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The world of pretend
Living in a fantasy world
Did you ever gaze with childlike innocence into the far reaches of the sky and heavens above and just wish to leave your physical presence for a moment to escape what we have grown accustomed to in our lives? It seems we all need to step outside of our self on occasion to view life from a different perspective. We know we are not perfect nor is the world we live in. We realize we are here and we want to make the most of the experience. The hardest part of our existence seems to be the not knowing what lies ahead of us and the seemingly repetitive nature of our lives. We all have to understand and accept that we will have a daily routine that we must adhere to whether it is going to school as a child or to work as an adult and sometimes we need a diversion that allows us to experience something new and exciting. We must find opportunities and challenges in our life and we must focus our priorities around staying healthy and fit, finding happiness, finding companionship, finding love, acceptance, a sense of adventure and finding success in both our personal and professional lives.
We sometimes live more richer lives in our dreams and fantasies then we do in our day to day existence. Our imagination as a child is something we should treasure and never lose sight of as we grow. It is what helps us to stay young and carefree. I believe that people are searching for meaning and honor in their lives and some live to experience things that not many can stake claim to. I have been fascinated by those who achieve truly incredible feats that not only test the physical, mental and emotional states of their existence but also test their drive, ambition and their spirit. This is what allows people to scale the highest of mountains such as Mount Everest and dive to the deepest of depths to seek treasures found in under water ship wrecks.
Not many can claim to have adventure in their working lives but my dad lived adventure every day as an ironworker working on such impressive projects as the Verrazano bridge in the early 1960's, the World Trade Center in the early 1970's and so many other fascinating assignments throughout the years where he got to meet the engineers, the architects and the planners who had the vision and ideas to make their dreams realities with the hard work and dedication of all involved. I can recall the many stories my dad would share of his days working on the high iron. He had no fear of heights and he was very proud of what he did. He did not expect adulation or cheering crowds. He did not make the papers or get the big pay days. What he did get was the exhilaration of walking on the high iron hundreds of feet in the sky, admiring the skyline of the city from a perspective that not many get to experience. He was very humble and never really felt special doing what he did but he felt he was meant to do what he did. It was in his blood. He left a part of himself in all the jobs he worked on and he got to do something he enjoyed even though he suffered injuries and emotional setbacks. There certainly are inherent dangers in the line of work my dad did for over 35 years and not every day was a good one but he was a real testament to the greatness that this country and its workers were prided on.
Every time I drive over the Verrazano bridge I remember back to the day when I visited my dad when he went back to work on the bridge in the early 1990's after we lost mom. He was working high above the roadway and he was secured in a basket that served as a means to bring him to the very top of the towers. I parked my car in a designated area of the bridge that was reserved for the crew and I started in the direction of where my dad was and as I walked I felt the sway in the roadway. It was amazing as I looked up at my dad while I was having some difficulty maintaining my balance with the vibration as I crossed the bridge. I wonder in astonishment how he ever summoned the courage to work so high in the sky.
A part of me wanted to be up there too to experience what it was like and to see the view but I could never do what my father did as he put his life on the line every day for the sake of others. He was very honorable and very dedicated and I learned a lot from him with respect to being responsible and hard working. Even if I fantasize I still could not envision what it was like to walk the beams and scale the towers that my dad did every day of his working life.
We all can go to a place of fantasy in our dreams and when we are alone. It is important to find escape from the routine on occasion just to recharge and find a sense of ourselves and experience things we don't get to do in our normal every day life. If I could dream of doing something exciting it would be to take a cross country drive from New York to California listening to John Denver's Country Roads and stopping to visit every major league ball park along the way. I would also like to fly to Europe and take a train, ferry ride and drive all across the countryside visiting all the major European countries such as England, Ireland, France, Germany, Italy, Spain and Portugal. It would be one of my dreams and to experience it would be something I have thought about since I was 17 years old during my days in high school.
When I think about life and the places I would love to visit and the people I would love to meet it seems so far out of reach and just a fantasy. The most difficult thing in life we must learn to deal with is that our fantasy world is nowhere near what our actual reality is. If I could live my fantasies I would live in a mansion, I would have more money than I would know what to do with, I would spend more time with my family and I would travel the world and seek to help all those who need a helping hand. As I see my son growing and becoming a young man I realize that our lives are fleeting and it is very important to spend as much time with him before he goes out into the world on his own to stake his claim. It seems that life passes us by so fast that we don't have enough time to experience all we would like to. It is our hope that our dreams and fantasies can become our realities but for most of us we must be content in our life and learn to accept what we live and do for we will not have this forever.
Edward D. Iannielli III
Fantasy - Earth, Wind and Fire
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