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The Masks People Wear
We see them daily everywhere we go. You may not recognize it as what it is, but they are there. Masks are on many, many people. People change their masks regularly depending on the circumstance.
We have a mask for our mate and one for our children. When we go to work we change our mask for our co-workers and if the boss comes around, a special mask goes on for he/she. There is a mask for church and a mask if we get pulled over by a police officer. There's a mask for friends and another for enemies.
Where do we keep all these masks? Where did we get all of them?
Well first I must tell you I am not a psychologist nor do I have a degree in sociology, but I know what I see. You see, I wear masks too. I just don't wear quite as many; I have been trying to throw all my masks away.
I don't know the masks you wear, but I do know the masks I wear and have worn.
So why do I want to get rid of my masks? Masks are a lie; plain and simple, they are a lie. I want to live a life without lies and masks, for me, are some of the biggest lies mankind has.
I have had many people tell me I wear my heart on my sleeve. Many look down upon that, but is it really wrong? I didn't used to wear it out there. I covered my feelings with different masks.
These are some of the masks I have worn:
Could of had an argument or met a driver on the way to work who flipped me the bird and cut me off. I could of had a death in the family or someone I love suffering from a terminal illness. I would just put on my happy mask and wam-bam, everything is fine.
Is life really that simple? Do you know someone that always seems to be happy with never a sad face? They possibly may be wearing a happy mask. Maybe you wear one too. This is probably one of the most used masks there is.
One of our co-workers tells us about someone they know who just died; on goes the sad mask. We hear of a volcano in a far away country that kills 400 people; some of us have to put on the sad mask.
It is sad that we would have to put on a sad mask but sometimes we really don't give a hoot and we try to act like we do. Why?
I have wore this mask and so have many others.
"There is a spider under the bed honey" she says. Put on the brave mask.
I don't know about you but spiders, for me, need a brave mask. Worse yet, bats. Don't let a bat get in the house, because now that I am getting rid of my masks I will probably scream like a little girl.
How many of you have a brave mask?
Just a bit different than the brave mask is the tough mask. It's usually a show-off mask to hide a deep-seated fear.
Getting tough with the neighbor over his tree in your fence to show your girlfriend. Or the tough mask with the big, burly guy that took your parking place when you know he would squash you like a bug. You made sure and put the mask on when you saw a cop just across the street.
C'mon guys, admit it, you've wore the tough mask before.
There are many, many more masks. Masks to hide being abused or abusing. Masks to hide alcoholism or drug abuse. Masks upon masks upon masks.
Many of the masks we wear were given to us by our parents or guardians. If you have ever been in a good recovery group, you know that we all wear masks.
To remove masks, you must be careful. Going without your mask can be very painful and people are used to you wearing it. Stay around people you can explain it to, healthy people! I found a good pastor and friends who understand. I still put a mask on here and there; I probably always will, but not like I used to.
I want to share a few useful sites about masks with you. The links are below.
Try to get rid of the masks and show people who you really are. Yes, you may lose some friends, but were they really friends. I will bet you will gain some friends too.
Let's take off our masks, remember, Halloween only comes 1 day of the year; not everyday.
© G.L. Boudonck
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The different masks that people wear in the course of a day act as a social disguise and help them to get through a variety of situations.