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The Importance of Self Reflecting

Updated on February 19, 2017
I found myself while back packing through New Zealand and Australia.
I found myself while back packing through New Zealand and Australia.

I could tell you that I have gone through incredible hardships, overcome adversity, and led myself to triumphant success. And I have… But everyone has. That’s not what this article is about. This article is about self-reflection because there’s no bigger challenge than working on yourself.

I am not a certified physiologist or a mental health counselor, but I am a detail oriented 23 year old that has evaluated and absorbed every life experience I have gone through. Certain experiences have made me realize that it’s about your reaction. No matter what uncontrollable situation you are in, you can always control your reaction. That is a big lesson I have learned so far.

Starting my career in the “real world” has made me realize how well I know myself. That is something I am extremely proud of because the harsh truth is, people come and go in your life. That’s just how it works. At the end of the day you will always have to live with yourself. That’s why my biggest advice to everyone is to work on finding self-confidence and a way to be happy with who you are. We all have our doubts and we all have things we are self conscious about. In order to conquer those, you have to look them in the face and be aware that they are there. If you are aware of them then you can work on them to create a better version of yourself.

I’m a big believer in that dreadful phrase elders tell you as you go off to college or go traveling… “Find yourself.” Let’s be honest. Nobody knows what the heck that means until it happens. Luckily, my life journey has definitely allowed me to find myself. More importantly, it has allowed me to find out what makes me happy. In our lifetime we go through so many battles, but I believe that if you know yourself first you can take on anything in this crazy world.

Here is a short briefing of what I have learned about myself within these past 23 years.

  • I have learned that I am flat out ridiculous. I have insane thoughts that no one else seems to have and I love to bounce around from subject to subject.
  • Getting to know people is one of my favorite hobbies, but I also enjoy my “me time.”
  • People always tell me I’m super outgoing and bubbly, but I definitely have my moments. Even though I hate to admit it, I can sometimes be a semi drama queen… See how I threw in the word “semi?” I couldn’t even write it. That’s how much I hate admitting that.
  • I know that I am mentally stronger than I am physically strong. I have been a competitive athlete my entire life and have always been at the bottom of the chain when it comes to physical strength. When I finally accepted that, I was able to work on the mental side of my game in order to prove myself.
  • I am fully aware that I over think and exaggerate most situations. (If any of my friends read this they will probably react with a sigh of relief).
  • In order to beat my impeccable procrastination skills I have to say out loud, “Suck it up and just do it.”
  • I’ve been told many times that I am very mature for my age, but I am also a complete child. I still love watching kid movies and getting away with acting like one.
  • A big weakness of mine is taking on more than I can handle. I do this because I don’t like asking for help. As much as I still need to depend on people I really love to be independent.
  • I know that my defense mechanism for things I am worried about is to make them seem like a way bigger deal than they actually are. That way I’m not disappointed in the outcome. (Which I still don’t think is a horrible defense mechanism to have).

Those are just a few things that I have learned about myself. How did I figure all of that out? In my case, it took me a backpacking adventure of a lifetime to realize all of that. Removing myself from every day life and traveling to New Zealand and Australia were the best life decisions I made.

When I see people who lack confidence or people who aren’t comfortable with themselves, it breaks my heart. Being alone scares some people and that is completely okay. When you reach the point that you are happy being physically and mentally alone, congratulations. You are now officially ready to take on this world.

I challenge you to dig deep and think about your own strengths and weaknesses. Self-reflecting can really open up a whole new you.


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