The Reflections Of Life After College
Where's My "Eat.Pray.Love" Moment?
I’ve recently graduated college with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology. I didn’t ever realize how far I was from mentally deciding where I wanted to go from there, until the day after graduation. Suddenly the effervescent feelings of “what am I going to do with my life?” and “what am I supposed to do now?” came spilling into my consciousness, along with about ten dozen other questions. I’d always assumed I would continue on in Psychology – maybe become a therapist, or counselor, it was all supposed to fall into place. But no, there isn’t a red carpet laid out for you designating the path you’re supposed to take. There are no step-by-step directions waiting for you. You are supposed to be the creator of those directions; you’re supposed to lay out your own carpet. But who prepares you for that?! Well, your school doesn’t. They leave you with lofty ideals that your career will simply fall into place once you have that beautiful piece of paper that says you spent four years of your life studying and giving them money. With this paper, employers will line up to offer you a job. Unfortunately, that’s not so true in 2011. And by “not so true,” I mean far from the truth.
All that to say, I am now a College graduate searching for my own true calling; asking myself, “where can I see myself excelling and building a career?” Thus far, I’ve been unable to answer this wonderful question definitively. The beauty of a question like this, a major life decision, is that the question in and of itself generates a whirlwind of its own questions; “Who am I, really?” “Where am I going with my life?” “Am I making the right decisions?” “Should I be doing more?” “What if I’ve misjudged it all?”
The questions and self-reflection appear to be endless. What other to do than to search for inspiration; the raw, true-to-form, slaps-you-in-the-face kind of inspiration. I’m looking for my own “Eat. Pray. Love.” kind of moment. The only problem is that I am a true-to-form, broke College graduate that is barely paying the bills, let alone traveling the world in search of self-discovery. Where does that leave me, and the thousands of other College graduates in the same position? Well, it leaves you to search internally, all the while continuing on with your life.
I’ve come to the realization that this kind of discovery will only appear when you least expect it. The “aha” moment will probably arise in the most inconvenient and/or unexpected moment possible; so much so that it may even be laughable.
For now, I’ll turn to words of inspiration and reflect on what my own meaning of those words are and how I can use its context to apply them to me.
My belief is that so long as you stay mindful of every moment, every feeling, every thought, than there is no way you can miss it. You’ll probably encounter quite a few amazing moments and journeys that were unexpected. For now, I’ll remember the one most important piece in making decisions; to never let anyone else set any boundaries or limits for me, and to always set my own.
Some of my favorite inspirational words of wisdom I’ve come across include the following:
“In this very moment; I am enough, I have enough, I do enough.”
~ Buddhist teaching
Life with intention.
Walk to the edge.
Listen hard. Laugh. Practice Wellness.
Play with abandon. Continue to learn.
Appreciate your friends. Choose with no regret.
Do what you love.
Live as if this is all there is.
~Mary Anne Radmacher
This being human is a Guest House.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
~”The Guest House” by Rumi