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My Choice to Remain Pure until Marriage - My True Story

Updated on September 5, 2016
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Theresa is married to her high school sweetheart. She loves writing of her family and experiences in life.


"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure." --- Hebrews 13:4

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"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;" ---1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

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Message for all Young Men and Women


I made the choice in my mind at a very young age to wait for marriage before having sex. I was totally committed to this and I was determined that I would stay pure. It was just in my belief system, I guess.


Honestly, though, I believe I was too scared to even think about such an act, as I saw my girlfriends going through such ordeals at a very early age; that I knew in my young mind, I did not want any part of such things.


Here, I am just telling my true life experiences, and I do not judge anyone else’s life choices.


Having said all of that, however, if I had not gotten married at the young age of 19, then it could very well have been possible that I may not be writing this hub. Also, if it were not for my very mean U.S. Army Veteran dad, who stood well over 6 feet tall, chasing off would-be suitors who came a knocking on my door, then I may not be writing this hub on this day as well! I remember being so infuriated at my dad for “being so mean” and remember thinking that I was going to have to go and live at a convent and become a nun! LOL Sadly, that is what I thought, as he did not allow any young men to even come around our house, and once the word was out about what a big mean old guy my dad was, they really did not come back around.


If my dad were alive this day, I would tell him, “Thank You Dad!!!” For if it were not for him running off “those” particular young men, who knows where I would be today. I realize now, he was just being a dad and doing what he was supposed to do, but I could not see that at my very young age. Oh, how I would cry and cry, about no boyfriends, even though I was not thinking about the sex part at all, as I truly did not want any part of that at that age! I remember one new cool guy moving to the neighborhood, kind of a James Dean type, with his sleeves rolled up and his pack of cigarettes inside the sleeves. I will be the first to admit that my mind went gaga over him, and then one day he came a knocking, as prior to the knocking, he had asked me to hold on to his cigarettes (which I have never smoked a day in my life), while all the guys were playing football. I remembered when it was time for me to go inside for the night, that I had placed the cigarette pack on the outside of my bedroom window seal.


Well, here comes James Dean a knocking on my door, looking for me. Needless to say, that was the last time he came a knocking. I heard my dad answer the door, and then saying a few choice words that I cannot repeat here. I was mortified and cried and cried, thinking of that convent again!


Then came time for the Junior/Senior Prom night, which I was actually allowed to attend, and with a guy! Of course, this particular guy was a sweet guy, about a foot shorter than me, and thick frames like coke bottles, and smart as a whip. So, I am assuming my dad thought he was harmless enough. We were just friends anyway, and I believe my dad knew that too. My future husband to be was good friends with my prom date, but I did not know my future husband to be at the time. Well, my prom date had been tutoring my future husband to be in Algebra one day. My prom date happened to mention that he needed to take a break and come over to my house to pick up the prom photos, and so my future husband to be, came along for the ride.


So they came a knocking, and my dad actually did not run them off, as he knew I needed to give my prom date some of the photos. There stood my future husband to be, kind of gawking at me and unable to speak even one word. My prom date wound up asking me out for my future husband to be, as he was so shy, as was I! Now, my future husband to be must have been pretty smart, in that, he knew to ask my dad’s permission if it was okay for me to go with him on a church outing to the Little Grand Canyon in Georgia, or Providence Canyon, I believe that is what is it called. Being that I would be with a whole group of youths from a church, along with a chaperon, it was just fine with my dad. Hallelujah!!!


From then on out, my future husband to be, asked me out ahead of time for the next upcoming weekends from then on out, movie and dinner. What I did not know was that there were many other guys from school interested in me too, but I had no clue, as I thought that no one was interested in me. My very smart future husband to be (at least when it comes to such matters), never told me of the other guys until long after we were married.


When I think about it, if my future husband to be had actually been smart in Algebra, then we may have never met. Or, if my future husband to be just happened to not be friends with my prom date, we may have never met, but we did.


Me, kneeling and praying.
Me, kneeling and praying. | Source

Of Meager Means


A funny thought would cross my mind back then and that was, “Well, I guess I am going to have to marry this guy, as my dad had not run him off yet.” LOL And so I did . . . marry him!


I was 17 at the time I met my future husband to be, and he was 16. We were married when I was 19, and he was 18. Don’t get me wrong, poor guy, now it was not as if he did not give it his best shot before marriage, but I never gave in to temptation, and I am thankful now on this day I did not do so. And I believe he is thankful too, as he knows he married someone who was only true to him in my whole entire lifetime, and there were never any others in the past before him. That fact, believe it or not, actually makes a big difference in a marriage in the long run.


So, in my mind, after he asked me to marry him, I began to plan the wedding. My parents were not wealthy and were on a very tight budget to say the least, with just my dad's VA retirement at the time.


I worked part-time at the A & P Grocery Store to earn some money to save up for my little sweet wedding, while my future husband to be was away in Basic Training with the Air Force in Texas. I was a cashier, and back in the day, there were no "beep-beeps" to ring up the products. I had to take a math test and score 100, which I did. We had to figure tax in our heads and make change in our heads too! Oh my! You're kidding! What a thought :) Plus, we had to manually key punch each item in, i.e., produce, $1.29, etc. I know, I know, I am from the ancient times!


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I sent my future husband to be, a love letter each and every day, covered in lipstick kisses, and he told me later, that his buddies all were coveting, as I also sent photos too. However, they all tried to talk him out of getting married. Once, my future husband to be, called me at the A & P, as he was homesick and started telling my boss, of all people, how much he loved me and that he could not wait to marry me. My boss called me up to his station and told me about the call that came in while I was away. I was mortified with embarrassment! But I got my future husband to be back, as I told him that a date had been set for the wedding, and he had better make sure he passed those tests in Tech school in the Air Force out in Texas, as there was no changing the date!!! Well, that made the poor guy so nervous, he failed the first and easiest test! Bless his heart. They allowed him to take It over again, and he was at the wedding on the day and time he should be there! LOL


Anyway, I saved up $600.00 whole dollars for my entire wedding, believe it or not. I went to a bridal shop and the first dress I saw, was the one I chose. I told myself that I was not going to look at the prices, but just chose the one that fit my personality at the time. Keep in mind, the styles were a lot different than they are nowadays. After having tried on several dresses, I came back to the very first dress I picked, and guess what, it was a great price on sale!


Then I went to the florist and chose the flowers, and again, all so beautiful, and for my bouquet, something very sweet, simple and did not cost much, daisies, which are known for their simple purity and representative of innocent ways.


The church did not cost anything that I can remember, and if it did, it was a small amount.


I did pay for a photographer, who was very reasonable at the time.


Then, a simple reception followed with just close friends and family present, and we were set. Oh, plus the wedding ring bands too. I had it all covered from the invitations to the cakes, which our cake leaned a bit, but who cared. :)


Then we drove away in our Chevy Vega with no air conditioning all the way to Tampa, Florida, where my husband was stationed in the Air Force for four years.



There we were driving away in our lovely Chevy Vega!  LOL  Yes, two dumb young kids, were we.
There we were driving away in our lovely Chevy Vega! LOL Yes, two dumb young kids, were we. | Source

Back to the Question ~ Did I Miss out on Anything?


The honest answer here is, YES, I sure I did. The following is a list of what I missed out on:


I missed out on unwanted pregnancies.


I missed out on sexually transmitted diseases.


I missed out on having my heart broken over and over, after the act was over and done!


I missed out on emotional instability.


I missed out on living in poverty with hungry, fatherless children to feed.


I missed out on having no self respect.


I missed out on having many lovers in lieu of just having the One, He planned for me.


I missed out on low self-esteem.


And so, YES, I missed out on a lot, and I am so thankful I did!


To be honest, I never once really thought about . . . oh, what have I missed out on, as the “missed out on” list is always not a pleasant thought, as one can read above what that entails, at least in my mind. In other words, this was all just fine with me.


Again, I am not here to judge anyone who may have made other choices in this life, as that is not my place to judge, but to love, and that is what this message is about ... love and love of self.


The awesome news is that if you have made choices you regret, our Lord has made a way with the very blood He shed on that cross long ago, when He paid that high price for all. If you know Him, then you know you are pure in the sight of God, as the old has passed away, and you are now a new beautiful creature in Christ.



"This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!" ---2 Corinthians 5:17 (New Living Translation)


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"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." ---Hebrews 11:11


Ask yourself this question:


In what ways is sexual behavior in a dating relationship a matter of faith?


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In your mind, Is being sexually pure before marriage a good thing?

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"There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit." ---Romans 8:1


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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Oh Dear Faith,

      You are unfolding in your sharing with us...I absolutely love learning about you, your beautiful upbringing and in this, your mean old Dad!!

      You reach, teach and always inspire with your words...

      Voted UP and UABI. Love, Maria

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      Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York

      One million kudos to you my wonderful friend! and THANK YOU for including my hub title. So much more of these need to be written and shared among young people. The best part of this hub is the list of what you missed! Exceptional and phenomenal! Voted up, useful and awesome! Blessings Sparklea :)

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      Suzette Walker 4 years ago from Taos, NM

      Gosh, Faith. Thank you for sharing your lovely story of love and marriage. And your are humorous where you need to be and serious where you need to be. This is beautiful. And, you were/are a beautiful bride. Your beauty shines through your heart. To each his own, but your story is particularly beautiful. As said above, this is so inspiring and so many can learn from this. Thanks for sharing!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bravo, Faith! So nice to see you share this part of your life with us all. This is an important message my friend and you told it beautifully.

      blessings,

      bill

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      Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

      Faith this is a wonderful hub.. keeping with the Faith theme.. you of all person makes a hub like this with that Christian theme work.. brave dear sweet Faith :)

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Maria,

      You are always so gracious to me with your encouraging and kind words, and I appreciate it very much!!!

