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Top 5 Reasons Why Children Dislike School and How To Solve Them Best

Updated on April 30, 2012

If you notice that your child seems to make every excuse not to go to school, be concerned. If he does it every day, be more concerned. He may be showing signs that he dislikes going to his school. Having a 7-year teaching experience, I have seen students who would rather stay home and learn nothing than go to school.


I have several conclusions as to why is this so. In order to prove them, I surveyed 76 students and asked them their reasons for hating to go to school. I was able to come up with the top 5 reasons why they dislike school based on this survey. I have also proposed some suggestions to solve this problem. So here are the top 5 reasons why children dislike school together with the suggested solutions:

1) Bullies

Bullying came out as the top reason why children dislike school, accounting to 45% of responses. This jives with my own analysis. The fact is, bullying in schools is so rampant worldwide. If you care to read the papers or the internet with this topic, you’ll find it in every corner of the globe. For some in-depth insight about bullying, you can read a hub which I wrote about this. Just follow the link below this hub.

In order to solve this problem, ask your child who bullies him. Be careful when asking him because some children do their best to cover up if they are being bullied. This results from their fear of worse consequences if the bully found out that they told their parents about the bully. If he confesses, you can do the appropriate actions based on the severity and your analysis of the personality of the bully. More often than not, it can be solved by inviting the bully over to your house so he can see how your precious child is treated well in your own family. Probe his inner weakness. He may be harboring emotional or attitude problems brought about by his own home environment. Then befriend him. Encourage friendship between him and your child. It will all depend on your strategy. But if it fails, talk with the teacher and discuss your plans to stop him bullying your child. If all else fails, transfer your child to another school. This way, his hate for school because of bullies will be averted.

2) Loneliness

There are children who find it hard to make friends with their classmates or school mates. Some don’t even have friends. This results to loneliness and feeling left out. During class activities, these children are too shy to participate. They keep quiet even during class discussions. According to my survey, some 22% of school children dislike school because they have no friends.

If you notice that your child is feigning illness to avoid going to school, it is best to ask him also if he has friends in school. If none, you can talk to his teacher and ask what could be the reason. Suggest ways to her on how the 2 of you can solve the problem. On the part of the teacher she may pair the lonely child to someone who is also shy during class activities. She can let them sit beside each other. If they click, this will develop their self -confidence. Then pair them with another group of lonely and shy children. Have them interact with one another and before you know it, they will develop a network of friends. In no time, dislike for school is solved..

On the part of the parent, analyze your home situation. There may be something or someone in your home environment that suppress the development of his self-confidence. Being critical of his ways and scolding him too often even for a simple mistake is a sure recipe for stunted psychological development. Constant quarrels among family members also have a profound effect on his dealing with his classmate because it may make him feel embarrassed.

The bottom line is, know what makes your child lonely and addressing it can solve his hate for school.

3. Teacher

The teacher can also cause children to dislike coming to school. This represents 17% of survey responses. There are some children who can’t get along well with their teacher’s style of teaching and discipline. A student who constantly causes disruptions in the class will make not only his classmates but also his teacher to dislike him. This leads him to being scolded often by the teacher which in turn causes him to hate school.

In some cases, some students make up stories about their teacher so their parents will not let them go to school. This signifies an intense dislike for the teacher. The best way to solve it is to talk to the teacher. Let her know the nature of your child. Tell her stories about your child so she will understand why the child acts the way he does. Invite her to your home or join any school activity that requires the presence of parents. This way, your child and his teacher will slowly appreciate each other.

If the teacher remains unfair and mean to him, it is time for school transfer. However, this is a very rare case because the problem is almost always solved.

4. Problem Learning

If a student constantly struggles with his lessons, this may also lead him to dislike school. Finding excuses not to go to school coupled with poor test results are the tell-tale signs that he finds learning school lessons difficult. This reason for hating school takes 9% of the survey responses.

Problem learning is a case which needs swift action. If it persists, the student will most likely struggle throughout his studies and eventually not finish his studies.

Some of the things which a parent can do are: hiring tutors, personally teaching the child, and/or asking the teacher to give more attention to the child (which the teacher can only do so much since there are many students in a class).

Improving the reading comprehension also helps. There are children who find it hard to learn simply because they can’t understand what they are reading. I attest to the correctness of this since all my students who struggle reading also struggle with their other subjects.

Physical defects also contribute to trouble learning. Check to see if your child has a vision or hearing problems. These are the 2 most common physical problems which teachers encounter with students with difficulty in learning.

5. Anxiety

Another reason why children hate school is anxiety. Of all the reasons mentioned, for me it is the most home-oriented. If a child is too much pampered in the home, he will likely fear to be left alone in school by his parents. It is understandable that a child will cry and wail if he attends school for the first time and his mother leaves him with the teacher. Many children adjust later on. However, there are some who can’t get over their fear and anxiety. He may also be anxious and lonely at the same time if he is not able to make friends with his classmates. Family problems may also cause fear to the child and therefore lead him to dislike school. Too much emotional baggage will eventually wear him down.

It is best to find out the root cause of his anxiety. Give him more responsibilities at home so he won’t feel too much pampered. Be firm with him in the sense that if you will pick him up at school, just tell him the time when you’ll pick him up. Don’t say,” Don’t worry, I’ll always be here if you need me, just call me and I’ll come at once.”


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  • DON BALDERAS profile image

    DON BALDERAS 

    5 years ago

    Awareness of DepEd issuances and the realities in the classrooms and schools by the teachers and school heads should lead to the implementation of various interventions to address problems especially concerning students.

  • lorenmurcia profile imageAUTHOR

    lorenmurcia 

    7 years ago

    kingphilip, I had the most unfortunate experience of being punished by my former teacher to walk around the room on my knees because I simply forgot my assignment. But looking back, I am thankful to her because since then I became conscientious of my studies until the time I graduated from college.

  • kingphilipIV profile image

    Ramphil Basco 

    7 years ago from Iloilo, Philippines

    Hello Loren.

    For me, the only reason why I hate to go to school is because of my pathetic teachers.. but then, I'm still happy that they are my teachers because somehow,i've learned from them.. :)

    thanks for sharing..

  • lorenmurcia profile imageAUTHOR

    lorenmurcia 

    7 years ago

    lavender3957, glad to meet another teacher here. Hope we can really make these kids love school again.

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    lavender3957 

    7 years ago

    I have to agree with the content in this hub. As a teacher, I see to many students hate school for many reasons. A lot of it has to do with long sessions of sitting. Thanks for sharing.

  • lorenmurcia profile imageAUTHOR

    lorenmurcia 

    7 years ago

    Greatparenting, in my school, my students stay for more or less 10 hours! You are right in saying that kids spend too much time in school for them to hate it.

  • lorenmurcia profile imageAUTHOR

    lorenmurcia 

    7 years ago

    Pikachusif, if your little sister as outgrown her preference for play, then she did not really hate school. Good for her!

  • greatparenting profile image

    greatparenting 

    7 years ago from philadelphia, pa and corolla, nc

    Really important hub. Parents need to talk to their children about school and to talk to the teacher as well. Kids spend way too much time in school for it to be a place they hate.

  • Pikachusif profile image

    Pikachusif 

    7 years ago from Castelia City, Unova

    Well! Back in my grade schooling days, I always knew that my little sister would always feign diarrhea or some other symptom just to escape from her classes. I think it was just because she loved to play more than she did to work.

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