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The Youngest Child in the Family, Part 1
THE BABY, JEWEL, and PRECIOUS ONE in the Family
STRIVING TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY
FAMOUS YOUNGEST CHILDREN
Look At The Little Baby-Aaaaah! Soooo Cute And Utterly Adorable!
What is there to say? The youngest child is the last child in the family constellation! There is definitely NOT going to be anymore children! When you were born, that was it! No more deliveries! You are definitely not going to be dethroned-not ever!
As the youngest child in the family, you are the adored doll to your parents and older siblings. Since you are the youngest, you are the baby and will be treated more indulgently than your older siblings. Furthermore, since your parents had prior experience having and rising children, they were often be more lenient and matter of fact in raising you than they were your older siblings. Your older siblings were the test experiments for your parents.
There is no clear cut generalizations regarding being the youngest child in a family. The status of the youngest child in a family is clearly dependent upon family size. In small families and medium sized families, the youngest child is often on a par with his/her oldest sibling. The treatment of youngest children in small families is more or less somewhat equal.
However in medium large to very large families, the youngest child is often spoiled, pampered, and exceedingly indulged. In such families, the youngest child is often babied far beyond the appropriate age. In medium large to very large families, youngest children often have the freest childhoods and adolescence with the least responsibilities. Anytime you hear a person asserting that she/he loved being in a large sized family, scratch the surface and you will discover that this person is THE YOUNGEST CHILD!
The reason for this is because she/he often did not have familial responsibilities in contrast to her/his older siblings. She/he is often on the receiving end for more parental love and attention than the rest of the siblings in the family. In addition to these factors, she/he often is better treated than her/his older siblings.
The youngest child often gets away with things that her/his oldest sibling or siblings would be chastised and punished for. She/he is often allowed outlandish liberties regarding behaviors. She/he is not expected to set an example and to be mature like the oldest child in the family. She/he is granted the right to be a child longer in life.
Because of the ordinal position of the youngest child in the family, she/he is viewed as "the child" of the family. She/he has less strictures regarding behavior. She/he is not expected to always be on her/his guard as her/his older siblings are.
The youngest child is often more indulged and spoiled by her/his parents simply because she/he is the BABY of the family. Nothing is to be denied her/him. Besides the aforementioned, the youngest child is often the favorite in the family. Oftentimes, in many families, nothing the youngest child does is ever wrong!
The youngest child in the family as often perceived to be innocent, naïve, and not knowing any better. She/he knowing this, often can use this as leverage, into manipulating her/his older siblings to do her/his bidding. She/he is often adapt in the use of emotional and psychological blackmail of her/his older siblings in that regard. She/he can instigate a familial crisis and/or situation and, of course, the older siblings are naturally blamed for it! A famous Hollywood actor/producer/mogul, who is the youngest of nine children, related during an interview that he always used manipulative behavior as a child and young adolescent to obtain what he wanted.
If the older siblings doth protest the often manipulative behavior of the youngest child to the parents, their mantra is that "she/he is the youngest and does not know any better." Of course, the youngest child is laughing and/or smiling demonically while the older sibling or siblings are stewing in anger! Because of the psychosocial dynamics within the familial environment, the youngest child can be quite charming to obtain what she/he wants!
The youngest child in the family is often the attention getter and the star of the family. This is natural because as the last child in the family, she/he is viewed as the baby jewel by the parents and older siblings. She/he is used to having people around her/him adoring, worshipping, and idolizing her/him in ways that the older siblings are not!
Because everything is done for the youngest child in the family, she/he is often extremely irresponsible and immature at advanced ages in comparison to her/his older siblings. She/he often has a lackadaisical attitude towards life- thinking everything is a game! Many youngest children often do not develop the necessary independence, thus transferring their dependency on parents and older siblings to teachers, bosses, and significant others.
Some youngest children often are passive, preferring to wait upon others to instruct them rather than to be independent self-starters. Quite a few of them want others to rescue, salvage, and save them from life's difficulties instead of owning up to their mistakes. Many of them have the mistaken notion that nothing is EVER their fault, it is always someone else's fault. Their motto is to please help me, I am just an innocent.
Since older siblings tried and went on various paths of discovery, the youngest child either does not try because it was done before or go into a vastly and utterly different path than her/his siblings. Many youngest children are often quite innovative and unconventional rule breakers. They love to experiment and see nothing wrong with going off the beaten path so to speak!
That said and done, youngest children in the family tend to be the rebels and antiauthoritarians of the family. This is because as children, they are not held to higher and stricter standards as the oldest sibling was. Furthermore, they were given more leeway to explore all facets of their childhood. This translates into youngest children have more avenues to express themselves, knowing that there is not one standard and/or way to behave! In families, youngest children often have the freedom that their older/oldest siblings do not have! They often observe their older siblings in terms of lifestyle, academic, and familial choice. Oftentimes, they elect not to follow their older siblings or the family dictum, wanting to be their own individual persons!
Part of that rebellion on the part of the youngest child is her/his wish to be respected and taken seriously. Youngest children are often perceived as cute and babyish well into late adolescence and early adulthood. They have to work thrice as hard as other ordinal birth positions to be considered valued and worthwhile contributors.
Oftentimes, the youngest child is not thought of in more assertive and positive terms but in often condescending terms. Many youngest children reported that even as adults, they are viewed as less intelligent, ambitious, serious, and responsible than their older siblings. They opinions and thoughts are often derided and discounted by family members and relatives. They feel that they must work 24/7 to revamp their image to a responsible and mature person to be taken seriously!
Of all the birth orders, the youngest child is the most spontaneous, youthful, and playful. They usually take life for its own worth. They are not taskmasters. They believe in having fun and enjoying life to the max! They contend that there are no one set rule for everything and that rules are made to be analyzed and broken! They are also not afraid to make mistakes and to appear to be less than perfect!
In summation, the youngest child is the last child in the family. Youngest children will never be dethroned. Since parents are more relaxed when they have the youngest child, she/he is usually not heard to tough standards as the oldest child was. Furthermore, the youngest child has more leeway of behavior and experimentation than their older siblings who were often more strictly raised.
Youngest children are also the most indulged and pampered by their parents. More likely or not, they are also one of the most favored children in the birth order constellation. They are have the least familial responsibilities in the family constellation. This translates into they having the longest, most carefree childhood and adolescence. They also have the freest childhood and adolescence of all the constellations.
Because of the ordinal birth chart position, youngest children are often the most spontaneous and creative people around. They often believe in enjoying life and living for the moment. They are also young at heart! Celebrated and illustrious youngest children include Robert Clary, Holocaust survivor and tv star; Dr. Kevin Leman and Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, noted psychologists and authors; Mark Wahlberg, highly noted A-list actor, producer, and upcoming media mogul ; Janet Jackson, multiplatinum singer; the late Heavy D, rap artist and upcoming actor; the late Marlene Dietrich, chanteuse and actress; the late Vincent Price, actor, gourmand, and all around renaissance man; Christina Ricci and Goldie Hawn, movie superstars; America Ferrera, tv star; comedians Billy Crystal, Eddie Murphy, and Drew Carey; Jim Carrey, all around comedic actor; Celine Dion, singer, and Stephen Colbert, actor/political pundit!
Books to Read on the Subject
Being the Youngest Child in the Family, Part A
How was your experience of being the youngest child in your family?
Being the Youngest Child in the Family, Part B
What is your respective family size?
© 2011 Grace Marguerite Williams