck and two other pledges were locked in the trunk of a car and were allegedly given a pint of Jack Daniels, a 6-pack of beer and a quart of wine and was told to consume it all by the time the car stopped. Later, the pledges were coerced to drink even more at the fraternity house until many passed out. When Chuck passed out, he was carried upstairs and left on a mattress where he ceased breathing soon afterward.
Hazing - Forcing To Drink Alcohol
Are Your Kids Safe At College?
Mothers, Fathers, grandparents, listen up. We are sending our kids to college under the impression they will be taken care of, watched out for and have a great education. Well, we better think again. You think your kids are safe, and they aren't. I'm not saying that every one that goes to college is going to experience this by no means, but there is that possibility and we need to educate ourselves, and our children on Hazing.
Hazing and Teen Being Tied To Pole
Why Can't They Control Hazing?
The story of student who died as a result of hazing is just ONE story of many, and ONE is too many. There are so many horror stories of our children being robbed of their lives, whether by death, or by doing harm to another because of hazing, that it's almost an epidemic. Please educate your children now. It's never too early, but it could be too late.
So why does this happen? This is One of the most commonly asked questions about hazing in fraternities is why do young men and women participate in such horrific and life-threatening activities just to belong to a group? This seems like a reasonable question--but it reveals the lack of understanding about the dynamics of the hazing process.
Football Players Hazing
What Happens During The Pledging Process?
I've heard of fraternity pledging probably from Animal House or an old funny College movie, but things aren't like they used to be long ago. It's not toga parties anymore and many prospective members don't realize and are not informed of what the pledging process and hazing will entail because this information is shrouded in secrecy by the brotherhood. This, combined with the increasing severity of the hazing over the weeks and months of the pledging process places the pledge in a very vulnerable position and hence, more susceptible to victimization. Compounding these dynamics in fraternities and other male groups is the desire for the pledge or prospective member to "be tough," "stick it out" etc. and prove his masculinity rather than risk being identified as a wimp or sissy.
Talk to Your Kids About Hazing Today
The best preventative way we can help our kids is to talk to them about what Hazing is and give them articles to read. There is plenty of information available on the internet about hazing and what happens. At least they will know what to do avoid or how it starts.