      You're the best!

      Yes, hooray, in this case for "mean old Dads everywhere," just doing their jobs as Dads!

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      THANK YOU Dear Sparklea!!!

      I really appreciate you allowing me to link your awesome hub on the same issue here, which is an important one for all young women and men to hear. I appreciate your encouragement always and wisdom on such matters, and you sharing of your life experiences as well. I am blessed to know you and call you friend.

      I also appreciate the vote up.

      Yes, that list is truly the important part of the hub, no doubt about it, at least in my eyes as well.

      God bless you, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear suzette,

      Thank you so much for your very kind words, and I am glad you enjoyed my "love" story!

      In my heart, it is truly an important message, although, there are many who will scoff and that is okay with me. It is just something that worked in my life, and I am glad to have made the choice way back then and without any regrets whatsoever.

      I appreciate you and your kindess towards me.

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Bill,

      Thank you for always being so supportive of not only my writing, but the subject of my writings too. It is an important one to me, at least in my eyes.

      I am glad you enjoyed me sharing about that time in my young life.

      I appreciate your wonderful comments here. You're the best!

      Peace and blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Frank,

      I don't know about me and the brave part, but I do really appreciate you saying such, and want to thank you for always showing up and encouraging me in my sharing of my faith here.

      You are such a dear to me always, with such gracious comments towards me, and I want to tell you how much that means to me.

      You rock, too!!! :)

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      I believe that you have had what is coveted by all young girls - everything just perfect - a fairy tail.

      Your story is so beautiful, Faith; you actually pulled my tears.

      Sadly, too many men on this planet are obsessed with sex and rude enough to simply take what they want, and too many young girls never even get the chance to contemplate staying a virgin until a specific day.

      Voted up and awesome!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Martie,

      Thank you so much for your lovely comments. Well, everything in reality was far from perfect, to include marriage, as all marriages have their good and bad days, especially for such a long time marriage and really growing up together, was at times, certainly no picnic! LOL

      However, I am so thankful I did not give in to temptation prior to marriage.

      You're so right about the obsession with sex and instant gratification, which is certainly not love by any means.

      I know many will scoff, but this is just what was right for me, specifically. Thank you for sharing with me that this pulled some tears. You have touched my heart this day with your kind comments.

      I hope your day is as lovely as your are!

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      Emily Sparks 4 years ago

      What a beautiful love story and what a beautiful bride....I love the dress! Great hub, voted up! By God's grace I will come to my wedding day a virgin as God intended! How much better is His plan than anything this old world says we must have!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Dearest Emily,

      So glad for your visit here this lovely day!

      Oh, what lovely comments filled with His truths you have left too. Yes, His plan is far better than anything I could ever have come up with no doubt about that fact!!!

      I am glad you love the dress :)

      Thank you for blessing me this day with your lovely presence here.

      God bless you, Faith Reaper

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Faith Reaper... what a great hub and a message so much needed today. Blessings to you and hubby for standing firm on your belief. We have all seen the ramifications that can happen otherwise.

      Hugs and Blessings and Much Love

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Rolly,

      Thank you for your kind words here. It was what was right for me, is all I know, and I am so thankful too!

      Blessings to you too from southern USA.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Shannon 4 years ago from Texas

      I wholeheartedly agree with your message here, Faith!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi shanmarie,

      Thanks so much for reading and supporting the message here.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Wow, your father sounds like my mother. I got all the facts of life being warned what not to do! lol

      I too was raised to respect myself and I am really glad I did.

      Beautiful story and beautiful Faith. Thank you for sharing that with us all.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi beautiful Jackie,

      Well, I received much wisdom and grace from my mother, and then my dad was the take names and ask questions later type! LOL

      Thank you for sharing that with me, and I knew without a doubt you have much respect for yourself.

      I appreciate your kind words here.

      Have a lovely night sweet friend.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      You are so right, Faith. You missed out on all that you did NOT want...that was back in the day when so many of us made that choice (and I suppose many did not, too.). there was a young girl who a sophomore in high school ...I remember this as if it were yesterday...she turned to us...a group of ninth grade girls and said: "Don't do what I did. I am pregnant!!! Sure I had a little fun but now no one wants me." And she began to cry. At that time pregnant girls were not allowed to attend school so she had to drop out soon after.

      I honestly was not very popular with the boys for a date...I had lots of friends boys and girls but not so many dates because I didn't 'put out' as they called it. However Faith, like you, I never for one minute regretted it.

      That is a life choice that I hope more young people choose to make. I am sharing this today.

      and, Sending Angels your way my dear sweetest friend...ps

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi my dearest friend PS,

      I do so appreciate the wonderful comment here, which adds much to the subject of this hub no doubt! Thank you for sharing your story too. It may be that one does not appreciate the decision until later in life, and boy do I ever now, as you say, no regrets whatsoever!!!

      You're the best!

      Yes, it is a life choice, and a very serious one with many consequences one may not think of at the time, but should consider seriously before acting upon any temptation. Our Lord tells us that we will be tempted, but He will provide an escape to such temptation.

      Hugs, love and Angels on your way, Faith Reaper

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      Khen Ramos 4 years ago from Philippines

      Amazing hub, just reading a part of it, it hit me, as I am a teenager, and I'm not so sure about this topic yet. Now I know more and I am confident now as a male that I can find that perfect female and be pure for her. As what my professor said, "The best gift you can give your partner is your virginity." Hahahahaha :) Anyway thank you for this amazing article and I'm going to finish reading it now. Hahahaha :) Voted up !

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Wow, Darksage,

      Thank you for sharing that with me. Yes, I am in agreement with your professor, that is the best gift no doubt.

      I appreciate your wonderful comments, which add much to the subject of this hub.

      I appreciate the vote up too.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Karen Hellier 4 years ago from Georgia

      What a great story. Thank you for sharing such personal details with the rest of us. I love it that you worked at A & P and saved $600 for your wedding. You are right, that is a far cry from the cost today. Good for you for saving yourself and I loved the list of what you missed out on. Voted up and beautiful!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Karen,

      So great to have you visiting here this day! Thanks so much for the wonderful comments left. Yes, that is a far cry from the cost of a wedding today, but I still believe one can have a very beautiful wedding at a much lower cost, if you really check things out and go for simplicity. Maybe that would be a good hub to write!

      I appreciate the vote up.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Thomas Silvia 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Faith my friend enjoyed reading this great article and think it is so awesome that you waited for Mr. Right to come a long, even though you didn't know that your dad was in his way helping you to do that.

      Vote up and more !

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      Nellieanna Hay 4 years ago from TEXAS

      Beautiful, beautiful, Faith! Such a lovely bride were you! You're still one!! I agree with you and all you gained, as well as your list of what you missed by waiting till the right one came along who could pass your dad's tough obstacle course!

      My dad wasn't in the Army - at least not for decades before I was born; he was just a man of honor & character whose counseling most influenced my decisions. He 'splained things to me! He also scared off some less desirable suitors, though one got through the net, I'm afraid; one who didn't turn out well as a husband. I was out of college and might have known better, but it was the timing which was out of whack for parental counseling, as we'd just lost my eldest sister & all her family in a horrid car-train accident. We were all devastated and none of us was very alert at that time. But as your hub tells it 'as it is', - the consequences of any poor choice are greater than the choice may seem at the time. One can and must rise from them and continue courageously!

      Thank you. This hub is well worth distributing to young folks, though it is too personal to be distributed by anyone but yourself. ;-)

      Hugs. I'm truly happy for you, lovely Faith!! I appreciate that you simply told 'your story' and made no effort to judge or criticize anyone else! It's a good example, both for practicing personal convictions and for just being good folks, lighting the way!

      By the way, -I was twice a Bridal Consultant, in 1953 and again in 1972; and, truly, your $800 wedding wouldn't have covered many of the clothing 'extras' for most of the brides I serviced, even that long ago, much less all the expenses that 'go-with' a wedding! Amazing! I like your way better! Putting emphasis on what really matters!! It's another good example for folks!

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      cleaner3 4 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      Faith .. this is inspiring.... both in faith and love .. persistence and hope is what makes us .. your father was a good man and if all men would love their offspring as the way he loved you .. this would be a better world indeed. You are special .. absolutely..!!!!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Faith, what a wonderful share!...I loved your story. We all take different paths some harder than others, you were blessed; you found the right person who made you happy, what more can anyone ask for. I kissed a few toads but I also found my prince :).

      Great write, you were a beautiful vision in white.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi my sweet friend, kashmir,

      I think you are so awesome!

      Yes, dads do have a way of knowing the bad apples, even the ones who try to put on with polite manners, as they can see right through that fake persona no doubt about it! You're right, I did not like it at the time, but I sure wished now, that I had thanked him before he died.

      I appreciate the vote up and more.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Faith Reaper, I spent decades teaching purity across the board, including premarital sexual abstinence. I also decided to be a virgin on my wedding night, and by the grace of God, I was. The things we missed are things we didn't need. Love your pictures.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Nellieanna,

      Thank you so much for your most gracious comments. I am so humbled.

      Oh, my goodness, that was certainly a terrible time of loss, especially for your parents, and I could not even imagine such. It is more than understandable that it would surely throw anyone out of whack!!!

      However, as you say, one must persevere, and I love the person you are and turned out to be just perfect!!!

      I understand too, as if it were not for my dad running off those would-be suitors, especially the "James Dean", I am sure I would have made a terrible mistake or choice when it came to Mr. Dean!

      I surely could have used your expertise as a Bridal Consultant back then! You have so much class, dignity and grace, I have no doubt that all the weddings of which you were a consultant, were stunning!

