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What Makes Us Unique
This is an account on the true nature of a man and the life that is set for him before he reaches his adulthood. Contrary to popular belief, people don’t change. There is only one way every person’s brain is automated to behave, and there is nothing we can do to modify it.
All these stories of love, faith, hope and all other kinds of feelings that can alter a person are only partly true. They can only guide a person to change the gear or lane of his life, to put it at top speed or to move at a turtle’s pace, to go with the rest of the traffic or to move into an oncoming traffic lane, but in no way will it put the car in reverse and turn the other way around. The most we can expect is a turn to the left or the right at the precise junction. But then, are we really ready to go where it will lead us to?
What all this means it that you should never tell a businessman to rule a country, because he will sell it to the highest bidder. You should never believe that a cold-blooded murderer will become a nice family man and have a cup of coffee with you under the warm sunshine in the patio, because he will hit you in the head with the cup and laugh over your dying body.
Do not free a camel of the burden of his hump; you may be freeing him from being a camel.
- G.K. Chesterton
No matter what we do, people don’t change. It is the nature that they are born with. The most you can expect out of them a change in the path they drive in. To shed their nature is to leave what makes them themselves. It takes the humanity out of them. A businessman can be someone who runs a famous footwear company or be someone who supplies weapons for all the wrong purposes. It doesn’t matter what he sells, he is still a businessman, and it’s still his business. If you are good at shooting ducks, you might be just as well a sniper. A leader can be someone who leads a country or leads a deadly mafia. It’s all the same. But no one does it the same. The leader of a mafia can lead a country just as well as the president of the said country can. But his way of leading will be different, and that is what brings change. It only depends on what you shoot, what you lead and what you sell. All we can do is change that particular detail, the path we go on, and there is very limited time to change it.
Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can offer with the cumulative force of a whole life's cultivation, but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous, half possession.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
The point of this entire thing is that people are unique, and that makes them very hard to comprehend. If change was that easy, then we’d all be the same John and Jane Doe. There would be 7 billion others exactly like you, but there aren’t, and there never will be. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, even if we try to be someone else, all we’ll achieve is becoming a half copy of what we thought they are. It takes years to understand a single unique person. And double of that to try and shed what we are and try to become half of what that person was. And then even in the end, we won’t succeed. That’s exactly what makes us irreplaceable. It’s our inherent resistance leave what we are and change into something else entirely. It’s what makes us special and unique. It makes us who we are, and anyone who thinks otherwise will only be disappointed at the end.