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Using positive reinforcement to control your children

Updated on September 2, 2011

How to gain control of your children

Positive reinforement is the key to controlling our kids

All parents want their kids to be well behaved little angels that respond to what they say and understand what is best. Unfortunatley this simply wont happen through the course of nature. Children want to be care free and have no rules which is great for them but no parent wants to be on their knee's every 2 seconds cleaning paint or food out of that expensive new carpet.

Establishing the positive reinforcement technique is fare easier the younger the child is establishing the control is easier and your child will begin to take your wisdom and grow responsibly into a successful adult. The simple fact is positive reinforcemtn through a childs life is going to make them understand the fundementals of life such as you must be respectful to get what you want and self control and obedience will get you treats.

The Positive reinforcement technique

This is the most simple technique you will ever learn through parenting and the most positive results are guarenteed. All you need to do is establish a connection with your child and gradually build the understanding that when they do something right they get a treat. Telling them this is fine however any negative attitude towards the deal with the child will break any understand or obideince they will begin to build towards you. The idea is your child wants something you have and they arn't going to get it untill they turn from that little demon into an angel.

Positive reinforcement doesn't suddenly work over night you need to graspe the childs mind into thinking if i do what I am told I will get a treat. The first week or so may be a little unstable, you'll fiind your child demanding treats or most of all once they have their treat they become disobedient. All you need to do is give a little understanding on the issue " if your nasty you wont get anymore treats". Never give into your disiplined parenting, your child will kick, cry and scream waiting for you to give in so don't show them any signs of cracking, the second you give in they are in control and the ladder is then twice as harder to climb to the top.

Positive reinforcement is a technique that originated from the goverment doing testing on rats in mazes back in the 1960's. Further tests were taken into the human sector and they fount that it is easy to control dumb subjects with simple objects.

Be the happy family you want to be


Everybody should be happy within a month, your child/children should be obediant and happily learning and following you which will grow more affection to you as the months pass. Most of all you should be happy, we all want perfect children and although the impossible star is always what we reach for you will find that positive reinforcement will enfore a positive fram of mind for the rest of your childs life.


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      Troyangeluk 4 years ago from UK

      Great comment :) all I mean't with treat is something positive like a hug or take them to the movies, bowling etc.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      Positive reinforcement is recommended, but instead of treats, I would recommend giving them positive attention in return, praise, and hugs, etc. We don't want to rot their teeth or make them fat, or get them started on bad habits.

      Most children desperately want the attention and approval of their parents and caregivers. They will happily misbehave if that will get them what they want, so make sure they're getting what they want only when they do what is expected of them.

      Be consistent. If you give in even once they will know that if they try long enough you will give in again.

      Voted up & useful!

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      Troyangeluk 5 years ago from UK

      thanks for the comments :) yeah very hard to do but if done right can develop an amazing individual.

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      Madeleine Salin 5 years ago from Finland

      This is very hard to do in real life. I'm trying every day. I hope it's going to work.

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      Sasha Kim 5 years ago

      Wonderful explanation of positive reinforcement ^_^ I love this technique! Voting your hub up!

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      Fellow Mumbaite 6 years ago from India

      Interesting article. Find your Positive Reinforcement Technique quite something.