      Speaking of thrifty, my future husband to be at the time (I did nto include this in the hub, bu probably should have), but bi-weekly, he would present me with a dozen red roses. I always had wondered how he could afford such, and it was not until well after we were married that he confessed that he found a place where he could actually purchase a dozen roses for only--get this--$5.00 LOL, and to top it off, they were actually really gorgeous roses! :)

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oops, Nellieanna,

      I was in the middle of editing my comment to you, and it must have timed-out on me, as my corrections are not showing up. Anyway, I ended it with . . . Ah, young love! :)

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Michael (cleaner3),

      Thank you so much for your lovely comments here. You are a very special man too! I have no doubt about it from reading your amazing, heartfelt poetry.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Jo (tobusiness),

      Thank you so much for your kind comments towards me. Yes, I was truly blessed no doubt.

      I am glad you found your prince too, and I know many do have to kiss a few toads before finding their prince :)

      You are a beautiful vision always!

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Ms. Dora,

      God bless you for doing such! There is no telling how many young lives you influenced for the better. Bravo to you dearest one.

      I am glad you waited too.

      You are so right about those things we missed . . . no need whatsoever!

      I do not know where I would be without His grace.

      I appreciate your kind comments about my photos.

      God bless you, Faith Reaper

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      Tonette Fornillos 4 years ago from The City of Generals

      This is very beautiful, Faith. Reading it brings a touch of joy to my heart. I salute your military Dad. He raised you with a value that's worth emulating. His being "mean" in that sense was just perhaps the best of all "mean-ness" in this world, lol. Coming from a Filipino family, I know the feeling, we have the same Dad.

      I thank GOD for such lovely woman you are.... thanks for sharing what a beautiful bride you have become. Perfect example to what women should be. GOD is SO GOOD! :=)

      My votes up and definitely sharing and allow me to pin. Love you! :=)-Tonette

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      wetnosedogs 4 years ago from Alabama

      What a lovely bride you were. And what a lovely person you are. Thanks for sharing these very strong sentiments. This is great stuff for younger people to read and having lots of questions. It can be done. Thanks for sharing your story with us.

      And I am sharing this.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Precious Heart Tonette,

      You are such a beautiful person and I thank you for leaving such lovely comments. I am so glad you shared this with me here about your "mean" Dad too :)

      God IS so good indeed!!!

      I appreciate the votes up, share and pin.

      I praise Him for you too and love you too :)!!!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Wetnose,

      Always lovely to see you stopping by!

      I appreciate your wonderful comments here. You're the best!

      Hugs to you and the whole furry family, Faith Reaper

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      Anna 4 years ago

      It's easy to make that choice if you're attractive because sooner or later (usually sooner) attractive people find spouses. But what about the very real predicament of people who are extremely physically unattractive due to genetics? Perhaps even with deforming disabilities?

      An unattractive person who follows this Christian morality will likely never have sex. There are some "Christian" people who say that's just God's "plan" and some who say it's God's way of making sure their bad genes don't get passed down to the next generation. But I think people in this predicament have suffered enough.

      Probably their only chance to have sex will be outside of marriage or a loving partnership. I say let them have the chance with no judgments. Until you've walked a mile in their shoes, you have no room to judge.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Anna,

      I certainly agree, and I do not judge anyone, as I stated here in my hub. I am just relaying what worked for me and my personal choices in my life experiences.

      Those are excellent thoughts to ponder and all can make their own choice. It was just the choice I chose. And it was a good one for me, specifically.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Faith Reaper

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      Larry Wall 4 years ago

      Faith,

      In many ways your story mirrors the life my wife and I have shared. The biggest differences are we were older, 29, before we married. Our wedding was small but meaningful. The ceremony was not overpowered by formals, tuxedos, flowers and the like. We are now about to celebrate our 33rd anniversary and I have no regrets for waiting for the right person. To be honest, I thought about it, thought it would not make any difference, but I always knew the right person was waiting for me. We met on a blind date. I knew then we would be married. She took a little convincing, but in less than a year we were man and wife.

      Thank you for sharing your story. You are always an inspiring person.

      Larry

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Wow! What a history. At the time... the feeling. Nothing to compare. Right? Thank you for sharing yourself.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Larry,

      I am so glad for your visit here! Wow, Larry, thank you so much for sharing your beautiful story here too. Congratulations on the 33rd anniversary. We have been married 34 years. Time flies does it not, with the one you love!

      You're the best! You are always such an inspiration to me dearest Larry.

      God bless you, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Mh, you are so right dear . . . nothing to compare!

      I know you know about that one true love, who brought you nothing but Joy in this lifetime.

      I am always blessed when you stop by to read and comment.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Faith, your story is amazing.

      I grew up in a very strict culture, sex before marriage is considered sin even for guys. However, this notion is changing. Sex outside the context of marriage is not accepted.

      My knowledge about western values is very limited. Thank you very much for opening my eyes.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Vinaya,

      I appreciate your kind words about "my story".

      Thank you so much for sharing about your culture. Yes, sex before marriage for a woman or man is a sin according to His Holy Word. So, I was pleased to know about how your culture looks at this issue as well.

      However, our western values for the most part have gone by the wayside for sure. Nowadays, especially, it seems even very, very young girls and boys are not even thinking about waiting, or the concept of such.

      Hope you have a lovely weekend. It is a three day holiday weekend here, and I am so happy for the break.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Tijani Achamlal 4 years ago from Morocco

      Wow What a beautiful experience you went through.Yeah, you missed out many bad things .Your dad was a great and wise .He protected you so well and knew what was best for you.Rarely to find nowadays dads like that.Be proud of him and God bless his soul!

      The dress wedding picture is so beautiful.You look like an angel,Maybe what makes it more beautiful is the bent of your head.I agree with you S..x after marriage is better http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-skeptical-...

      Voted up.

      James

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Dearest James,

      It is such a delight to have you stopping by to read here this day, and you are most welcome anytime!!! Well, thank you so much precious heart for the very lovely comment here. I am so humbled. You have blessed me this day with your visit.

      You are an angel for saying such here. I am so happy you agree about the subject issue, and I appreciate the link you have provided. I will check it out.

      I appreciate so very much the vote up too!

      Hugs, peace and love always, Faith Reaper

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      skye2day 4 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      Faith, Sister what a wonderful testimony. Wow. I love your pictures and the story is one of Gods Grace and unending favor. You guys are so precious. Your husband truly captured a very special woman. May Gods favor shine on you each and every day. You my dear are a gem in His chest of treasures. Love, Skye

      I pray many are inspired by your story!

      voted linked out!!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello my beautiful sister, sent from heaven above, no doubt, skye!

      Thank you so much for your lovely comments here. I am always so blessed whenever you come for a visit. Thank you for your blessings towards me.

      Yes, God's Grace is amazing and I am blessed to be His daughter, just as you, dearest skye!!!

      I do pray that someone is inspired too. Actually, I have received private emails that have blessed my heart, so I am glad I have shared my story here.

      God bless you always. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Carrie L. Cronkite 4 years ago from Maine

      So beautiful and refreshing to read. You are an exceptional role model for young girls and women everywhere. God bless you!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello creativelycc,

      So nice to meet you, and thank you so much for the awesome comment. I am so humbled.

      I pray this may inspire someone somewhere, even if just one.

      God bless you too! In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      I am so glad you shared this part of your life. My granddaughter has the same views and I believe she will wait. She has dated the same boy since 12th grade and they are finishing their 3rd year of college now.

      You are so right about what you didn't miss and the fact that you Dad watched you carefully might not have been appreciated at the time, but it turned out he was right. This is a wonderful tribute to your life. God bless.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Pamela,

      You have been in my thoughts and prayers, so I am so happy to see you here stopping by to read. That is so wonderful about your granddaughter!!!

      Yes, indeed, I sure did miss out on a lot that I am thankful I missed out on :) !!! You're right about my dad, as I really did not appreciate him running off all the boys at the time, but know that I look back, it was a very good thing he did! The only thing I really regret now is not telling him, Thank You Dad!!

      I appreciate your wonderful comments here.

      God bless you too, Faith Reaper

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      A big big round of applause to you Faith! I join you in the league...I guess, you know what I mean. :)

      Thank you for sharing with us such important event in your life. I had a truly wonderful time reading it in my bed with a cup of nice soothing dandelion tea.

      I'm feeling the connection....love from the sky.

      P.S. You look stunning on your wedding dress and that picture of you kneeling is divine.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi My Dearest Love from the Sky, CrisSp,

      Yes, I know what you mean sweetest friend :)

      Thank you for blessing me this night with your visit here. Dandelion tea does sound very soothing indeed!

      You are divine yourself.

      I am glad you feel the connection. You're the best.

      Thank you for such lovely comments here.

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      shofarcall 4 years ago

      Wow Faith Reaper,

      You have been truly blessed in your life with Christ and with the Father you had! That is what Fathers are supposed to do. Protect their daughters from the wolves!

      I praise God that we are a new creation in Him because I was not so blessed in that area and did not grow up in a God fearing home. Thank you for sharing such a special time of your life with us. Loved the pictures. God Bless

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello shofarcall,

      So glad for your visit here this day! Thank you so much for your kind words here. Yes, he was just doing what a dad should do, but I sure was not happy about it at the time.

      Yes, I praise Him too, for the old has passed away, and we are now new creatures in Christ! Amen

      God bless you too. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Joseph De Cross 4 years ago

      I missed this one! You were so lucky in meeting your husband. Today not many believe in this moral values. They say is not practical. Well, you missed out on so many things, but hey! God had a plan for you. Great thoughts for the young!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Joseph (Lord De Cross),

      So glad for your visit here. Yes, I missed out on a lot . . . a lot of what I am so glad I did miss out on. Of course, I was married so young, and many nowadays are waiting until much later, so that helped out a lot in my case.

      Yes, God did and does have a plan for me, just like He has one for you too!

      Thank you for the kind words here.

      You may have missed a couple more too :) ... hubs.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Faith your story is almost as beautiful as you! You are surely a beacon for us all, your early life and now your unfailing devotion. Darn woman, you are something else!!

      When taking your survey it showed that your decision is in the minority. I will not attest to your absolute patience and abstinence but can say I am happy that I married the person....I'll leave it at that. We are married 47 years, and I was 19 when we married.

      How proud I am to read this and to know you. God bless.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Mary (Till),

      Thank you so kindly for such wonderful comments here. You're the best!

      In looking at my poll, it seems that the majority of those who voted do think that remaining sexaully pure before marriage is a good thing, so I am surprised by that, and happy too :)

      Wow, 47 years of marriage is awesome to say the least and a great testimony too, as we all know, sometimes marriage has its ups and downs, but that is all part of it, and you are blessed too, to have found that One in this life!

      I am so humbled by your comments dearest Mary. I am proud and so very blessed to know you too.

      I appreciate the votes up.

      God bless you too. In His Love Always, Faith Reaper

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      A wonderful read and thank you so much for sharing. So nice to be back reading your wonderful hubs after a great holiday

      As always voted up.

      Eddy.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Eddy,

      So glad for you to be back! Thank you for your kind words here. I know you enjoyed your holiday no doubt!

      I appreciate the vote up.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      Faith...i can't believe my 'good feelings' while reading this story of the perfect childhood and the perfect marriage!

      Money comes secondary to love and, my friend and you got spectacularly lucky!

      Rich has got NOTHING on you! What i would have given to have a mean daddy like yours - and not mine!!

      beautiful share, my friend, thank you!

      shared, pinned...

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      Jennifer 4 years ago from New Jersey

      What a lovely life story you have shared!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Leslie,

      Thank you so much for your kind words here. Well, it wasn't a perfect childhood or marriage (no such thing, as all marriages have their ups and downs no doubt, especially those forever ones!).

      Yes, my daddy was truly a mean ole' dad no doubt, and if he were alive I would thank him for being such, as who knows where I would be this day.

      However, my dad did have the disease of alcoholism, and so my family and mother all suffered a great deal when he would have bouts of being drunk after coming home from the wars, coupled with PTSD, so no perfect childhood there. Kind of like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. When he was sober, he was a great dad. I would listen to him suffering with PTSD as a child and relive the horrors of war right along with him, and the only way he knew to cope back then was with alcohol. They never heard of PTSD back then, well, if they did, my family never did, and they did not talk openly about the wars, as they do now, at least the veterans of that time did not.

      I appreciate the lovely comments, share and pin.

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Theater girl,

      So glad for your visit here this evening! I appreciate your kind words here.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Angie Gega 4 years ago

      Such a sweet story!! :) Beautiful woman of God!!!

      Blessings... Your story confirms once more... that God works in disguise.. from the prom guy and his friend ..and the way you met.. is like God was playing chess.. with your life.. and at the end you won.. We always win when we let God take over our lives...

      Love

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      Rosemary Amrhein 4 years ago from Boston, MA

      Well, Faith,

      I took a "leap" and decided to read another hub today...lol.

      This was a very interesting and inspiring one and just lovely- I mean that.

      Really I'm pretty fussy when it comes to what I read sometimes. Glad I found this very fun hub!

      The James Dean guy, huh?!

      LOL

      Cute stories

      and

      Very Beautiful pictures of YOU!

      wow and a beautiful dress,,,just the kind I would probably pick

      Daisies...

      Yes you did "miss out on a lot!!" ha ha

      I was very sheltered too.

      By my Mom and all

      I waited a long time

      Still single though and that's ok

      Better to be than marry the wrong one

      You know

      When you have a dad like mine who yelled a lot like yours

      Sometimes it affects who and how you date

      as you can imagine

      But yes there is redemption and forgiveness and starting over!

      Beautiful video too

      You know already as they say, "If he loves you he'll wait"

      We have to choose to make them wait! haha!!

      Great hub and great true story

      Uplifting fun and all voted up and all.

      Thanks for being YOU!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Angie,

      So nice to meet you via LDC! Thank you so much for reading and leaving such lovely comments to glorify our Lord God!

      Yes, His plans for our lives are much better than any we could ever come up with no doubt.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Rose (blondey),

      I am glad you chose to read my hub, since you are "fussy" to chose what to read. :)

      Yes, my dad was not a perfect dad, but he did run off the wrong guys no doubt, and if he were here this day, I would tell him, "Thank you Dad"!!!

      Yes, we actually do have the choice in this area of our lives, either "yes" or "no" and I am glad I chose "no" until marriage. It was just the right decision for me.

      I know you are a passionate one, as that is how God made us, and there is one out there somewhere, I truly believe, just right for you, Rose. I really believe that with all of my heart.

      Thank you for the enthusiastic comments here.

      Oh, yes, it is much better to be alone than with the WRONG person!!! A big Amen on that one.

      Thank you, for being YOU too!!!

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA

      :) smiling and laughing lol nice response, yes thank you for that confident comment about my future and yes....can't help that damn passion...lol....:)

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Rose (blondey), is that you? schoolgirlforreal :)

      So, you changed your profile name or just have two accounts?

      Yes, we are passionate beings no doubt :)

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Rosemary Amrhein 4 years ago from Boston, MA

      Yeah it's me. I have two accounts. One is for facts and one is for fun.

      LOL

      This was an accident, LOL.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      LOL, okay, I thought you looked familiar :)

      I thought about that one time, but knew I would get mixed up too.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      well my dear Faith what a wonderful hub.. you remind me so much .. wow and the vega.. I had one too.. I loved it.. You are so adorable.. My father would sit on front pouch with a shotgun when the boys would come pick me up.. I lost more boyfriends like that.lol... My dad was military.. lol

      love your hub. and OH your dress looked so much like mine.. I like the dresses now days so much better..

      love you girlfriend

      Sharing

      Debbie

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Debbie,

      LOL, no you did not have a Vega too! LOL That is hilarious! We did not even have air conditioning and when drove to Tampa, Florida where my husband was stationed, and it was so terribly hot and humid.

      Wow, and I thought my dad was intimidating!!! He never used a shotgun, but they all still ran off and never returned, except the one! :)

      I am glad you liked my hub and I remind you of so much. I saw what a beautiful bride you were.

      Yes, the dresses today are so chic indeed.

      Thank you for the lovely comments and share.

      Love you too sweetie,

      Praying too, Faith Reaper

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      Romeos Quill 3 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Wow Faith!

      Thank you for sharing what I'm perfectly sure is an absolutely fabulous part of your life, bedecked with the finest of lasting memories, and all power to you for your purity before your momentous occasion of holy matrimony. You and Sparklea are both amazing examples for the younger women to follow.

      Your photographs are simply beautiful - you look like a real Angel, and your husband is greatly blessed to be with you.

      A really encouraging and uplifting chapter of what I hope is a continual long, and happy bond , with the most exciting chapters yet to remain written. Thank you for sharing, and shall do likewise.

      Warmest Regards,

      R.Q.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Romeos,

      Thank you so much, and I am so glad I did make such a decision then, of course if I had waited too long before marrying, that may have not been the case. LOL

      Aw, thank you for the lovely compliments. Let's us hope so as to the future chapters!

      I appreciate your most generous comments and time you take to make such lovely comments.

      You're the best!

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Mary Strain 3 years ago from The Shire

      Faith, this is such a sweet hub. If more people felt as you do, the world would be a happier place. It was fun to see your wedding pictures too...you were such a baby -- and such a pretty bride!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Molly,

      So great to you this night! Thank for your kind words as always. Yes, very young and dumb LOL Kidding, we were very young indeed.

      Hope all is well with you.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      cleaner3 3 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      well.. just got home and seen this hub on notifications.. and thought I would drop in ... and so happy I did .. that picture of you in the wedding dress is one awesome picture..!

      A beauty in white was she

      going to become ..

      some else's tree

      A magical day .. only then

      the love she showed

      it was when

      flowers in hand

      so lovely...

      all I could say was wow

      the picture of her ..

      taking a wedding vow.

      You look so beautiful !

      Michael

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Dearest Michael,

      Thank you for leaving such a lovely poem here, and I am humbled by your beautiful poetic words. You are an amazing poet and I am blessed to be able to read your God-given gift of poetry and I praise Him for you each day for sharing your gift with us all here.

      I hope and pray that you have a lovely day this Saturday. Unfortunately, I must go into the city this day to work to catch up on things.

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

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      moonlake 3 years ago from America

      Look at all the comments. My Dad was also military he and my Mom kept close eye on all of us. Didn't you just love the guys with sleeves rolled up? I fell for that kind too, but somewhere deep inside I knew they were the wrong ones and yet they may have grown up to be fine men.

      I also believed the way you did, we will be married 51 years next month. Times have sure changed.

      Enjoyed your photos. Voted up and shared.

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      dhannyya 3 years ago

      wonderful article....u r absolutely right...living in strong christian background will certainly help to a big extent...

      then....u r so cute in that dress...

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      Hendrika 3 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

      This is so true.

      I wish more young girls were this wise especially here in South Africa where teen pregnancies are a very big problem, thousands of school girls fall pregnant each year. It is so bad that there had to be decided to allow them to finish their schooling otherwise too many will have to leave school at a young age!

      So, thanks for the Hub and I hope many young girls read it

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, my goodness, wow, I am blessed by the comments here. I am so sorry for being so late in commenting back!

      WOW moonlake!!! Thank you for sharing here ... 51 years CONGRATS! Times have changed indeed.

      Yes, I did love those rolled up sleeves too ... lol and you are so wise to have that intuition kick in back then. I knew he was not right for me too, but ... : )

      I am sure they have all grown to be all fine men indeed! So glad you enjoyed the photos too.

      I appreciate the vote up and share, and I see I have more comments, so thank you very much.

      Bless you precious heart,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello dhannyya,

      So nice to meet you! Thank you so much for stopping here to read and leaving such kind comments.

      God bless you,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Hendrika,

      So nice to meet you too! That is so unfortunate to hear about such in your country. It is widespread here nowadays too, I am afraid.

      Thank you for stopping by to read and sharing in your commenting, and I pray more young people do read.

      Bless you,

      Faith Reaper

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      Hi Faith, Staying pure until marriage is a beautiful thing. already has someone destined for you and when that man/ woman comes along, he or she will love you, honor you, cherish you and respect you for who you are. You and I were brought up the same way. My dad was always the same way and my dad would shoot the boys away. One time he sprayed the water hose right at a boy's face who kept going around in circles on his bicycle. my dad knew this particular boy liked me and he made sure to keep him as far away as possible from me. You were such a beautiful bride and you're still as lovely Faith. Hugs& Love. Doc

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      1st paragraph, I skipped a word.. God already has I meant

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      He Dear Marlene,

      You are so kind and generous here in your commenting. Thank you for sharing about your dad too, who scared away the those he knew were not right for you, just being a dad. If my dad were alive today, I would tell him "Thank You Dad!" For there is no telling where or with whom I would have run off with LOL ... Alas, God had others plans for my husband and I. I knew what you meant sweetie. I know God has that one for you too, for you are a beautiful, intelligent woman who only deserves the best this life has to offer, especially when it comes to the one you will marry!

      I know he is out there just for you. Never settle for a frog when your prince, handpicked by God, is truly out there, and he will cherish and love you just for who you are, and why would he not!

      Hugs and much love,

      Faith Reaper

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      Faith, thank you for the nice compliment and kind words. I'm glad that God found you your perfect match and he has indeed been the one because you have been married for 35 yrs. How did your dad feel about you getting married at such a young age? Never settle for a frog, I'll remember this one. Have a good night& rest of the week:) I'm over there on Bubbles and you?

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Marlene, well, my dad did not expect me to get married at such a young age, nor did I, for I had all these plans, yet, God had other plans for me, obviously. He truly was the first young man my dad did not run off, so I figured I had to marry him or become a nun LOL. Yes, we are still married, and so it was God's plan for us to meet as we did and still be together after all of these years.

      I signed up at Bubblews, but just have never had the time to make it back over there.

      Miss you here though.

      Good night to you too and have a blessed rest of the week and weekend.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Victoria Van Ness 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

      What a beautiful story! This is something I had wanted desperately as a child and young teenager, but had taken away from me. I ended up making many mistakes through my teenage years and had to come to my senses and rededicate myself to a second virginity, which I, in fact, was able to give my husband.

      Of course, it would have been wonderful to be able to say "you were the only one ever," but that is much less frequent nowadays. I can only hope that my children make the decisions I was not able to make myself and get to experience the joy and lack of heartache that I did not.

      Wonderful article! Thank you!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi VVanNess,

      Thank you for reading and I appreciate the kind comments and sharing. That is awesome you have rededicated yourself to a second virginity!!! He can and does make all things new no doubt, pure and white as snow.

      I am glad you thought this to be a wonderful article. Thank you!

      Blessings,

      Faith Reaper

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      What a beautiful hub, Faith and a wonderful love story.

      I like your question "Did I Miss out on Anything?" and your answer "YES, I missed out on a lot, and I am so thankful I did!" It's the same for me except on "low self-esteem". That didn't come from my husband but from my upbringing with emotional abuse. It takes a long time to get over that. But I was lucky enough to have a very kind husband; I think someone up there was definitely looking after me :-)

      We were in the same class when we were 12 years old; started to date when were 18 and got married at 21. The interesting thing is that love continues to grow even after a so long time together :-) I remember that when we started dating and we were walking hand in hand and I was dreaming that we would continue to hold hands as we grow slowly older together... and we do :-)))

      Thank you for sharing your beautiful story and your lovely pictures!

      Have a fantastic warm day!

      PS : I love the kisses on the envelope and I am not surprised that the buddies of your husband to be at that time were a little bit jaleous ;-)

      PPS : I love your background on HP!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Joelle again!

      I appreciate you taking the time to read this hub. Oh, dear heart, I am so sorry you had to go through such emotional pain. Oh, yes, He was looking out for you, for you are one of the kindest and sweetest persons I have met here on HP.

      You are so right about love continuing to grow after the years and after going through life together. My husband and I were married so young that we pretty much grew up together and went through so much together, which made our relationship stronger indeed. Yes, my husband and I still hold hands too, how lovely for you too!

      I am so glad you enjoyed reading about my story and my profile background too. I appreciate you taking time out to read all of such here this day. You're the best!

      Yes, I believe his buddies may have been just a bit jealous, as they were not getting such letters and envelopes with kisses on them. hehe

      Well, the cold rain is back this day, but I sure do hope it moves out before the weekend is here.

      Hugs,

      Faith Reaper

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Hi Faith, after your lovely comments about today's hub, I HAD to return to this wonderful write and read it again! I know I already commented on it, but I have to add to it: I ALSO bought the VERY first gown I tried on...and, like you, after trying on other gowns I returned to the first one!

      You did such a fine job with zero judgment, and I LOVE the pictures!

      Thanks again for writing me a beautiful note about my hub...I changed the beginning...I truly don't want to sound judgmental...I am just so very disappointed in the morality going on in America...it just was not like that when I was growing up. Oh, I am sure it has been around for centuries, but now it just seems to be more publicized.

      I thank God for you and your wonderful friendship. Blessings, Sparklea :)

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Sparklea,

      Thank you so much for sharing that you bought the very first gown you tried on too! That is so amazing : ) Thank you so much for always leaving such kind comments.

      You were a most beautiful bride in your gorgeous gown.

      Oh, I loved your hub as you had written it and saw no judgments in it at all. I understand from where you are coming sweet friend. Yes, it has been around since the beginning of time, but so much more in our faces due to the Internet and such.

      I thank God for who you are and for your friendship too.

      Hugs,

      Faith Reaper

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Beautiful Faith, how inspiring. This is such a beautiful story. I hope you are still married to this guy, that you saved yourself for.

      Voted up across the board, (the funny part was you mean old Dad.)

      You are so precious.

      God Bless you and Hugs

      Shyron

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Shyron,

      So glad you found my story beautiful and inspiring. Yes, still married to "this guy" lol ... Guess, we will be until God takes us to our true home. We have pretty much been through everything together and we are still together.

      Yes, I always regret not telling my "mean old Dad" : ) ... THANK YOU for being a Dad who watched out for me, even though at the time, I had no clue that is what he was doing, just being a Dad. He was not a perfect Dad, but who is perfect. I cannot imagine who I may have wound up with if it were not for my Dad being a Dad, and God making sure I married who He meant for me to marry.

      You are so kind.

      God bless you too.

      (((Hugs)))

      Faith Reaper

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Came back to read again; do not remember other than the first picture so glad I did. You look so much like my best friend in high school in that last picture. So beautiful. I only had one really good picture of her and cannot find it anywhere. I think it is in an email somewhere so hope to find it one day!

      Oh and my dad did not allow me to date either! (But mom did) but most of my dating was at dances for high school friends my boyfriend played in the band for. He played; I danced. lol

      Up and shared again!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Jackie,

      So glad you came back for a second read here. Thank you for your kind words and I do hope you do find that photo of your best friend in high school. I feel like I found a best friend here on HubPages in you.

      Yes, those dances were fun, but not really considered a date. I don't think those poor boys even had a chance to even ask me out before my dad would run them off LOL ... I can laugh now, but I was very upset at the time and was not real happy with my dad back then, but it all worked out for the best.

      I can see you dancing up a storm. Having a boyfriend who played in the band was considered to be oh so cool!

      Thanks for not giving up on me here on HubPages LOL ... I promise to be back in the publishing business shortly, as I believe things are slowing down a bit for me now, finally!

      I appreciate the vote up and share again.

      Hugs

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      Neetu M 2 years ago from Pennsylvania, USA

      The culture I was raised in emphasized purity before marriage and only one marriage in the lifetime of a woman. Much has evolved since I was a little girl, and remarriages have become much more acceptable, however virginity is still strongly prized, in a first marriage. Most stories and tales of virtue referred to this ultimate purity as the mark of a "good" woman, one who would know self-restraint, self-sacrifice, the desire to serve wholeheartedly in the family she married into, accepting the circumstances she was placed in.

      While I do believe in "waiting" for the right person, I have journeyed through life enough to know that "purity" and "right" are both subjective and what may seem so perfect in the light that shines upon us in a given time or space, can falter and seem totally different in another. It is not the virtue of this purity that is important to me, it is the quality and meaningfulness of the relationship that makes every such intimacy pure.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hello wordswithlove,

      So nice to meet you, and I love your hubber name.

      Thank you so much for reading and sharing your perspective on purity.

      I remember being very young and making the decision to stay pure until marriage. It was something I felt strongly about at the time, and I am so glad I did choose to do so. However, my dad did play a huge role in just knowing who not to trust. Actually, I had made up my mind to not marry at a young age and I had all of these plans, but God had better plans for me.

      It is possible that if I had not married at the age of 19, it would have gotten much harder to not give into temptation.

      For me, it was a matter of having enough respect for myself and wanting my husband to know there were no others before him. I am now a Christian and so glad I stayed pure until marriage.

      I appreciate your insightful comments here.

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      Leslie A. Shields 2 years ago from Georgia

      Wonderful... wonderful.... wonderful! I wish our young people would realize what a beautiful thing sexual purity is. Not only from a godly standpoint, but also from an emotional and physical standpoint... God Bless you and thank you for the share....

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hello LeslieAdrienne,

      So nice to meet you. Yes, indeed ... it is oh so beautiful! I appreciate your enthusiastic comments and great points which add much to the subject of this hub. I do hope and pray that all young people would realize such.

      God bless you too.

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      Imtiaz Ahmed 2 years ago from Dhaka, Bangladesh

      Great writing! You must be very strong in every ways. Keeping yourself a virgin before marriage is a very hard and honest thing these days, which is also a very rare thing Faith. I am giving you up vote!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hello imtii,

      So nice to meet you. Thank you so much for stopping by to read this day. Yes, I do hope that many young people may read this and take away something from it in remaining pure until marriage. I was married at age 19, so very young to get married, and I know the older one gets, the harder it may become to not be tempted. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. It is also good to be mindful that when temptation comes our way, He will always provide a means of escape from such temptation.

      I never regretted this decision one minute.

      I appreciate your lovely comments and the vote up.

      Peace and blessings

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      mabelhenry 2 years ago from Harrisburlg, Pennsylvania

      Hi Faith Reaper. I dropped in to visit you seeing that you always drop in to hub a while with me. What a great story, this sounds like a great chapter to a novel on pristine living. This was the only hub so far that I could actually vote funny. On a serious note as this is a serious issue, I am glad you followed your values. This is a splendid hub. I will be back to visit you sooner than you think. You express yourself so practically and every day like. No you didn't miss out on a thing. Bless the Lord!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Mabelhenry,

      I am so glad you drop by my side of HP Town. Wow, thank you so much, maybe I could adapt it to a novel on pristine living, although it is non-fiction. Hahaha about the funny. My dad was certainly a "mean ole' dad" and I thank the Lord for that fact lol. Plus my poor husband to be was met with so much kidding to be marrying so young and all saying it will not last, but here we are going on 36 years of marriage on September 16th! So, it was God's plan no doubt.

      I am so blessed by your lovely comments especially about how I express myself. Thank you so much for that, for that means a great deal, please know.

      Yes, bless the Lord!

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      mabelhenry 2 years ago from Harrisburlg, Pennsylvania

      Hi Faith Reaper;

      Dad's are like that protective and stern. I am sure in retrospect you can find humor in it. You are welcome, but you really should pray about that book you have so much to share, the before and in between of 36 years. Wow! God continue to bless you and your family. The purity you share is a breath of fresh air and a fragrance to live. Young people, all who are single need to know it is alright to live with exclusive ideals. This is what good character does it produces a faith reaper. (Smile) Until our next hubisode, have a wonderfilled rest of the evening and Sunday.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Wow, thank you so much, Mabelhenry! You are a wonderful encourager and, yes, I just may think about the book idea. The reason I even shared all of this is to possibly help the younger generation understand how staying pure is a beautiful thing and to have great respect for one's body, so that when you do marry, there is no baggage brought into the marriage. No judgment on anyone. I can honestly say, I am so thankful I did so and do not have any regrets whatsoever. Well, I do have one, and that is I never told my Dad, "thank you" for running off those "other" boys. At the time, I did not like it one bit, but now I understand he was just being a Dad and I am so thankful for that, even though he was so very stern at times. Yes, I can laugh at the fact in remembering I was seriously thinking of becoming a nun, as I thought I was never going to be allowed to have a boyfriend anyway, so why not LOL.

      Thank you for saying that about it being a breath of fresh air and a fragrance to live, how beautiful.

      I hope the rest of your evening is lovely, as well as Sunday too.

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      Cynthia 2 years ago from Vancouver Island, Canada

      Dear Faith Reaper, You were, indeed, a sweet and beautiful bride and your story is inspiring. I was caught up in a different sort of life but managed to marry my love at 19, as well, and 44 years later we are still together, through Christ. Your references to your protective father brought up a memory that I cherish of my Dad. He wasn't 'stern' but he was protective. I remember going to a drive-in with a girlfriend. She had discovered that if you didn't have a car to watch the movie in, you could use one of the old jalopies of the owners that was parked there just for that purpose. Well, I guess I had neglected to tell my parents where I was gone (bad girl), but it was a small community. In the middle of the movie, Elvis opened his mouth and said "Would Cynthia ______, please come to concession booth?" It was both embarrassing and so sweet and I still chuckle about that today. God bless these caring dads! Thank you for your lovely story. Voted up and shared.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear techygran,

      I am so glad you have stopped by here to read. I appreciate your kind and most generous comments, plus sharing your story of your protective father. Yes, we can certainly look back and laugh, and then be thankful for such dads who were just trying to be a dad the best they knew how!

      God bless them all for sure. Thank you for the vote up and share.

      I hope your Sunday is lovely.

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      Joanna Chandler 2 years ago from On planet Earth

      My dearest Faith this was truly beautiful and worth the read. You looked so very pretty in your wedding dress . $600 was sure a lot back then not anymore but its still better in your country i mean cheaper to host one, once your not going on a designer bigshot wedding styling.

      in my country i guess to have a fine wedding nothing extravagant its like $30,000 or more things are expensive. You can get one cheaper but may look chabby.

      Your dad was right , many times we don't see it that way when we're young but men know themselves and how rotten they can be . That is why they prefer other men not mess with their daughters......

      I am also happy God kept you from temptation and your husband really loved you because he waited.

      I am sharing this ooh and i stole your photo in your dress you looked too sweet. Now a days i really do not know what they are making for wedding dresses, so vulgar and distasteful to walk into a church.

      Lol at your scanned envelope

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Jo (LadyFiddler),

      Aw, thank you for leaving such lovely comments here this day. My goodness, I cannot even imagine spending that much for a wedding, even today! I guess I am all for simple and sweet, myself. I know some even pay that much just for the dress. I do hope their marriage last forever lol ...

      Yes, thank goodness Dads know what all what most men have on their minds and I am grateful (now) that my Dad ran those others off. I wish I told him thank you before he died. Hopefully, he knows though.

      Yes, my hubby surely loved me and waited patiently and we are still together. As far as I know, he is not ready to trade me in for two 25 years old ... LOL

      I am glad you like my photo. In that one, it looks like my veil is about to fall off the top of my head though ... hee hee. My hair was so long then, way down to my waist. Yes, I agree, many of the wedding dresses of today are for sure eye-openers : )

      Hahaha ... yes, I thought I would throw that envelope of one of my love letters in for added color hee hee.

      I hope you are enjoying a peaceful Sunday

      God bless you and Hugs

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hey Jackie, This was simply beautiful and excellent advice for anyone looking Voted up to marry, perfect for couples period. Didn't know you had it in ya :-)

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Word55, it is Faith Reaper, but that is okay : ) Maybe it was Jackie who shared?

      Thank you for stopping by this day and I appreciate the vote up. I am glad you found it beautiful. I do hope many young people will heed such advice nowadays and wait.

      God bless

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      Joanna Chandler 2 years ago from On planet Earth

      Hello Faith careful how you speak about 25 year olds i am 26 yrs you hear me. Well i am even more delighted to know you two are still together so many marriages do not last especially the ones today. They study the ring and dress more than the wedding vows and commitments ahead. My wish is that God continue to keep you both together as long as you both shall live. What God joined together let no man put asunder. You needed to add the groom to this hub what's all the mystery about ? Lol!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hee hee, you are a young one! I hope that you find your hubby for life, the one with whom God will join you forever. Sadly, that seems to be the case, about not truly committing to the vows and worrying too much about the dress and rings. He is a shy one, as was I back then ... but no longer.

      Thank you for your beautiful wish, and at this point, as we have literally been through everything in this life together, I believe we will make it on until God calls us to our true home.

      Hugs

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hey Faith, yes, you and Jackie support each other so well that it is easy to trip up the names at times. You wrote a very great article. It fits you better :-) May God continue to bless you!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Word55,

      You are so kind to return. Yes, she and I are like sisters and do support each other's writing. I do love her dearly and this would fit her as well, as she was brought up to wait for marriage as well. I have tripped up many times myself.

      God bless you too.

      I hope you are having a lovely Sunday.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Jo (LadyFiddler),

      Oh, I do love that song by Tammy Wynette, "Stand by Your Man" too. I will check out that link but I do believe God has one for you too. HP does not like links in hubs and takes away points, but I will look at it.

      Thank you for sharing here.

      Hugs

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      Joanna Chandler 2 years ago from On planet Earth

      Oh sorry about that i was thinking so but could not remember you can delete the comment its no problem okay. Oh He does maybe but at the moment i cannot see beyond lol and i promise never to play games with my heart again.......so no deal ;)

      i am cracking up at word55 Jackie's comment soooo funny ha ha ha

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Well, all I know is that whatever God has planned for us, is always better than anything we can come up with for sure! Yes, Word is a bit confused this day with who is who and I get that way too, as Jackie and I share each other's hubs. Lol. Enjoy your Sunday evening. Time for dinner here. Hugs

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      Joanna Chandler 2 years ago from On planet Earth

      Lol its 7:28pm here dinner time to yes dear you enjoy your evening to.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Enjoy!

      Well, I see you published a video reciting poetry hub during dinner ... I am on my way.

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      Ibidii 2 years ago

      Very sweet story of your blessed dating, courtship, and marriage! The Lord has carried you through your trials as well. Thank you for the fan mail and I will add you as my Hub friend Faith.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Thank you so much, Ibidii, for stopping by to read. I appreciate your kind comments and for the follow. I am looking forward to reading more of your wonderful hubs.

      So nice to meet you and glad to always find a new friend!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      I enjoyed reading this sweet story again and looking at your photos. My family recently attended a wedding where the bride and groom (also relatives) had lived together for several years prior to marriage, and my teenage nephews and nieces were debating this very subject at the reception. Not an appropriate place to have that discussion but it was interesting to get young people's take on it.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Flourish,

      I appreciate you stopping by here again. You are certainly kind to do so! Oops, that may not be the best time to begin a discussion on that particular topic ...at the reception.

      My husband and I were just two young and dumb kids when we were married, but I am so glad I waited and we did not live together prior to marriage, now that I think about it after these 36 years of marriage LOL

      Maybe we were not so dumb after all ...

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      Sed-me 2 years ago from An undisclosed location.

      Good article Faith. I had the same experience. My dad was also very intimidating. My husband and I were best friends for years in high school until I realized one day that I didn't want to live without him. We married when I was only 17. I don't feel like I missed out on anything. I feel instead like I was protected... well... why am I telling you? You had the same story. What a beautiful bride you were, BTW. :)

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Beth (Sed-me),

      Thank you so much for stopping by to read on my side of HP Town. I appreciate you sharing about having the same experience and that over-protective intimidating dad ...thank goodness! How interesting we had the same story.

      You are so kind in your commenting.

      Blessings always

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      Sara Sarwar Riaz 2 years ago from Michigan, USA

      I loved reading this hub and your perspective. You describe your story beautifully with a nostalgic and yet content note. Such were the days of yore when people grew up under a veil of innocence and purity.

      May I say… your wedding pictures are absolutely beautiful !

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Sara, So nice to meet you. I am so glad you enjoyed reading this hub. I appreciate your generous and kind comments. Well, actually in reality those days were not days of innocence and purity, for all around me were all sorts of goings on. I just made the choice to remain pure until marriage and I am so glad I did. It did help being I was married at a young age, which I vowed I would not do, but a year later I was married lol. Never say never! But here we are 36 years later ...

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      Jill Moore 2 years ago

      What a beautiful hub, Faith. I'm pleased to have come across you and your lovely writing (and your beautiful wedding photos - I love looking at wedding photos!) My husband and I were a little older (we were both 23) but we waited too - and I'm so glad we did. I remember a fact of life talk that our youth group were given when I was a teenager. The speaker likened pre-marital sex to glue - they demonstrated sticking two different coloured cards together and then peeling them apart. Inevitably, a little bit of each card peeled off onto the other, damaging it. That image has always stuck with me.

      Oh - and I bought the first wedding dress I tried on too and it was on sale at an amazing price!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Jill,

      Oh, what a lovely visit from you this day! Thank you for sharing your story too ...what a blessing. God bless you both! That is one that would certainly stick in one's mind and great example too.

      I love that you wound up buying the first wedding dress you tried on and it was a great price too!

      Thank you so much for leaving such wonderful comments that add much to the topic of this hub. You are so kind.

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      deergha 2 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

      Dearest Faith....awesome hub for the gen next with the uplifting theme of faith...You look like an angel and God bless you always.

      Shared and voted up.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Deergha,

      You are always so kind in your commenting. I do believe it is an important topic, especially for young people and especially today when too many do not even consider remaining pure until marriage.

      I do not judge, but all I can say is that I am glad I waited for marriage and I have no regrets in this area.

      I appreciate the share and vote up.

      (((Hugs)))

      .

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hi Faith, as I've said before, it is a privilege to know of you. This hub tells of your uniqueness. You looked so beautiful in your wedding outfit. I'm sure that it was well worth the wait for your husband as well. You are a very good example to women. You need to tell your stories on a larger (world) platform. You are a gem to society. Your spiritual conviction has set you oh, so, free. Your dad was not mean. He was a real dad that knew better. He knew you would love and appreciate his sternness in the long haul. I hope to end up marrying a lady like you! :-)

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Word55,

      Aw, bless you heart for you are so kind to me. Of course, the dresses of today are much different, but that suited me back then. Yes, I am so glad to have waited until I was married and remained pure.

      If my dad were alive today, I would tell him thank you for being a good dad and running off the wrong ones for me ... but at the time, I sure did not like it LOL.

      I have often thought about a larger platform, so I am been praying. Whatever God's plan for my life, is what will be of course. He healed me of breast cancer in 2011, so I know I am still here for a reason.

      You lovely comment here has blessed me this evening.

      Oh, the right woman is out there for you, and I though you had already found her a while back. But, if not, then do not give up hope and patiently wait for the right one, for it is not worth marrying the wrong one.

      God bless you.

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      stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      Faith this is a wonderful hub. I judge no one but did the same as you did, and married at 19 and he was my first love. I even had the vega, mine was canary yellow. I did not have the dad, but my mother did a good job. Bless you, Stella

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      Dana Tate 2 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Faith. I would have given anything to have a mean old dad. I made many mistakes looking for love because I was never told or never felt special. It wasn't until I found Christ that I learned myself worth. Today I try to talk to women about self value. Many women are broken and bitter because they did not feel cherished as a child and became victims of anyone who made them feel special.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Stella,

      I apologize for missing your lovely comment from three days ago! Oh, I am so happy you shared your story here. Wow, the similarities are amazing, especially the Vega LOL. I am glad you were blessed with a mother who did a good job. She sure does have a lovely daughter in you.

      Bless you too.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dana,

      I appreciate you sharing your story here, and what an amazing one it is. His love knows no bounds. Yes, we are new and beautiful creatures in Christ. The old has passed away!

      Oh, what a lovely ministry you have going there in helping those women who are dealing with low self value. You are fulfilling your God-given purpose in this life, it seems.

      I am blessed by your visit here this day. I appreciate you sharing your valuable insight here with all.

      Hugs, peace and much love to you

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      Angela Joseph 22 months ago from Florida

      What a beautiful bride and what a beautiful story! It's warm, it's personal and it's inspiring. I'm glad I happened to stumble on this after all this time, and I wish every young girl could read this before she makes a mistake. Voted up and sharing.

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      Faith Reaper 22 months ago from southern USA

      Hi Angela,

      I am glad you stumbled on this one too. Thank you for your kind comments. I am blessed to have made that decision so long ago that I do not regret one bit after 37 years of marriage. I do hope it helps in some way to get young people thinking about their choices which truly does impact their lives forever, but God can make all things new.

      I appreciate the vote up and share.

      God bless you, lovely lady

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      Patricia Scott 22 months ago from sunny Florida

      just stopping by to say Congrats and to send hugs and all to you for the hubbie award!!!

      Angels are on the way to you today ps

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      Nell Rose 22 months ago from England

      Hi Faith, you are amazing, and what a great testament to marriage! forgot to say, how beautiful you were too! lol!

      And once again, Congrats on the hubbie award!

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      Faith Reaper 22 months ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Friend, PS,

      I always love it when you stop by to visit! You are so kind, and I need to get busy writing to deserve such an award ...

      Hugs and love heading your way on the wings of Angels

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      Faith Reaper 22 months ago from southern USA

      Hi Nell,

      Wow, thank you so much for the amazing ...and you are certainly one amazing woman winning two Hubbies this year! Congrats to you too on both, Most Likely to Go Viral and Most Interesting Hub, both well-deserved. We will one day say, "We knew her when." Don't forget about us when that happens : ) ...

      You are so kind. The styles of the wedding dresses back in the day are far different from today LOL ...

      Congrats to you too!

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      Nell Rose 22 months ago from England

      Thanks Faith, I doubt if I will be famous one day but you never know LOL! (I wish)

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      Faith Reaper 22 months ago from southern USA

      Yes, you never truly know what the future holds. I am like you in that I've never won anything in my life except on HubPages, so it is a special thing to me, especially being it was awarded by my peers.

      Well, I did win a chocolate cake in a cake walk on Halloween in Kindergarten LOL. I remember is was good.

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      Joseph De Cross 22 months ago

      CONGRATS Faith Reaper!! Another Hubbie Award!!

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago from southern USA

      Joseph!

      What a wonderful surprise and delight to have you stop by here this day! I pray you have been well and life is good.

      You are a such a sweetheart to take time out to stop in to congratulate me. Yes, I am humbled and stunned really to be voted three years in a row. It means so much that one's peers have actually thought enough to vote for me again. That means I need to get busy writing again to deserve it!

      God bless you. In His Love Always

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      Paula 21 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Theresa........What a gorgeous Bride! Your photo is the epitome of "Pretty, Precious & Pure." I must say that I'm impressed that a young woman in her teens, making a decision and commitment & holding true to it, is something to be proud of.

      The state of declining morality in terms of today's young adults should be of great concern to us all. I don't stick my head in the sand, but it's hard to see the path so many take.

      Oh dear....I'm being so serious! Let me tell you about a conversation my Card Club Lady friends & I had. We talked about this very thing. We agreed we were all thankful our children were happily married & had wonderful families. None of us would want to raise kids in the atmosphere of today! My good friend Margo asked, "I wonder if there is such a thing as a VIRGIN anymore?" I said, "Of course there is!!" They all looked at me in anticipation of my answer.... I said, "I think today a Virgin is an ugly 12 year old!".....They threw peanuts at me Theresa! And these are my FRIENDS!

      I guess it's obvious i just like to make people laugh.......Peace, Paula

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago from southern USA

      Hi Paula,

      What a great comment you have left here this day! You are certainly deserving of winning the Best Commenter Hubbie. Congrats to you. The serious half of your comment adds much to the subject of this hub. The declining morality of today's generation is concerning. I don't judge anyone and I know there is so much peer pressure today and then with all that is shown on primetime tv and all that is in our face online, there is no wonder! However, I do recall great peer pressure back in the day too. After seeing so many of my friends becoming pregnant at such a young age out of wedlock, I just told myself that is something I did not want and stuck to my guns on. It helped that I was terribly shy back in the day. Plus my mean ole dad who literally ran off the ones he just knew what their sole intentions were then. Woo, I remember hating him at the time, but now wish I had told him thank you for just being a dad watching out for his daughter.

      Now, to address the humorous side of our comment ...LOL ...Time for some new friends ...no, no. I, too, am thankful mine are grown, but even my very own children had the nerve : ) to think my choice to not have premarital sex was unbelievable and medieval LOL. They just could not wrap their minds around that thought ...However, now I am concerned about my grandchildren growing up in this whacky world of anything and everything goes! I think a lot of it depends on them being taught self respect for their bodies at a very young age and choosing boyfriends who respect them too ...easier said than done I know. Who am I kidding if good ole dad didn't run off that new James Dean boy who moved to our neighborhood, this hub may never have been written. Plus, I shudder to think if my hubby goes on to Glory before I do, I would have no clue what to do in today's world ...get more cats? Hahaha plus he better not trade me in for two 25 year olds either.

      Again, thank you for the smiles.

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      Paula 21 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      I like the suggestion for more cats! Mine bring love & laughter to my days, we don't argue, they're very independent and they inspire me to be patient!

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago from southern USA

      Well, there you go! They certainly do all of that and then some. Puurfect ...darlin'.

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      Charito Maranan-Montecillo 21 months ago from Manila, Philippines

      Hello, Theresa! I just wanted to say that I ADMIRE YOU! You are a rare case.

      These days, most young women have had sex - or are already pregnant! - before walking down the aisle.

      You DEFINITELY chose the right thing, my dear, and I hope that many single women (and even men) learn from you. (You are their role model, indeed!)

      Thanks for writing about the value of purity and chastity before marriage. You and your hubby will be blessed, I assure you. Hope you have kids soon!

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      Paula 21 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      You know, in ALL somberness.....let's take a good look around us. See what the youth (all of us) are exposed to and bombarded with please.

      TRY, if you will, to find something, anything...that does not refer to, involve, promote or glamorize $EX.

      Parents have little help, little hope to make a GOOD & proper impression upon their kids. We're fighting an uphill battle. Movies, Magazines, TV (!!) even humorous family sitcoms must introduce something racy, in every episode. The lyrics of songs...advertising uses $EXUALITY to sell, (geared toward the young.)

      Even 2 & 3 decades ago, although it is much worse now, I remember having to be "creative" and persistent to simply pass on some important, moral advice to my boys. Then I kept my fingers crossed, turned them over to God, and just remained vigilant. Not much more we can do, Mom & Dad.

      There's an entire widespread attitude & out-of-control epidemic in the pathway of our efforts.

      We don't have to welcome this and we shouldn't. Other than that, it's a whole lot of faith that things will turn around, little by little, until we resemble a sane, civil & safe society............Peace, Paula

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago from southern USA

      Hello Charito,

      So nice to meet you and I appreciate the follow. Oh, yes, my hubby and I have been blessed in our marriage of 37 years now, and with two children, a daughter and a son. We had our daughter five years after being married, and then five years later, we had our son. Our son has blessed us with three precious grandchildren and one more on the way!

      I have never regretted my decision of long ago to remain pure until marriage. It was my choice, as it is all other's choice that only you and you alone can make. Even back then, there was a lot going on, and so much more is in our faces. I pray the youth of today value their bodies and respect themselves enough to wait.

      Thank you for reading and leaving wonderful comment.

      God bless you.

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago from southern USA

      Woo, you know it, dear Paula,

      All of us are indeed inundated with all sorts of immorality right in our faces in all mediums. We can't very well close off our children from the world and live in a bubble ... You did the only thing you could do and turn them over to God and try to impart your wisdom as a mother, because we want only the best for our children in this life of course.

      You used the right word here, epidemic ...out of control epidemic!

      Yes, we must never just give up and continue in that strong faith for the return of a civilized society ... Bravo, Best Commenter Hubbie Award winner, and good reason that is the case, as is shown here in your awesome comments.

      Let's keep fighting that good fight of faith.

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      Missy Smith 21 months ago from Florida

      Hey Faith, I'm so glad I picked this story today. It made me smile. You are a beauty, back then and today! Those pictures are gorgeous of you.

      Your story reminds me of my mom and dad a little. My dad was in the Air Force, and he visited my mom's town with his Air Force buddy, which was one of my mom's best friends. He took a look at my mom in hair curlers and all, and told his buddy that he was going to marry her.

      My mom's dad was the nicest man alive, and I just want to say the best Papa in the world, but he was strict when it came to his children and dating. Even so, they managed two whole dates before getting married in a house wedding. My mom's dress was made by a friend of hers. My mom's family wasn't wealthy either. Mom was 17, and my dad was 22 or 23. I can't quite remember, but they have been married 47 years now, I believe. :)

      My mom also worked as a cashier. I think she even got robbed once when they were stationed in Charleston, South Carolina.

      Life has changed so much now, and I hope my daughter stays pure until she meets the right one. I know she will if she gets married fairly early. However, with how the times are now; I fear she will be a single woman for a while. Although, she says she would rather concentrate on a career first anyway. She knows what she wants. lol...

      Thanks for sharing this story with us, I smiled all the way through it! :):):)

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago from southern USA

      Hi Missy,

      Oh, you are too generous in your commenting, and I'm so glad : ) ... that you chose this particular hub to read this very day, as it is our 37th Wedding Anniversary today! Haha Wow, where has the time gone ...

      Yes, our story certainly does sound exactly like your wonderful parent's story of being married at such a young age and staying together through it all. I will confess, it has not always been lovely in any sense of the word, but we persevered through the good, bad and the most ugly no doubt and I am glad we did not throw in the towel as they say. It is what builds a marriage to be a strong marriage. I, too, think it is far too easy to get a divorce these days and couples will just inevitably say, well, something is greener on the other side, when in reality, it is not! Sadly, most of our children's friends have been divorced and we were sort of an oddity that we are still married! The world thinks of it as odd LOL ... when that is far from the truth.

      I was only a cashier for less than a couple of months before getting married and moving to Florida where my husband was stationed in the Air Force. Oh, I had plans to travel the world and do all sorts of stuff and even told my boyfriend/future husband to be, that I was not in the least bit interested in getting married! LOL ...but God had other plans. We waited five years before having a daughter and then another five years and had our son. Speaking of son, he did the untraditional route in blessing us with a granddaughter when he was just 19 years old and making me a grandmother in my 40s! ...Well, I can't even imagine this life without all of my precious grandchildren and if a child is born into this world, then they are certainly intended to be in this world by the grace of God no matter how they arrived! He blessed me with two more and one more on the way LOL. He is married now and 27! Time sure flies. His sister, who is five years older than he, is still holding out, and I told her that is just fine, as God's perfect timing will allow.

      I do hope your daughter does wait until she is married, as I can truly attest it is worth it. As I stated in my hub here, I do not judge anyone else's choices, but I am glad for me that I made the choice I did way back when.

      I smiled at your wonderful comments here too.

      Hugs and blessings to you and yours always

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      Missy Smith 21 months ago from Florida

      Oh wow! I'm so glad I commented on this on the day of your anniversary. Happy Belated anniversary! Since I should have said that yesterday! :)

      Sounds like you have a great life and a wonderful family. So many memories I'm sure. :)

      I'm so glad my comments made you smile. I'm smiling knowing they did. :)

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago from southern USA

      Hi Missy, me too : ) ...that was great timing for sure. Thank you. Well, you would not have known. I meant to say that my children's friend's parents were all divorced so we were the odd parents out. Kind of sad for them all. Well, as I know all too well, marriage is not always blissful : ). I've always had a career through our entire marriage and still to this day. I am a paralegal. I probably would have stayed home while my children were young but they turned out good LOL. I wish I had kept a lot of my haiku poetry about my grands but I wound up removing them. They were such a joy to write and were well received ...oh well. Thank you for returning here and the well wishes. Peace and blessings

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      suraj punjabi 12 months ago from jakarta

      I just love the way you writr. I can really feel that you love your husband as I can see the excitement and quick paced prose when you are writing abt him and hw u met him. You are definitely a rare gem. Hard to find someone like you these days.

      I have to salute your dad. With the way the youths are nowadays, he managed to stick to his beliefs whether ppl might call him backwards or old fashion he did what is right whether it was deemed unpopular. That is something I really admire.

      I noticed that you marriee very early, 19, which is early even by Indian standards. Any advantages there? Any regrets that maybe you should have married a bit later? Have you ever written a hub on this subject?

      Great hub, no wonder you got a hubbie award and a great hubbie as well. LOL!

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      Faith Reaper 12 months ago from southern USA

      Hello suraj punjabi,

      Thank you so much for reading and leaving such lovely comments. You are so kind. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts about my writing.

      Yes, my dad was doing his job in protecting his daughter's innocence and I am grateful for that now, but maybe not so much back in the day. I did marry quite young and what is ironic I had in my mind much different plans as I may have shared in this hub. I have not written a hub on the aspect of "what if" ... for I already know I'm living as God had planned for me and know He is not finished with me yet. I am excited to see what else He has in store for me. His plans for us are always much better than anything we could ever dream up.

      I am so humbled that anyone would want to read what I write and so appreciate all the amazing writers and friends I have met in this wonderful community. Receiving a Hubbie award is extra special because it is fellow writers who vote. It's like the People's Choice Award LOL. So, I am blown away that my peers voted for me three years in a row.

      I so enjoyed your visit and it is so nice to meet you.

      Peace and blessings

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      Tijani Achamlal 11 months ago from Morocco

      Hey dear friend,

      Just dropped in to say hello

      How are you doing? long time,no see :)

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      Faith Reaper 11 months ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Tijani!

      I'm so happy you dropped in to say hello.

      I hope you are well, I am well ...just a busy woman these days as always.

      I do need to get over to your side of HP Town to see what's been up with you.

      Blessings

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      Frank Atanacio 9 months ago from Shelton

      what a sunshine of a bride.. or moonshine during the evening.. bless you Faith...::

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      Faith Reaper 9 months ago from southern USA

      Aw, that is too sweet ...sun/moon shine. I love it, but not the kind you drink.

      Thank you for shining your light here on this page to brighten up my night, dear Frank.

      You're the best late night follower : )

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